How can I Spend more time with my 2year old and my 11month old if I go to school and work?

Answer 1

Make the most of meal times. Make sure you all have breakfast and dinner together every day. Involve the 2 year old in meal planning so you don't spend time arguing about what there is to eat. Then you can make it a positive time together. If possible, have lunch with the kids. Bring a picnic basket to their daycare and steal them away for half an hour of fresh air. Bathe them together at night. Use bubbles and lots of toys. Read to them while they play in the water. Honestly, how dirty are they? Washing every inch of them isn't nearly as important as the quality time they have with you. You'll find that their giggles will melt away your stress. Schedule one night a week for family night - no studying allowed until the kids are in bed. Fix their favorite snacks and have a pajama party in the living room. It doesn't have to last long - 30 minutes of stories around the "campfire" and a couple of songs. Long outings are not necessary to create closeness that lasts a lifetime.

Answer 2

That is so wonderful that you care about your children and realize that they need their mother with them as much as possible.

The difficult, but reality-based answer, is that you only have 24 hours in a day and if you want more of those hours with your kids then you need to quit some of your other activities. I vote that you put school on hold, since it is not lfe and death that you attend school and given that the first 3 years of life set the foundation for how people develop, itis much more a priority for your kids to be with you and feel security and love than you earn a degree.

You are a mom now, and all decisions have to be made based on what is best for the child -- not what is best / easiest for you to provide for the child or feel better about yourself. Learn to live with very little material things and take this step in what is the most important job / role you will ever have -- raising these two babies ot be fine adults.

If you have to move in with your parents or change your living arrangement (sell your house to move to a more affordable area / smaller home) then do it, you will be so glad you did!

Answer 3

Don't kid yourself. That whole quality time vs. quantity time is absurd. Children that young need your attention throughout the day, not just when you can fit them in. If you absolutely must work, do it when the kids are sleeping. Stop going to school until your kids are in school full time. You should have completed your education before you had kids. Since you didn't, it's unfair to expect them to pay the price. You probably use the argument that you are going to school to improve your children's lives. How does spending the most important years of their lives in day-care improve anything? You only have four more years until they are both in school. Please don't waste this precious time with your children.

Answer 4

I love the response that told you to make the most of meal times! Eating together makes for better communication, better nutrition and better health for the whole family.

You might also try co-sleeping. The family bed is a great way for the family to be together and bond even if they are sleeping.

Answer 5

Try to find a time of day that you aren't busy and make sure that you make the most of that free time by spending it with them.

Answer 6

you can work from home (unless you are in the medical bussiness). You can also get degrees at home on the computer. It was on the news. This lady had 2 kids went to work and after she tucked her kids in at 9 pm she would go on the computer from 9PM-1AM.

Answer 7

It's not about the quantity of time as much as it is about the quality of the time spent

Answer 8

If you do it online you will be there to spend time with them