I like this guy and through a friend, found out he likes me back, but he doesn't want my ex, (his friend) to know that we like each other because he doesn't want to hurt him. How do i tell him to loosen up and that I'm not obligated to my ex? I never had a ring on my finger so, i am free to like who i want. I don't want my ex to stop me from being with a good man or miss a good opportunity for a relationship. My ex doesn't know i like his friend. I'm not doing it to get back on him for cheating on me, i really like this guy.
2006-06-29 05:00:51 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dont let your ex take over your life!! If he knows first let him be mad but talk to him and tell him that he shouldnt be ,mad!!your right YOU DONT HAVE A RING ON YOUR FINGER AND YOU DIDNT BEFORE!!!!your ex shouldnt stop you from likeing this other guy!!!
2006-06-29 05:06:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
OK here is the deal - - Man's law is a funny advertising gimmick that is being used to sell beers right now, but it is also a very real thing. If these guys are friends (not just acquaintances, 'friends") it will be hard for this to work and I think he knows that. Most, not all, but most men will keep a feeling or two for their ex, hence the amount of "ex-sex" going on.
The best and only thing for this guy to do is decide if you are worth losing a friend (he probably already is thinking it). The next step is to "ask" his friend if he would be cool if he dated you.
The whole thing could turn out cool as ice or messy inferno of rage. Make sure you are serious about this guy before he goes out and puts his a$$ on the line.
Good luck....
2006-06-29 12:13:26 · answer #2 · answered by Ryno 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to explain to this guy that your ex is a thing of the past and has no bearing on what you or he do now. If your ex has a problem with the relationship..ask him why..Hes your ex..he has nothing to say about what you or his friend do in their lives. His ego may be a bit bruised for a bit, but I suspect he would get over it. Don't be haunted by shadows from the past or wonder about 'what if' , you are free to follow your heart and I wish you luck and happiness.
2006-06-29 12:09:52 · answer #3 · answered by zippo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You see, this is where guys are just smarter than us. He is actually loyal to his friend. And you do know why? Of course not.....because he knows his friendship will probably last a lifetime, while your relationship may last a month or two.
Let this guy be a good friend. You should've dated him first if you want him so bad. Don't bounce from friend to friend to friend.You had your chance, you chose wrong. Move on to a different group of friends.
Unlike women who will stab each other in the back as soon as they get the chance, this guy is actually being a good person.
Don't stand in the way of that.
2006-06-29 12:08:13 · answer #4 · answered by shakia27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like this guy then you will respect his friendship with his friend. Just put yourself in his shoes and you where you ex or even him. Men have morals. That's just stuff that you don't do as a man. So think about that. You don't need no man to make you happy anyway. You sound young so get focused on you. If he wants you that bad he'll come around.
2006-06-29 12:06:01 · answer #5 · answered by nino 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just needs to loosen up a little and act more mature. If he does not loosen up, means he is to immature for you to be with in the first place and he was not meant for you. Also, if they are close friends, you might not want to get involved although you like him, that tends to be a problem as well. B/c he may value his friendship very much and dont want to lose it with your ex.
2006-06-29 12:19:04 · answer #6 · answered by Amenity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the good guy that just because he is friends with your ex doesn't mean that you can't date him. Your relationship with your ex is over. The good guy should not worry about the ex.
2006-06-29 12:06:14 · answer #7 · answered by bully07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just explain the way you feel to this new guy. Let him know that you are really interested in exploring the options of a relationship with him. If he is so concerned about his friend's feelings, chances are that he has a good heart and will be careful with yours.
You are right in not wanting a cheater to rob you off the chance of happiness. GO FOR IT!!
2006-06-29 12:05:43 · answer #8 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree don't worry about your ex. Just call this guy up tell him how you feel about the situation, and once he knows how you really feel, then he will probably not be so worried about it, and you guys can get together. Communications is key here.
2006-06-29 12:04:38 · answer #9 · answered by femme fatale 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok have a little sympathy he is really worried that he is going to loose a friendship over his happiness he likes you and everything but he is confused and doesn't want to look bad with his friend. you are right though he shouldn't stop you all from being happy.
2006-06-29 12:04:12 · answer #10 · answered by jorgec1582003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋