2006-06-29 04:29:22 · 21 answers · asked by rosieposie182001 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Hi; Most people will agree to not send the couple a wedding present if you don't know them that well; however if you're classy enough to even think about this situation"it is right?, is it wrong?", then you should definitely at least send them a personal note or wedding card, congratulating them, and excusing yourself for not being able to be there on their special day; Fact is, they did think of you when making their guest list, and as much as everyone might believe, many wedding gifts really don't "pay" for the meal, much less the total cost of really having each guest in a ceremony and reception, just the invitation itself might have cost them up to $10 or more each!; Just because we might not want to hurt our wallet, we certainly don't have to hurt our personal image, and not doing anything, not even sending them a note or greeting card, would be just plain rude, all etiquette rules of thumb aside.
Be a gracious guest, and thank them for inviting you, and apologize for not being there; that is gift enough (if you want to give them something minor, then that's great too).
Hope this helps!
Best of luck!
Melissa T.
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2006-06-29 05:07:58 · answer #1 · answered by kluzzey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depends. did you send back an "accept" card when you received the invitation...but then could not attend last minute? if so, the wedding couple still had to shell out money for your seat/food/drinks/favor. you then should definitely still give them a wedding present.
however, if you declined the invite, then all you are obligated to do is send a congratulatory card. no gift is expected.
2006-06-29 06:05:01 · answer #2 · answered by truckturner 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if you DID know them, you still wouldn't "have to" send a gift. If if you knew them and went to the wedding, you still wouldn't "have to" send a gift. As much as vendors of china, silver, linens, etc -- and some grasping bridal couples -- would like for you to believe otherwise, a wedding gift is NEVER mandatory. If it were, we'd be getting invitations from people we'd forgotten 20 years ago!
That said, it would be less than gracious to attend a wedding, scarf down mountains of lobster and buckets of champagne, and omit a gift.
2006-06-29 04:48:53 · answer #3 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you get invited to a wedding where you don't know the bride or groom? In any case, it would be proper to send a gift if you received a formal invitation.
You may have to get creative on this one since the circumstances do not warrant an expensive gift. "Dinner for two at a nice restauraunt" would be one idea. Another good idea would be.........Ah, you get the picture!
2006-06-29 04:38:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to send a gift. Why did you even get invited if you didn't know the couple?
2006-06-29 06:48:29 · answer #5 · answered by onefootnaked 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If an invitation was sent then a note of regret that you cannot attand, at least, is in order. The only situation I can think of for being invited without knowing the couple is either distance relative, or co-worker's child getting married, in both cases they are likely trolling for gifts. if you can afford it, it would be polite, but if not then just the note
2006-06-29 04:36:23 · answer #6 · answered by SnakEve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
commonly even as that is a chum or close chum's wedding ceremony maximum persons deliver a present inspite of in the experience that they don't pass to the marriage. i'd have a chum take your present with them to the marriage or deliver a present card to an section the position you cousin is registered. desire this permits!
2016-11-29 23:30:12 · answer #7 · answered by brummet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. The gift or card is to CELEBRATE their marriage. If you don't attend you aren't required to send a gift; a token card or gift would definitely be a classy touch.
2006-06-29 05:13:46 · answer #8 · answered by Goose&Tonic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invited by their parents?
No you don't need to send a gift. Tell them you can't attend, that would be sufficient.
2006-06-29 04:42:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not know them I cannot understand why they would have invited you so I do not see why you would be required or even expected to send them a gift.
You may want to send them your congratulations however.
2006-06-29 04:35:33 · answer #10 · answered by Selkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋