Ok here it is I have a freind well, accually he used to be a freind. Anyway for about a year I've relly noticed he can be really annoying and the problem is he is in virtually everything I'm in. He gose to the same church, same school and we are in the same classes I'm trying to be a good Christan about it but its hard an I think it will be too long for me to wait until College to be rid of him so what do I do? I don't want to become enamies I just want to know a way to deal with him like a good Christan so please help!
2006-06-29 05:40:29 · 9 answers · asked by darthtoasteroven 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
If he annoys you, the problem is in you. Deal with it. As a former friend, you should at least treat him with civility. Use "politeness" - do not backbite and gossip. Do not attempt to change his life for your convenience. That is not nice, much less "Christian."
Deal with him as though he were a mildly amusing stranger. Evidently (since you used to be friends) you once found something attractive about his personality.
2006-06-29 05:45:49 · answer #1 · answered by Grendle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the most difficult lessions Christians must learn is to "speak the truth in love" (Eph. 4:15) to our brothers and sisters. This means one must set aside all condemnatory words and speak to the person in the way we would want to be spoken to in the same situation.
Ask yourself: if the situation were reversed, how would you want your friend to say these things to you? The answer will lead you so you may speak truthfully and lovingly to this person.
Peace and love in Jesus.
2006-06-29 12:48:55 · answer #2 · answered by Suzanne: YPA 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is actually a "back handed compliment" of sorts. he wants to be just like you! I have 3 kids myself and I have seen my children's friends doing this same thing. I know how frustrating it is to have a "shadow".. but hang in there and be patient (remember God is long suffering, and we should be too) and I think he will eventually find his own path to walk, instead of following you.
2006-06-29 12:53:08 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Poetic1♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have gotten lots of good advice so far, especially from Suzanne. But for anyone to be able to help you with exactly what to do, we would have to know what he does that bothers you!
2006-06-29 12:56:21 · answer #4 · answered by startwinkle05 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, Solomon: 'he who forgets a wrong-doing promotes friendship'.
Join with him where-ever poss and ignore the rest.
2006-06-29 12:50:12 · answer #5 · answered by smile4763 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't stated what the problem is, So how can I or anyone else help you in finding a solution?
2006-06-29 12:44:33 · answer #6 · answered by silentdeathfromtheshadow1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with him and have a chat about boundaries.
That is what an adult would do. Christianity has nothing to do with it.
2006-06-29 12:46:06 · answer #7 · answered by Real Friend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore him or just come straight out and tell him thats buggin you. but not in a mean way unless you tell him ur gonna quit to see if he does but u actually don't.
2006-06-29 12:45:26 · answer #8 · answered by crazy_pr_baby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find him a girlfriend to play with.
2006-06-29 12:45:02 · answer #9 · answered by Billy M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋