She is 2 years old and loves to play in the shower and tub... Since she was an infant she I have given her showers with me.. Now she cries if she cant get in the shower when I try to take one...I try to keep my back to her now that she is getting older and she has never asked (what is that) yet and I hope she never does.. How do I break her of this without hurting her feelings... Like I said, I cant take one without her crying to get in, she just like to play with her Dora toys in the water.......
2006-06-29 04:02:09 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Don't hide from the "what's that" question first off. You have body parts and so does she and if you provide her with factual information and the actual names she has a greater chance of not being ashamed of her own body. My kids know penis and vagina and that boys have one and girls the other and they also know what a tree is, dog, house etc...attack it with the same confidence and opportunity to teach.
Now, for the shower, it's funny, I have a 2 year old boy and he does the same thing. I am also trying to wean my child off my showers. He can open the door and come right in when I have my eyes full of shampoo and he sits and plays with his toys at the end of the shower. I am now telling him he is just too big. "You are getting to be such a big boy now that you can have your OWN showers!" Positive stuff and also addressing the fact that he is getting older and it's less 'acceptable' now. He gets angry sometimes but I don't hurt his feelings. He just wants it his way and I have to stick to it and say no.
What about replacing shower play with something else when you are in the shower? Another activity to do when you have a shower, read you a story or sing songs with her outside the tub?
2006-06-29 04:13:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 1⤋
This will sound mean, but you must take a brief shower and let her cry. When she bathes, try putting her in the tub and sitting outside (don't get in with her) to keep her company. It's having you near that is important to her. I hope you're not sleeping in the same bed, too! I have a guy friend with a 6-yr-old girl who will not sleep without him. Don't wait for puberty.
2006-06-29 11:12:30 · answer #2 · answered by smecky809042003 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a daughter and two sons and when my kids were little like that they also liked to shower with one of us. That is the age when we stopped doing that. Start by taking your shower when she has gone to bed or taking a nap if thats possible? If not, maybe her mom could play with her, read to her or go for a walk at the time you have to shower. Also, let her take a bath with her Dora toys and sit with her in the bathroom and talk. Over time see will enjoy having her bath alone. (Of course with a adult watching her at this age)........
2006-06-29 11:36:48 · answer #3 · answered by Bazinga 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop showering with her now. You dont want her to get used to always taking a bath/shower with you. If she is already crying to get into the shower with you then you have waited too long to stop. So stop now!! Just do it. You are the authority figure. Explain to her that showers are to be taken alone. Dont worry about hurting feelings, she will get over it.
2006-06-29 13:48:01 · answer #4 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought this was odd at first (not you, specifically, but my brother who is a stay-at-home dad and brings his 2-year-old daughter in the shower with him) but my mom says I showered with my dad sometimes when I was little,and I don't even remember it and I'm not scarred or anything, so... You could always put on your bathing suit when you're washing her in the shower, and have someone come get her when she's all clean, and then finish your own shower without the bathing suit??? You could also let her take a shower by herself, with you outside the shower helping her out... or at least let her sit in the tubby, and instead of filling up the tubby ahead of time, let her sit in there with the shower on?
2006-06-29 13:11:18 · answer #5 · answered by angelsister23 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Really you should have never started it. I think you should stop immediately. Buy her some fun little girl bath toys and let her take baths. She's too young to be taking a shower anyway. Let her cry for a bit....when she sees you won't let her in, she'll stop. Trust me, she'll get over it.
2006-06-29 23:54:39 · answer #6 · answered by Dree 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
2 is a good age to start weaning her on to her own tub time, especially if it is just to play with her toys. try to have her tub time before your shower that way you can tell her she already had her turn, now it is your turn. hope this helps.
2006-06-29 11:54:06 · answer #7 · answered by robie k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stay in the room with her but not in the shower with her. Thats gonna start getting werid. No offense.... that or just get someone to occupy her and then leave the room quietly and go get a shower.
2006-06-29 11:37:29 · answer #8 · answered by lucki_charmed 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you can watch her take a bath or a shower then see how she goes on by herself! well, still ignore her when she crys but i know it's sad to hear her cry but still you can still take showers with her but i just don't think it's the right thing to do but it might as well be fun but when they get older now that's' so different!
2006-06-29 11:10:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is still young so I dont see a problem. My daughters showered with Daddy up until they were almost 4.
2006-06-29 11:05:50 · answer #10 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋