Is it bad to spank your child if they arent trying in school?

Answer 1

NOPE! It will work, just do it the right way. Important: always show them you love the even after a spanking. It will not work otherwise. Explain that school is very important and they have to work hard. Put your kid on a schedule- kids need consistency. Have them do homework everyday at the same time. Give them a snack to relax them. Sit with the kids and help them. They need the attention and a good example from you. You have to set the tone. Trust me- I've done it! I only had to spank one time, and my daughter gets 10 out of 10 and 9 out of 10 every time. She's going to second grade.

Taking away material things does not work. The kid knows they always get it back.

Answer 2

Yes, what does spanking solve. You might try to find out why your child is not trying in school. Is the work too easy, too hard? Talk to your child's teacher. Create some sort of contract. Have the teacher send a list of work not completed or not done correctly home on Friday. (or more often if preferred) Any work not completed or not correct can be done during fun time over the weekend and into the next week's fun time. Should your child refuse to bring work home, call the teacher and take away privileges like TV or video games until the work comes home. On a positive note, you can also create a contract with your child. If you get a note that says all work is completed satisfactorily for the day, your child can get a sticker and lots of praise. When your child has 5 stickers, allow your child to choose a favorite dinner, DVD, game to play, park to go to, or trip to the 99 cent store.

Answer 3

Please consider the ramifications of you spanking your child for this reason. What kind of effect would it have? What kind of message would that send your child if he/she is really trying hard, but not succeeding?

Take a look at why your child is having problem in school instead of assuming that the child isn't trying--which is rarely the case. There could be emotional issues, social issues or physical issues that is standing in the way of your child's education. I wouldn't accept the teacher's assessment of the child "not trying"--they have many children in the classrooms and may not immediately recognize a problem. It's way too easy for a child to be mislabeled as a problem child in the classroom.

Positive reinforcement works wonders in making a child feel confident in their work. Focusing on what the child does right instead of what they've done wrong encourages the child to do better. Offering rewards for quality work throughout the school year and not only during report card time also helps. It could be as simple as you tossing a ball around--or playing a game with your child--of fixing his/her favorite meal. In the same vein, make certain there are consequences for bad behavior. Helping your child formulate realistic goals also boosts confidence and self-esteem.

Answer 4

I am totally against spanking... I have a child also and he has never been spanked. Sometimes it works better with positive reinforcements (not rewards though as the child would come to expect to receive rewards from you all the time). Just encourage the child. Explain to them why school is so important.... and set an expectations. Usually people of all ages do better when an expectation is set and they work towards it.

Answer 5

Yes!! I do not agree with the 'modern' belief that smacking children is bad...when it is used appropriately, it can be effective. However, as a teacher, I do not advocate the use of this punishment if your child is not trying in school. There could be numerous reasons for this. Has your child always been like this or has it just started. If it is a new thing, is there an issue happening at school with other students or the teacher? Have you spoken to the teacher? If this has been happening for a while, has your child been assessed for possible learning problems? Smacking your child for not trying will not achieve anything...except maybe a determination to continue to do badly. My advice...speak to your child's teacher and come up with a plan of action together to help your child reach his/her full potential.

Answer 6

Yes. that wont fix the problem. When your child is held back a year they will finally get upset enough to start trying in school. Also make sure your child does not have a learning disability. They may not be able to learn the traditional way.
Talk with your child. Bring the child to the school's counselor (it is free). And/or take the child to a doctor. Also talk with your child's teacher(s), they may know or have an idea what is going on (why your kid is not doing better in school).

Answer 7

Spanking is never the answer my friend! You will not raise trusting and loving children by spanking them. I would suggest you try to uncover why your child is not trying in school? Is it a recent event? You may wish to get a meeting with the teacher to see what is going on at school. Your child longs for your approval and constantly needs reassurance from both parents.

Answer 8

What would it accomplish?
First find out why they are not trying. If they need help, get it for them. Make sure they are doing their homework and that they understand it. Teachers will stay after to provide extra help. Or if you have the means for it, pay for some tutoring. If it is a certain subject that the child is not interested in, talk to the teacher and find out if there are different ways to get the child interested in it.
There are many reasons for a child to seem not motivated and spanking or any other type of punishment won't solve them (such as vision problems or learning disabilities).

Answer 9

That is most horrible way to get your kid to do better in school. Sometimes a spank is necessary but in cases only that could cause injury to themselves or others. Even then not to the point of causing injury or pain to the child. But for school try taking away things that cause distraction to homework like take away the I-Pod or the computer or television in their room. Or keep them home from parties or sports.

Answer 10

figure out the source of lack of attention! try to work with the child one on one. i do not think spanking will work!! maybe they are in the wrong classes and feel like they are not being challenged enough or the other end that they are absolutely lost and need a little extra help. go to the source and not use violence! school should be a fun part of a child's life not something to put them in fear!!