my in-laws live 2 doors away and my father-in-law feels that he can just come up here and take stuff that dont belong to him....after 2 yrs of putting up with it i finally put my foot down....i told him stop taking my stuff (called him bunch names) and he does it again....i took it bk and said u take my sh** again im calling the cops and reporting a theft....im not that kinda person if i know ya(calling cops) but how else am i gonna get it through this guys head??
2006-06-29 03:42:40 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
talk with your husband and try and figure out what to do..reverse the situation for him so he understands..most men usually don't understand things unless you put them in your shoes.
also maybe try and take more drastic measures if the man isnt listening. change the locks on your doors, or even go into his house unannounced and take things...taking things he's actually using at the time would be pretty funny and hopefully he'll get it =]
2006-06-29 03:46:37 · answer #1 · answered by floridagirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Argh.
My mother in law is from India. When hubby's parents came here to visit four years ago she thought she could take my stuff. I would go in my kitchen and my bowls would be missing. Or, my spatulas would all be gone. One day I went in an there were no forks!
Finally, when she was going to take my Tupperware I flipped. Hubby was like 'I'll replace it'. Yeah right. He let her take all my blankets...and they've not been replaced in four years.
Anyway, hubby had a long talk with his mom. And, told her to give me back my kitchen stuff. I did go to Target to buy her some stuff. She was fascinated with pepper mills, lol! Hubby didn't realize all she was taking...
Then, the next summer hubby and I had a huge fight over what happened to the big bottle of dog shampoo. That October his mom says can you send me a bottle of that shampoo with the dog on the front? LMAO!
The woman took the dog shampoo :))
Point is, it will catch up with him in the end.
In the mean time, why doesn't your husband tell him to back off? I would make hubby call the police that way his dad gets the message that his son is just as upset as you are. Maybe he thinks oh women...they over react...
2006-06-29 10:50:47 · answer #2 · answered by Baby #3 due 10/13/09 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move away, he thinks that he can take anything because he probably thinks it belongs to his son. Tell your husband that you are planning on calling the cops if this situation continues, let him take it from there.
Jeez i would be upset to if someone keeped barging into my home and taking my things, hang in there:)
hey now that i think about it, do you think that the poor old guy is just lonely and is making up excuses just so that he can come into your home, why not make peace with him and invite him to your home more often, sometimes retired people are like that. Once my mom's friend who works in an office had a father who would show up uninvited to see her work, he would actually get a co-workers chair and sit next to his daughter for the whole day, it really bugged her that he did that but he was really lonely in his apartment all by himself and everyone tried to sympathize with him.
2006-06-29 10:47:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't your fight! Where's your spouse in all this? It's his responsibility to put his father in his place, and ensure your security as well as sanity. Family is a very interesting thing, they fight like cats and dogs yet once one is hurt by an outsider the other will stop at nothing to defend and protect the other. Well right now you are that outsider! Do you really want his entire family pegging you "public enemy #1", just in case you had any doubts- you don't! PS Get new locks and tell your spouse not to issue them a duplicate of the keys! Good Luck.
2006-06-29 10:59:41 · answer #4 · answered by v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems you have no other ways left but calling the cops. Hope he will understand it now and stop taking things. In future, I can say a sorry to him.. but before that he should realise did wrong doings. All the best..
2006-06-29 10:48:24 · answer #5 · answered by gamla007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lock your door and don't let him have a key. Also, get your spouse to help back you up on this.
2006-06-29 10:53:04 · answer #6 · answered by Leah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need a red-neck family therapist.
Good luck and have a happy life.
2006-06-29 10:47:23 · answer #7 · answered by D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask your husband to deal with it
2006-07-02 10:24:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋