Me and my boyfriend have been together for a little over 3 years and he's really nice. About a month ago I started cheating on him with a guy from Russia that is leaving in December. I can't decide who to stay with. Either way I choose it's going to be hard and I'm going to have to make a very hard choice. I care about both of them very much. I feel like my boyfriend loves me but I love someone else and everytime I talk to my boyfriend or tell him I love him I'm not thinking of him. Please any help?
2006-06-29 05:53:27 · 13 answers · asked by dixiecup246 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is my first time cheating on anyone and I feel really bad but we just had this connection I can't explain. He also knows I have a boyfriend so I never lied to him about that I told him when we first met.
2006-06-29 06:03:06 · update #1
no magic words here you have to go with your heart. do not play with this mans emotions any longer. the longer you make him feel he is your man the harder it will be for him.
I wont hound you for not taking the time to get to know someone before your ready and surly you were not ready or you would not have been looking for something else.
best of luck
2006-06-29 05:59:24 · answer #1 · answered by Savage 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You're cheating on both of them. How long have you known the guy from Russia? There was obviously something missing in your relationship for you to cheat. Maybe because you've been together for long, the relationship has become a habit. Take time out and decide who you want or you'll end up hurting both.
2006-06-29 12:59:30 · answer #2 · answered by Ms Bleu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an obvious answer that you already know. YOU ARE NOT IN LOVE WITH YOUR BOYFRIEND AND YOU SHOULD BE HONEST WITH HIM AND TELL HIM. Before you decided to cheat you should have stopped thought about what you were doing. I feel terrible for your boyfriend. He probably really loves you. When you are in a relationship you have a responsibility to that person but it is obvious that you can not handle that responsibility. At least do the right thing.
2006-06-29 13:01:34 · answer #3 · answered by STEVE-0 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not be with either one. You said you don't love your boyfriend, so that's obvious. You shouldn't go with the other guy, because what's going to stop you from cheating on him? Your relationship based itself on dishonesty and deception, and that will never last.
2006-06-29 12:58:27 · answer #4 · answered by Dave S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's an awful jam. Be kind of interesting if they both dump you once they find out. I don't know what you do, but don't wait until December because the longer this goes on, the harder this will get for everyone involved.
2006-06-29 12:58:17 · answer #5 · answered by littlehincks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't love him why stay with him.....just so you don't break his heart. The dating scene is to find someone you are compatible with not string along some guy just because you are afraid to face difficult dicisions. Just move on or make it clear that you intend to see other people.
2006-06-29 12:58:28 · answer #6 · answered by b-in-oc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your boyfriend you cheated on him, and can't decide who to go with, that should solve you problem
2006-06-29 12:56:43 · answer #7 · answered by D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of him, go to russia...... he wont ever trust you if you stay together and tell him, and if you stay together and dont tell him, then you will never trust him always thinking that he might be cheating............so do whats best for all and just dump him
2006-06-29 12:57:52 · answer #8 · answered by smalltd28 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would to save yourself and your boyfriends heart, break up with him. It will crush him and he will be hurt but, it needs to be done. It will be the best for him and you since you seem to not have the same feelings for him anymore.
2006-06-29 12:57:51 · answer #9 · answered by Jerr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WTF?!! Well, the only honorable things to do are- A) Tell him, stop cheating, and pray to god he will forgive you, or B) Break it off with him before you go around cheating with guys from foreign countries. It's not nice to cheat, dear.
2006-06-29 12:56:53 · answer #10 · answered by Flirty Uncommitted 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋