l,ve been sleeping with him for 6months and it worries me alo where the relationship is heading, please advice
2006-06-29 05:25:18 · 26 answers · asked by sweetmic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not judging you, but I wouldn't be sleeping with someone who has never said that they love me. Talk to him about it. If you are looking for a loving relationship and he can't provide that, then it's time for you to move on.
2006-06-29 05:28:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure he probably has to pay child support; if he's sending her money & she's using it for their child, you can't change that. If you've been sleeping with him for 6 mos & he's yet to say he loves you, I'd say he's using you & the relationship is heading nowhere, fast. You might want to step back & rethink this whole thing. What are you getting out of being with him? is just the sex enough to keep you going? Do you do things together that other couples do (dinner, movies, travel) or is it all about him doing you & you seeing how much you can give him or do for him? If you don't like the answers then move on, let him go. It's not easy, I am sure. Good luck.
2006-06-29 12:37:56 · answer #2 · answered by pumpkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to realize that he is sending his CHILD that money, it goes to support a child he helped create, so that is definatly justified. If you have been sleeping with him for 6 months and there is no "love" between the two of you, then you obvioulsly know what stage the relationship is in, and if you want love, then you probably should leave. Seems like he is just getting the milk without buying the cow. The money to his ex & child has nothing to do with the two of you being in love, or him loving you. So if you dont think he does love you, and that is what you want, leave and get it somewhere else.
2006-06-29 12:31:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's been 6 months and you have questions about your relationship status, of course you should step. If you only have a physical relationship with him, step. The fact that he has a child is a different issue. I'd worry if he wasn't sending money to his ex, but it's a good to know that he's being responsible in that aspect.
2006-06-29 12:31:20 · answer #4 · answered by wrtrchk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like to me you already have your answer if you have any red flags which you do because you are worried where this is heading you may need to move on. He has to be responsible for his child so he does need to send money to help care for his kid but also don't give yourself away so easily. You are giving yourself away in the most intimate way and he does not even love you. You are better than that. Keep high standards for yourself never settle! Always hold out for what you deserve and you deserve the best! And most important pray God will guide you!
2006-06-29 12:32:31 · answer #5 · answered by rach 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sending money to the baby's mum is fine. Its only been 6 months, he might not be ready to tell you he loves you, or he might still be trying to figure out IF he loves you.
Talk to him about it and be honest with your feelings. If you are concerned that he is sending her more than money, let him know. If he wants to build a relationship with you he will discuss the situation, however, dont expect him to cut off all communications with the other girl, they DO have a child together and it would be wrong to take a father from his child.
2006-06-29 12:28:55 · answer #6 · answered by *meh* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the fact that he sends money for his child shows that he is responsible, but having a relationship with someone that has another family is very difficult. If you don't think he is completely devoted to you. I would suggest that you consider other options, and do what you feel is best, but I don't think this issue will ever die for you. If anything it may get worse.
2006-06-29 12:29:49 · answer #7 · answered by femme fatale 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well He has to send money to his EX he has a kid there and if it were your kid you would expect money too but if he has not said that he loves you I would talk to him and tell him how you feel and see what he says if he still wont say he loves you then i would probably walk away but of course it is you choice I wish you the best of Luck I would ask GOD he will give you your answer
2006-06-29 12:33:09 · answer #8 · answered by crystal a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First offf you have to except that he's not just a guy, hes a guy with a kid. He will always have to send money to the mother and he will always have to deal with the mother if he wants a relationship with the child. So you have to decide if you want a MAN WITH A CHILD or if you cant handle it, its time to duck out respectively before you and him are hurt any worse.
2006-06-29 12:32:00 · answer #9 · answered by MISSY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, even if he doesn't say he loves you, you have to let him know. Make a romantic dinner for just the two of you. Send him flowers at work. Leave him cute little cards that say, "I love you!Have a great day! =)" Show him you care. If he doesn't say he loves you in...at the most 5 months after you do all this, he ain'tworthy to be graced by your presance. In other words, within 5 months after you do all this, if he doesn't say I love you, dump his sorry as...butt. :P
2006-06-29 12:31:08 · answer #10 · answered by The Beautiful Letdown 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋