help, can i get married?

Question

my boyfriend and i want to get married but he is muslim and a Iam catholic. he is currently married to a woman in his country but he wants to get married to me.. can he marry me still, although he is married.. i was told that when u marry in a mosque, a man can marry up to 7 wives. Also if we marry in a mosque, do we need a marriage certificate, is it considered legal..thanks.

as for peaches, i have been with my man 4 years, live with him, and have a child with him. therefore, i want to have a commitent now though marriage..

Also, iam not dumb or retarted, i have a bachelors degree, work and care for 3 kids....

Answer 1

Yes, a muslim can marry a second time (and up to seven times), but THEY DONT HAVE TO, as most muslims just have one wife. Don't let him fool you.

Secondly, if you marry ina mosque or whatever religion of your prefence, it is not considered a legal document, for all legal purposes such as prpety, taxes, legal name, health insurance and retiremen/social security benefits, etc. Therefore, you STILL have to aply for a marriage license in a courthouse under the US legal system, and if he is married, you guys are uneligible to apply for a marriage license because poligamy is illegal, as married people cannot get married. Just because he is married somewhere else, doesn't mean that his marriage is not legal here. He is married and pligamy is illegal inthe USA. If you get married in a mosque then you will have to convert to his religion and follow the very strict rules and it will have no legal relevance.

Muslims could divorce from their wives, however, this is consider an insult and a disgrace for the wife, as she will become a pariah and unwanted by her culture and religion. Most muslims NEVER divorce, because women are their property and divorce is something mostly unheard of.

I think you should get more acquainted with his religion and culture as you seem notto understand what you are really getting into.

Answer 2

I have to say that I am shocked that you would want to marry a man that is already married to someone else. That would not be something I would even dream of telling someone about. I do not think that that is legal in the U.S. Maybe you should go to his country and get married in a Mosque there. I don't know if it would be even considered a legal marriage in the US. But times are changing. Good luck!!

Answer 3

One thing first. Islam allows only upto 4 marriages (not 7) and that is only with the permission of the wife (s)

If you get married in a mosque, you'll still get to have it registered legally. The ceremony in the mosque is just a religious ritual. it doesn't fulfill the legal requirements, eeven in the Muslim countries.

If you really like the guy and you are sure he is not using you for his citizenship / green card only, then there is no harm in getting married to a Muslim guy.

Be sure you pre-decide things like how are you guys going to practice your own religion after marriage. What will be the religion / faith of your children. etc etc

Lastly, but importantly, decide on your own if you want to be the second wife of someone? Do you think he's fair to you and fair to his first wife.

Best of Luck in what ever you decide :-)

Answer 4

From what my muslim friends tell me, you can get married legally in a mosque, but a lot of people also just have marriage ceremonies there where your marriage is recognized by the mosque but not by the government and therefore not "official." They also say that it is very easy to get a divorce if you were married in an unofficial mosque ceremony. Hope that helps!

Answer 5

Uhh you want to be married to a man that already is, like be in his harem? And you are Catholic??????????? I am pretty sure that does not go with your religon. I would be more concerned about him having other wives and being maried already than if you need a certificate or not, but that's just me. I would say call or visit the mosque itself and question them on the proper proceedings and if it's considered legal or not.

Answer 6

I say no. Unless he gets a divorce. I understand if you marry in a mosque a man can marry up to 7 wives but, why would you want to marry someone who already is married?

Answer 7

Aside from the moral ramifications, why would YOU want to be wife number 2 or 3 or whatever???

I don't care who you are or what religion you practice, in America (assuming you're American) a multiple marriage is polygamy and is illegal. He will need to terminate his previous marriage before he marries you, or your marriage will be invalid. If he's in a legally binding marriage (read: contract) then he cannot legally enter into another legally binding contract with you.

Answer 8

Once he marries you he will go to a different country AGAIN and find a new girl to marry. What makes you think that if he has done it to his FIRST wife that he wont do it to you too? The odds are he probably will and in a couple of years his new girlfriend will be on yahoo answers asking this same question!

Answer 9

do you really wanna be a second wife? what happens if he decides he wants to move back to his country and you go with him? the first wife and the husband could beat you and there's not a damn thing you can do bout it. i don't care what anybody says, when you marry into the muslim religion and you're a woman you lose all your rights and your sense of indepence. and i know this from experience. i'd seriously think twice bout this marriage if i were you

Answer 10

First place have you ever heard of STD's, good god lady are you thinking. First he comes from another country that he is already married, and has no doubt slept with others. I would be afraid that he might give you more then a ring.
please think about it carefully. Take some time away, and really think about it. At least have him tested first and then think where your faith leads you.