Mother of bride now is feeling like I moved in on her responsiblity. What to do now???????????????????????????????????????
2006-06-29 05:40:01 · 14 answers · asked by Patches 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The mother of the bride shouldn't ever be the one to throw a shower. Generally it's other family members, friends and/or the bridesmaids. If the MOB were to throw the shower, it's like she is just asking for gifts for her daughter. You can try to explain this to the MOB.
Also, try involving her in the planning, guest list, and other tasks for the shower, if you can. That way she'll be included.
2006-06-29 05:46:27 · answer #1 · answered by Blue 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask the bride how she wants it handled. If the bride and mom are close then let the mom be involved. Just know by the time the wedding is over you'll all probably be arguing about something, whether you spent way too much money or the mom is being bitter about something dumb. Take a deep breath and try to stay calm, because I guarantee the bride will be freaking out, the mom will yell and the groom will be clueless. Don't let the bride flip everything to get her desire, I realize she's "the bride" but every day thousands of people get married, so she's not that unique. Don't let anyone get too carried away and don't be ashamed to speak up when you feel you should. If you have doubt then say that you're not sure it's you're place to say so, but proceed with what you're going to say in a respectable manner.
Good Luck
2006-06-29 12:47:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion would be to try to include her on the planning. Maybe the food or games or party favours. Take her shopping with you when you're planning so she feels like she is a part of it. Typically neither of the mother's should host a bridal shower - it generally falls to the Maid of Honour or if there is going to be a shower amongst the girls in the office someone there will plan it. Even if the bride's church is going to give a shower, the mother would still not be the host.
2006-06-30 00:15:55 · answer #3 · answered by Patricia D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually the bridal shower is given by the maid of honor or the best friend; Don't let this situation get out of hand, let her take some charge, as is maybe with the food, or the drinks, she will be occupied and you will be happy that no drama is added to the bride, who is probably already pretty stressed out!. Remind the mother of the bride, that you're doing something for the bride out of love , and that it wasn't meant to be an issue; remind her that the important thing right now is to stay happy, to stay focused and to keep the bride tranquil and Serene, making her upset with a family/friend dilemma will really put a damp on her special day.
Have fun and try for everyone top enjoy themselves!, accept help, but try and delegate some chores/responsibilities, so each of you doesn't get in each others way or nerves!.
Best of luck!
Melissa T.
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2006-06-29 12:56:41 · answer #4 · answered by kluzzey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be speaking the truth...but poor people don't like being called poor. And if mother of the bride is being mean about the whole thing then remind her to remember what is best for her daughter.
2006-07-05 11:05:18 · answer #5 · answered by murph_ltt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, the family of the bride is not supposed to give a shower to the bride it is considered tacky....I found it on snopes.com
2006-06-29 13:03:10 · answer #6 · answered by Serenayowlerlove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk 2 her then let her take over but you still can pay and stuff if you would like to
2006-06-29 13:03:57 · answer #7 · answered by Thick Haitian Mamma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just involve her with the details and see if she wants to help out.
2006-06-29 12:53:02 · answer #8 · answered by bg_cutiepie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have her help you. if she cant do it financially, have her run the event. she could take rsvp's, facilitate the games and the opening of gifts, maybe she could make the food you will be serving? inculde her, if possible on decision making.
2006-07-02 00:41:25 · answer #9 · answered by g-dogg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Include her in all your planning.
2006-06-29 14:51:19 · answer #10 · answered by Great Gifts 4 Everyone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋