My dad is kinda different. He wants to know everuthing in my life. Personally, i dont want to tell him. My dad has changed from fussing over everything, to being a very calm person. Dont ask how he done, long story, but he didnt do anything illegal, i just dont feel like typing that up here. Anyway, he works swing shift, so anything i do it has to be worked around his schedule. So if i want to hang around friends i am use to going around his schedule. Here recently he just has told me that i can go by myself to the movies if my grades are up. Shoud i tell my dad whats going on in my life?
2006-06-29 03:23:46 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes, why not. As long as your dad isn't abusive, which is doesn't sound like (but correct me if I'm wrong) - and it sounds like he wants to be involved in your life - he may not be going about it the right way, but its probably how he shows he cares.
2006-06-29 03:27:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, the more communication you have with your father the better the 2 of you can understand each others wants and needs. It is very hard to try and figure out everything if you don't know anything about your daughter or son. If he is reaching out then this is a good thing, be glad he wants to know what is going on in your life a lot of kids don't have that with their parents and they need it. Sometimes you think your life is too private or personal and need help with things and he can help if you give him a chance, believe it or not I am sure he has been down that very similar road with his parents. So don't be afraid to talk to your father, if he loves you he won't scorn you if you are honest and open with him. Trust me it will be a lot worse if he finds out things later on his own, then what? Things are a lot easier when you know you havew parents that care and listen to you. Do what is right, talk to him.
2006-06-29 03:32:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should open up to your dad. It's best if you do it in his element-like, a golf course or a patio- so he's comfortable and his answers will be better thought out. You don't have to tell your dad everything at first, just the simple stuff-school, friends,etc.- and then, if all goes well, you can tell him the more private stuff. You might be surprised what he says. Even if your dad has a busy schedule, tell him you just want to talk and he'll find a way to spend time just for you. Good Luck!! :)
2006-06-29 03:31:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom did the same thing when I was younger and to this day I tell her everything. I am in my 30's and I can't picture her not being there to talk to. Just remember that your dad loves you and will be there to help. A thought towards the future is wouldn't you want your children to be comfortable enough to talk to you about their lives? If you have that kind of relationship with your dad it will be a natural thing to teach your children.
2006-06-29 03:33:52 · answer #4 · answered by lost momma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my girls were your age, they complained about us wanting to know what was going on in their lives. It's not about controling, but about caring. It seems your dad wants you to do well in school and start being more responsible. Your growing up probably scares him, there's a lot of bad things out in the big world and we all want to see our sons and daughters safely through to adulthood.. When my girls became adults, they actually called their dad and thanked him for caring so much and
apologized for being pains in the neck. Give your dad a chance to be part of your life. Don't shut him out - you won't regret it.
However, your dad should expect to hear some things he doesn't particularly agree with. He should be willing to discuss them with you and hopefully you two can reach compromises.
2006-06-29 03:32:25 · answer #5 · answered by Josie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all your dad is doing is trying to be a father... he's interested in his child, and wants the best for her. it sounds like he's a little over protective though...
yes, tell him whats going on.. pehaps not everything at first, but give him some info. He just wants to make sure you're ok and be part of your life. Give him that chance.
2006-06-29 03:28:40 · answer #6 · answered by jaysen_07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can trust him (and you have to decide that for yourself), tell him what's going on in your life. I get the impression that he's trying to be a good father, but, of course, I don't know everything. What do you mean by "kinda different"? This comment and the "long story" allusion disturbed me somewhat. What's up?
2006-06-29 03:37:14 · answer #7 · answered by In Honor of Moja 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there if u feel u want to tell him do that...
I just think he is probably worried, but doesn't want to tell u that he is.
Have u sat down with him and told him how u feel about all of this?
As i can understand he works diffident hours....
My dad was the same, but as i got older it stop, im 23 now.
Now and again he'll ask me about my bf or where i was the previous nite...
My advice is give it time...Talk to him...
Hope this could help u...
2006-06-29 03:34:20 · answer #8 · answered by Dragongirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say let your Gard down i dint know the history between the two of you but i do know that you only get one dad and if hes wanting to try you should give him the chance no one is perfect but you don't want to miss out on the moments ahead because moments are priceless you don't want to be in a cycle of non forgiveness take life with open arms and love and you'll be allot more happy and you might find out that you can relate to something your dad says to make you all closer
2006-06-29 03:29:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should. If you want to keep some things personal, that's okay. But getting your dad involved will make him feel good and he might stop involving himself as much in your personal life if he feels that you already involve him. If you tell him, it is a win-win solution.
2006-06-29 03:26:58 · answer #10 · answered by blah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋