does any one have advice for a 15 year old girl who hates the world?

Question

My daughter recently had a blow up with me, she hates me because I wont let her date a boy who is not nice to her. I backed off for a while to see if she would choose to dump him. Not! Then I found out he was taking advantage of her in sexual ways (he has been around the block a few times.) so I put my foot down and told her NO MORE! Like I said she hates me now and is choosing to live with her dad. My daughter hasnt visited him in months! How can I get my daughter to realize I am not the bad person here.

Answer 1

There won't be much you can say to her. That is something that growth and time will help with. She just sounds like she is upset and just needs to get over it. I would recommend to not let her move to her Dads unless she is close with him. If not, that could lead to worse problems.

EDIT: Good luck!

Answer 2

You did the right thing by not allowing her to see this boy anymore.She's just mad right now, I think one day she will appreciate you stepping in like this when she's had time to cool down. You did what any concerned,loving parent would do. Are you sure she's not sneaking and seeing the boy behind your back? You could arrange to get together and have a heart-to-heart talk with her,maybe share with her some things that you went through as a teenager so that she can see that you understand and not just being an old fogie. Let her view from afar a situation where someone else suffered consequences when they did not make the best choices.

Answer 3

It really sucks to be in that situation. Maybe you should sit down with her and explain what you know about the guy & how some guys are with women. Maybe u could tell her a story that would relate, when u were younger & dating (about some loser guy who tried to take advantage & how it turned out bad). She is only going to want to be with him more, the more you insist that it doesnt happen. Of course sometimes people dont listen (of all ages), no matter how much u tell them that they are heading in the wrong direction, sometimes *unfortunately* you must let them make their own mistakes. As we dont want to believe the negative & learn better from our own mistakes as opposed to someone else telling us something.
Well, I hope this helps some, good luck with your daughter.

Answer 4

She will eventually understand. When it comes to boys it is hard to explain what is right for them because they are experiencing what they think is love and acceptance. What you did was right.
Running off to her dad will not solve the problem she may just find he will have the same view on the subject. I can only answer from what you have said but talking to her about it and listening to her end without judgment or condemnation helps alot. These are tricky teen times

Answer 5

It is a very difficult situation to try to control when a kid can just run to the other parents house. You need to communicate with her father and let him know about the situation and if he loves her like you do, he should restate what you have told her already. You need to help eachother with this problem. If this boy is 18 or older you can report him. But, if they are the same age, maybe you can talk to his parents, and ask them if they're ready to be grandparents and help raise their baby's babies. Yikes, I'm glad I have a boy.

Answer 6

Show her pictures of abused woman. Pictures of AIDS patients.
Tell her your not having it and you mean it and you will call the police on the guy. She is under age.
Tell her your her mom not her friend and no one loves her more than you do. Not to mention that she won't be at her dads for long.
Tell him whats going on and have him do the same thing. Show her pictures or AIDS patients and STDs. If you all work together on this it will scare the crap out of her.

Answer 7

One day she will grow up and realize you were right,some people have to learn the hard way.Kids are very rebellious if you dont give them some freedom and let them find things out on their own.They need to be humbled at some point to learn.

Answer 8

Hey im 16 and i did tha same when i was 14 my mom tried to tell me but i didnt listen and i had 2 learn from my mistakes now i live with my dad and its a living hell with evil stepmom around. i can talk 2 her for yu just email me at [e-mail], maybe i can make a difference for once.

Answer 9

the best way to learn a lesson is to fail a test let your daughter expirence life but keep a close watch if this dude is as bad as you say then it wont last long anyway

Answer 10

This is a very common situation u r facin...actually im jst a yr older dan ur daughter bt i cn realsie wht she feels n so cn i realise wht u feel....she jst feels very bound by ur restrictions..d fact dat makes u think dat she hates u is jst dat she doesnt understand whts ud for her n wht is not...or rather she thinks u dnt understand wht she feels for d guy...

I aint takin her side...nor urs...all i cn say is....children learn frm dere mistakes...i wasnt dat close to my mum...bt eventually i realised she is the best person to talk to...even though i dnt still share everythin...(u hav to believe no child does....becos age diff n thinking is always an issue)..bt still i believe she cn b trusted upon...wht u cn do is...try to spend sum quality time wid ur daughter...dont scold her...bt lend her an ear like a frnd...explain her the drawbaks....of whtever she is into..bt jst dnt supress her decision wid urs...let her take her decision..bt tell her dat u r always there for her.....n give her more time..n encourage her to tell u everythin...okay??? i really hope this works...!!! communicate to her well...n be a friend...!!! al d best !!!