If your significant other went to dinner with an old flame, would you be jealous and why?

Question

Let's say they broke up about 6 months ago. The ex calls and says that they owe their "college success" to your mate. The ex would now like to take out your mate to show their appreciation. Your mate sees nothing wrong with going. You are not invited. How do you take this?

Answer 1

not jealous maybe a little aprehensive in case the old flames sparked up again

Answer 2

Don't jump to any conclusions before you look at the entire picture.
They are no longer together for a reason. Take that reason and anylize it. Ask yourself if you have put your mate in that same position and has she forgiven you and moved like nothing happened?
Also another thing sometimes when the brake up was bad your mate would want to go to have that closure.
And if it was a mutual brake up then they will chat and compare their new found loves with one another as if chatting witgh a friend.
Been there done that and let me tell you lots of props for my mate who understood and never doubted our relationship was in jeopardy for one moment due to the love we have for each other.
Now if you guys are not in such good shape in your own relationship you maybe in trouble your mate maybe looking for a safe way out back to person who will be understanding of situation.
Just trust your mate and your instincts.

Answer 3

Mention that it makes you feel out of sorts, but don't make a big deal of it. I would think that you should let them go, maybe ask them when they plan to be back, go out with a friend in the meantime and have your S.O meet you after dinner.

Jealousy will hurt you emotionally more than them, if you can't trust them to meet an ex and have nothing happen, why stay?

Answer 4

I wouldn't speak to her for a least six months. That's no idle boast, I'd want nothing to do with her. But then, if nothing happened I'd have to give her a cuddle after three months so as she's not tempted. But in all that time she's got to be making up for it.

And I wouldn't speak to her before she goes. Not a single word. If she wants my love, and respect and adoration, then she has to play her part.

Oh, and this *is* a time to think of proposing. If she's no ring on her finger then she's pretty free. I'd tie her down with the 'bonds' of matrimony.

Answer 5

it's a bit of a slap in the face if you mate goes since they only broke up six months ago. why can't the ex just send flowers and thank you card?

Answer 6

Well, other people might say that if you trust your SO, then why get jealous or something? But I would probably be totally insecure...I for sure would not feel good about it and he's going to know that. For me, it couldn't be avoided. He has to take you to that dinner.

Answer 7

if you have trust with your love one, you don't have to worry about a thing. that's what i always tell my husband cause im friends with my ex-husband. he appreciate our friendship and we do eat out during lunch period. then i tell my husband what we discuss so he is aware what is it all about. as long as you are honest and you assure him how you feel about everything else, there is no issue in the relationship.

Answer 8

hey if i was not invited i would not let my boyfriend go, it is obvious that she just wants to be alone with him. If i were you i would go anyway and sit between them and order food for yourself and stare at her alot until she feels uncomfortable and decides to leave early.

Answer 9

Hmm... depends on how and why their relationship ended. I'd be a little suspicious. But would try not to show it.

Answer 10

my boyfriend goes to lunch with his ex sometimes AND she still emails him..and he saves her emails.. makes me kind of scared more than jealous...but a tad jealous yes....

you just have to trust your significant other...EASiER SAiD THAN DONE i know.

good luck!