My fiancee's father grabbed my rearend when my fiancee wasnt around, his father knew it made me extremely uncomfortable because i glared at him and walked away......do i tell my fiancee? He absolutely idoizes his father, but does not approve of his womanizing ways and tells him about it.....but do i let him know that his own father has tried to put the moves on me?
2006-06-29 05:47:13 · 15 answers · asked by Shana H 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No...don't tell the fiancee'....tell the Dad! When you catch him alone one day, take him aside and tell him this:
"...if you EVER lay another hand on me, I'll tell your wife and your son and you can expect me to fall in the floor screaming you tried to rape me...I mean it, keep your hands to yourself or you will be sorry.." then, if he does do something out of line again, you scream and fall on the floor like he pushed you. That will keep him in line, believe me. If you don't stand up to him, he'll never stop.
2006-06-29 05:52:33 · answer #1 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 12⤊ 1⤋
You need to talk with your fiance and be honest. If you leave this go it could evolve into a bigger problem down the road for you. You don't want his father to think that he can treat you this way. You are marrying into this family and need to feel comfortable around them. Even though your fiance will be upset it is important that he knows what his father did. He should not be surprised as he already knows how his father is. But either way, boundries need to be set. He will be your father in law soon and should act accordingly!
2006-06-29 13:32:57 · answer #2 · answered by red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let him know because if you don't tell him then your fiancee's father may not stop...and then at least your fiancee knows about it. He may be able to be there for you and help you deal with it and handle the situation and work together to get his father to stop bothering you.
2006-06-29 12:53:15 · answer #3 · answered by Jerr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your fiancee deserves to know. You need to make sure you tell him at a time that is calm, so that it doesn't come out sounding spiteful in anyway. I'd just tell him, "your father did something that made me uncomfortable... and it was "this thing"... could you please stay closer to my side when we are in his company so that I won't have to worry about this again?" he should take that well, since you aren't just "tattling" but looking to him for his help... good luck
2006-06-29 12:51:07 · answer #4 · answered by Andi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes! tell your fiancee about it you dont want to marry a man whos father is tormenting you and acting like a teenager. just bring it up to him in a calm way . like say " [fiancee's name] i'm not really comfortable with the fact that your father is grabbing me" and then once he asks what your saying explain it to him.
2006-06-29 12:53:25 · answer #5 · answered by lalaloveeeyou_x33 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you want to be doomed to a life of extreme discomfort then, Yes tell him. He deserves to know. I'm sure he knows how to handle it properly, he knows this man inside and out. Do you think that he'll believe you? From what you've said I believe that he would be supportive of you. Good luck.
2006-06-29 12:53:57 · answer #6 · answered by jusb4dawn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, right away. It is probably harmless, but it needs to be nipped in the bud. Then he can talk to his dad about it not looking right or whatever. Good Luck
2006-06-29 12:51:50 · answer #7 · answered by H R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk with the father, if he understands it wont go anywhere he probably will quit and save you and your man some grief
2006-06-29 12:49:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothin' wrong w/ the old man wantin' to get a slice!!!!
Mr Happy
:o)
2006-06-29 12:49:24 · answer #9 · answered by hagtagg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes.
be prepared for some drama, but it's better out in the open.
2006-06-29 12:49:53 · answer #10 · answered by leadbelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋