Serious answers only please...Has anyone ben in this situation and how did it turn out?

Question

I am nine weeks pregnant, and went to the doctor yesterday. He did a transvaginal ultrasound and said he was very concerned. If my dates are correct, I should be nine weeks but it was only showing maybe six. He said the yolk sac was big, and that usually means a miscarriage. He gave me a 30% chance of having this baby. My boyfrind is trying to think positive, but I know I have my dates right. I had been keeping track of my period since I got my IUD taken out, and every month it was to the day. Please share your experiences with me. I am so completely devastated, and want to have some hope but feel like I can't

I really don't want to hear about how I need to get married. This woman knows nothing about my situation, but can still pass judgement. Getting married has absolutely nothing to do with this problem.

Answer 1

I'm sorry you are going through this. I have been through 3 miscarriages myself before having my son. By 9 weeks they should have been able to see some kind of form to the baby...head, leg buds, etc. It could be that you may have just skipped a period and then got pregnant. It can happen. Wait a couple of weeks and by then if the baby is still growing you should be able to see and hear a heartbeat. Good luck to you.

Answer 2

Hang in there. When I was pregnant I was told that my baby might have neurological problems and club feet. None of which happened. I originally wound up having a blood test for down syndrome that I believe can only be done at specific time during pregnancy, it's been five years, so I can't quite remember what that time line is. Anyhow, from that test I was told my numbers were a bit high and I needed an ultrasound. From the ultrasound, the measurements of the baby were fine, but I was told I had a lot of amniotic fluid. Basically the doctor was telling me there might be something wrong and that I needed to have an amniocentesis. This news made my husband and I feel like a train ran us over, emotionally. We asked about the numbers and what they really meant. We also asked about percentages. All translated, we had under a 1 or 2% chance that something was wrong. Having the amniocentesis procedure actually had a higher risk of miscarriage. I opted not to do the procedure and have a health boy. My suggestion is to do some searching on your own and if you can get a second opinion, just to be sure. Remember doctors are practicing medicine. You might want to search Google or Yahoo for "volume vascularity human yolk sac" or try different combinations of words to obtain what information you need. I am now 39 and haven't been able to get pregnant after trying for three years. Best of luck, I truly hope everything works out for you.

Answer 3

It's a very difficult situation. I lost a baby at 25 weeks (by birth, not miscarriage). The thing that helped me get through it was...If it is meant to be, it will be. There is a reason for everything, even a miscarriage. I had a slim chance of carrying my next child to full term, but I did. The doctors gave me a 40% chance and told me I would have a lot of problems. I had no problems and delivered a whopping 8lb 9oz baby girl one week before my due date. Just try to think positive. Good luck!

Answer 4

one of my friends went to have an abortion and they do an ultrasound when you go but anyways by her dates which was the last day that she had sex before she found out that she was pregnant she should have been 10 weeks pregnant but they told her that she was only 6 weeks pregnant which was impossible seeing as she had not had sex in 10 weeks she ended up having the abortion but they told her that they did not think that the baby was alive when they did it because of the facts that she gave them but even if you have your dates right they could still be off a little there is no guaranteed time that you ovulate it is just an estimate just like your due date is if i were you i would go get a second opinion from someone who is not affiliated with this doctor at all

Answer 5

Sort of the same thing happened to me. I found out I was pregnant at 5 weeks. I had been spotting slightly and cramping so my dr did an ultrasound. Everything looked okay except the heartbeat was slower than normal. 80 bpm rather than 120-160. He asked me to come back in one week for another ultrasound. When I did, I was only measuring 6 weeks (I should have been 7 at that point) and their was no heartbeat. I was devestated. I had to be put in the hospital that night for a D&C. Sounds to me like you may be in the process of a m/c. You didn't mention about the heartbeat, but if there was still one, then you may be okay.

Answer 6

first of all, lay down and keep your feet up, try not to stress and just keep relaxed. the baby inside you needs all the help it can get to be born healthy and safe, so I would suggest staying off your feet as much as possible. next, your doctor may be right but you know your body more and if you have been keeping track honestly than I would say that you may be right. either way, until you know that all is ok, I would be very careful with your body and not stress the baby. Positive thinking is a very good way to help, and prayer is good as well. I know it is very hard right now to think good thoughts but do what you and your boyfriend can do to keep thinking positive. I wish you much luck and love and I do hope that all comes out fine. lastly, I would get a second opinion from another doctor. Keep the faith and hang on little one.

Answer 7

Id been through that too, i had one miscarriage, and thought i just had my dates wrong, now i might be pregnant again, but like the doctor told me the first time, it is possible for me to have another miscarriage, i know how you feel, just keep hoping that the dates were wrong and that yiur baby is ok... if, not to make you feel scare, the baby dont survive, then there is always chance to have another one, i'm hoping am goig to have this baby, so im soon goin to the doctor... Good Luck...
GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR NOT YET BUT SOON TO BE BORN BABY, I WISH YOU THE BEST!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 8

I had a miscarriage a year ago. It was nothing like you are going through but I feel for you and my heart goes out to you. My miscarriage happened on its own and I was 2 months a long (supposed to have been 3 months). I will be praying for you.

Answer 9

I'm sorry. Although they have been wrong, if your doctor has given you this prognosis, he most probably is correct. Early miscarriages occur because the fetus is abnormal and shouldn't develop. I hope if this is what is to happen, it comes about soon for you. I know it is hard to accept.

Don't you think it would be a better idea to have a secure marriage, home, and family for your baby to be born into? What's wrong with tradition???? Get married before you have a baby. You owe it to them.

Answer 10

See another doctor for a second opinion. Some times doctors mess up and are not correct. So ask another doctor in another practice (not in the same building/ group practice) for an opinion.