Some girl whos 26 old whos got a 9 yr old kid, still lives with mum and dad, and seems happy for mum and dad to look after the grandchild whilst she can go out and have irresponsible fun. Shes never with the child. The child is always with nana and granddad. I cant quite understand these type of people as they clearly wanted the child yet is not prepared to look after the child as a normal parent would do. What makes it right?
2006-06-29 04:53:06 · 33 answers · asked by lonely as a cloud 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
The parent of the child is not totally at fault here.
Half the blame has to lie with her parents.
Although maybe they are taking over & not allowing her to be the type of parent she wishes to be.
Never judge other people until you know the whole story.
2006-06-29 07:28:50 · answer #1 · answered by monkeyface 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing makes it right, I firmly believe that it is completely wrong in every way. I can understand the occasional night out or something and letting grandma and grandpa watch the baby during that time. Nothing wrong with that as long as you do not come back so messed up that you can't funtion properly. Every new mom needs a little time to herself or a little time off. But leaving the baby with grandma and grandpa all the time is completely irresponsible.
Thing is though, I cannot place blame solely on the mother of the baby. Blame also must fall on the grandparents as well. They are obviously willing to continue watching the child and allowign their daughter to go out irresponsibly like that. They need to continue being parents and tell their daughter that she cannot be doing that all the time. They really need to lay down some laws and guidelines for their daughter. So, therefore, both the mothero f the baby and the grandparents are jointly responsible for the situation and should therefore be jointly willing to fix the problem.
Anyone dumping any responsibility on another person all the time is wrong. Regardless of what the situation is and what the responsibility is, they should handle their own responsibilities and allow others to have their own lives. Dumping responsibility off on another is nothing more than laziness. It is mooching time and mooching is always wrong.
2006-06-29 05:03:55 · answer #2 · answered by The Shadow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats normal is those below 30 ish should not have kids as have too much living to do. She is acting her age like the others her age are doing... Not an old stay at home type
This is why abortion is a good thing... if the foetus had been aborted there would have been no problem and then when older and settled down, been there, done that and brought the t shirt the girl could then think about kids...
All,these idiots insiting teenager don't abort. This is the result
2006-06-29 06:13:01 · answer #3 · answered by Joey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The simple fact of the matter is that SH!+ happens. You do not have to understand it. The child will eventually feel some lose since mom is not around but at least the GP's are there for the child.
She could have had an abortion. Would you have had a different view of her then?
It is still her life and she will live it the way she sees fit. Peers views will be damned if she wants to do what she is doing. I am not condoning or condemning her, I am simply stating what you said. She is living life the way she wants.
TFTP
2006-06-29 04:59:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not knowing the people involved personally and the details of the case makes it difficult to comment.
However, as you describe the case, I would say that the young woman's behaviour is not correct. A certain part of responsibility is also with her parents, who seem happy to play along without complaints. They obviously failed to educate their daughter in the right way and are now riding along on a guilt trip.
The victim of it all is the nine year old child, which will be totally confused with regards to loyalties, rules and authority, as well as with regards to general behaviour.
If this was happening in my community, I would report the case to social services. They have the power to investigate bad and unfit parents.
2006-06-29 07:02:53 · answer #5 · answered by Sean F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't right. I got pregnant at 17 but my parents NEVER raised my daughter. Her father and I got an apartment the day I turned 18, which was 4 months before I gave birth. We've never used welfare to pay for our kids. I stay at home with them while he works his butt off to support us. It makes me sick the way these women go out, get pregnant and then don't want to take care of their responsibilities. I'll admit my mom does take my girls every Friday, yes I have 2 kids now. She takes them so I can get my detail cleaning done. I'm still with their father and that makes it so much easier then some women have it. It's a vicious cycle that never seems to end. The lady that you're referring to, will probably end up taking care of her grand kids when the time comes.
2006-06-29 05:13:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well....i think you should worry about your own life and be a good parent yourself. There is nothing you can do if you disapprove of this situation. The child might be better off in this situation than if the grandparents kicked the mom out or if they kicked the child and mom out - since mom can't be responsible for the kid. So in my opinion, this might be the 'right' arrangement for their family.
If they are all willing,,,,,
2006-06-29 04:57:26 · answer #7 · answered by BonesofaTeacher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not saying that it is right, but her parents should have made her take care of her responsibilities instead of taking care of everything for her. Too many parents believe that once they have kids that they should take care of them and do everything for them forever instead of making them do things for themselves, and these kids become adults but never truly grow up. They expect everyone to take care of everything for them because their parents did. The end up losing jobs because they are not taught the value of a hard day's work. And it is not just a problem with society...Most of the problems with kids and adults can be traced back to the parents lack of parenting skills.
2006-06-29 05:00:23 · answer #8 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her parents made it "right" when they chose to accept her responsibilities for her!! But in all reality the child is better off with grandparents who give proper care then an irresponsible idiot with NO maternal instincts!
2006-06-29 05:54:21 · answer #9 · answered by areesmom24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing makes it right..The parents need to tell her to find her own place..They are not teaching her responsibility by taking care of the child ..This is not good for the mother or child either...
2006-06-29 05:11:07 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋