sister relationship?

Question

i have a sister i use to be real close with. she use to have problems with her boyfriend and complain to me about him. so i tried to be a sister and offer her my help and a shoulder to cry on. i dont like her bf at all and think that she has to kiss his but for what reason i dont know. he treats her like crap in plain english and her kids and not treated fairly by him. she is way to beautiful for him and its like she takes his mental abuse and i tried to help her get out of it but know it back fired on me. she dont talk to me or see her niece and nephew anymore. its like she pushed me her own blood away over this loser. what ever happend to blood beeing thicker than water. i am so hurt and feel like i will never here from her again or feel like he might hurt her and i cant do anything to help her. what do i do to get my sister back.

Answer 1

Let me tell you something about this. I went through this before. I had an ex who treated me really badly. But I was in denial. As much as you are so very right about all of this. Your sister isn't going to listen to anybody. And the more you get involved the more she's going to push you away. As hard as it is, just be a listening ear. Don't comment, or give advice. All a person like this needs is to be heard. I didn't listen to anybody, even if I knew they were right. I didn't want anybody to be right about him. I wanted him to be perfect. It was almost like I was beginning to believe my own lies about how perfect he was. One day I realized, that my family just loved me and wanted what was best for me. I'm so glad that relationship has passed. I can't even believe I put myself through that. I regret having treated my family like crap. But whats done is done, and I've learned from my mistakes. Take thinks day by day, and keep your head up. I hope everything works out.

P.S just be by her side, she just needs someone to vent to and listen to. Call her, tell her you're sorry that you did what you did, tell her you did it because you care about her, and you were afraid for her wellbeing. Tell her that if you knew that this would have caused what happened between you and her, you wouldn't have done it.

Answer 2

Some times U can tell people that things are not the way they should be till your blue in the face, your sister has to come to these facts on her own, she probably knows this is not a healthy relationship but she may have her reasons probably not good ones but, U tried to tell her that this guy is no good for her but,shes the one that has to realize this. God Bless U for loving sister just pray that God will open eyes to see that this guy is no good for her, you've done all U can i would just try to mend things back the way they were w/ your sister & don't even bring the boyfriend up any more about the way he treats her consintrate on the both of U being close again. Keep the Faith!!!

Answer 3

Unfortunately, blood thicker than water do not apply when a woman is in love, you have one thing to do,call your sister and apologize for getting in her business and the reason your doing this is because you want to make sure your at least there to see your sister and help her in others ways but her love affair,is hard when a woman choose to be in a relationship like that.but you think about her kids if your there you can at least see when ever they arguing and offer to take the kids for a walk or to spend a night every once and while to give them something to look forward to i know your felling hurt but she loves this man and that takes presidency to your blood bound understand?? just be there for her for now dont give her advice dont shout at him just be there to listen..in situations like this the women already know that they are in a bad relationship they dont want to keep hearing it..they have to get out on their own there is nothing you can tell your sister about this man that she doesnt already know,but she choosing to stay with him,so you be there for the kids and just listen to her when she ask you to listen,now if things turn agains your nepew and niece then i suggest you defend them with your life even if you have to loose your sister.good luck my advice to you is do what you have to te get back in your sisters life and stay close to the kids to make sure they safe,and let leave your sister find her self our of that relationship all by her self.just be there for her to listen,.good luck.

Answer 4

what i would do is try 2 sit down and have a talk with her tell her that she doesnt need 2 be with a man that treats her the way he does....tell her that there are better guys out there that will treat her well and actually love her...i hope that everything goes well between u and your sister~!*good luck

Answer 5

Apologize for interfering in her relationship and explain to her that you just love her and don't want to see her hurt but that you realized that you overstepped your boundaries and that it won't happen again. Then, sit and wait. It will eventually either end or get better. It's your place to be there for her, not make decisions for her. I know it's hard to sit by and watch someone you love be hurt by someone they love, but it hurts worse to know that they don't have anyone to talk to when they need to talk. You want to be there for her, so be there for her, without judging her or condemning her for her choices. Good luck!

Answer 6

call her or go see her tell that u sorry and that her business u didn't to be in between tell u always going to love her what ever her decisions are u still be by her side so at least u can have in eye on her

Answer 7

she loves him too much, let her be. if anything goes wrong, as her sister, be ready with open arms, she'll need that, when everyone else may pointing fingers at her. good luck.

Answer 8

maybe you sister will come around. she sounds to me like she is being very selfish and if a were you i would wait for her to come to you.

Answer 9

Hmmm..I had the same problem.Try talking to your parents about it.

Answer 10

wait.
she will see him for what he is in her own time.