Maybe what I mean is when he gets home all he wants to do is go to sleep or watch tv. That is all good since I know he just got off work and wants to relax. But it would be nice to go and do something together as a family. Is there any activities that we can do when he gets home rather than watch tv or go to sleep. I was just curious.
2006-06-29 05:55:10 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If your boyfriend is interested in a real relationship with you and building a family with you then it wouldn't matter how tired he is after work, he would want to do stuff with the two of you. There is more to a relationship than just bringing home the bacon. First off, he obviously has to eat so there is an opportunity there to go out and do something in terms of getting food, trying new places out to eat, or even having a picnic in the park together. You should also watch for local events that you can do together as a family. Free concerts in the park, kids events, etc... Is there a hobby like cars or something he enjoys so that maybe you can go to car shows or something. And, last but not least is always the simple walk around the neighborhood. A chance to hold hands, talk, and see the sights.
2006-06-29 06:09:08 · answer #1 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a family game night, Take a drive out in the country, Go for a walk together with or with out the child. Ask him about work, and how his day was. Set some chores for him to do, when he gets home from work.
If you want the evening alone, just for you two sometimes. Then make a romantic dinner, candlelights, and music. Following by the playing footies at the table. Anything to keep him going. You can finish the rest from there.
If you want him to spend time with the child. Then fix a game time up for them. Take the child to the zoo, thats is iif it's still open when he gets home. Spend some time in the park, play along side of him/her. Basically, to catch up what going on within his/her world.
2006-06-29 13:10:07 · answer #2 · answered by kygl28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Sweetie - first of all your on the right track by using the internet to help you. What I would do is maybe have a nice dinner - dress sexy and maybe a bubble bath together (careful on making more babies just yet ;-). Since he needs to relax a nice massage or maybe a walk after dinner or get a movie that would help all this to happen - you know what I mean ;-) But your on the right track - keep asking till you get the answers you need. You need to find something for yourself to do besides stay at home all day.
That way you'll have more to talk about. If I can help in anyway please email me. Good Luck Honey - make it work.
2006-06-29 13:08:08 · answer #3 · answered by Gnostic 1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about you take the kids to meet him for lunch every once in a while. It would be nice for them to have an outing with dad and you would get to see him more also.
I understand how he feels with the working all day and wanting to relax at night. How about dedicating weekends to family time or having 1 night a week/month for just the two of you to do whatever you want
2006-06-29 13:00:08 · answer #4 · answered by brookecapulet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know how important his attention is, both to you and your child.
Suggest, as another poster said, a family night with no TV. Make a nice picnic dinner and go to a park, river bank, etc. and just play, relax and enjoy each other.
Also, not being judgemental here....think about getting married and making your child legitimate?
2006-06-29 16:15:25 · answer #5 · answered by DJ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe you should go on a family bike ride, go get an ice cream cone, or have him go outside and play with your child while you clean or make supper (time to yourself for a minute)then eat together and enjoy the rest of the evening.
2006-06-29 13:01:23 · answer #6 · answered by Illinoismom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i would pick a day during the week that you both agree on and make that family night. this way you guy will know all day that he will be going out again after he gets home, and this might keep him in a different frame of mind so he will not get into the sleep mode during the last few hours of work and when he gets home. also make sure you guys are ready to go as soon as possible after he gets home and freshens up and stuff. i know when i get home it is almost impossible to get me back up and out if i don't know about it ahead of time. leaving as early as possible allows you to get home early too so your poor tired guy can still get a good nights sleep. don't expect him to do this everynight. maybe you can also go out on the weekends or save that for just you and him time and have family or friends babysit.
when it is just you and him make sure you dress up like you would for a first date, even if he doesn't, and treat him like your irristable king and then whe you get home get out the sexy nighty!
treat your man like a king and he will inturn treat you like a queen and will be more receptive to whatever you want during the week.
remember it is so easy to fall into a routine, good or bad, so it may take time to change the routine. just because he falls asleep when he gets home doesn't mean he doesn't love you or want to spend time with you. someone has to take the initiative why not you.
p.s. don't harp or nag him with, "you never this and you never that", if you have to say something try, "honey i know you must be tired from working so hard all day, would you mind if we went out for dinner tonight?" or suggest it for the next night so knows what to expect after he gets home. i feel musch better and am more receptive when i know what to expect.(i am a woman)
if i'm nagged by my man my back gets up and no one gets anything from me. if i know what is planned i think about it all day and i'm in that frame of mind when i get home, and when mom is happy everyones happy right? another point is contrary to popular womens beliefs men cannot read our minds as much as would would like them to. they just simple think differently to us.
he's done what he feels he is supposed to by going to work nd bringing home the bacon. now he feels that it is his rest time. men are vey basic thinkers. we need to get basic to and take the initiative and suggest the things we want otherwise men are sometime oblivious.(no offense guys) just tell him what you want, in a respectful way, and dont assume because he doesn't suggest it that he doewn't want to. good luck and have fun.
2006-06-29 13:09:34 · answer #7 · answered by kaylamay64 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
discuss it with him. be compassionate and mention about his strains and stress at work. then, softly say that it would be very nice if he can afford some time for u and the child
2006-06-29 13:07:28 · answer #8 · answered by midas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his job puts all the bread on your table, if he has to work overtime, just accept it, it may not last forever, so keep your chin up
2006-06-29 13:08:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋