How do you deal with family members who are selfish?

Question

and only care about themselves?

Answer 1

i have some people like that in my family because of this i do not have anything to do with them .i will not waste my time on people like that .that is me

Answer 2

Selfish Family Members

Answer 3

Wow, this is a tuffy!
It is very hard to work with family member that are selfish, I have some of those. But all you can do is love them as they are. You don't have to hang around them either be mean or talk about them, they are still your family. We all have differences and our bad side, and others have to accept how we are. Talk to them when they are in a good mood and in a moment they are in need of other and they might understand that they have been selfish and their world might change.
Also, talk to them about Jesus, how he change many of the same kind of selfishness. This works all the time. You will see tiers running down their nose.
Blessing my child.

Answer 4

You must be somehow related to someone in my family and as I always say when this happens to me....grab the shears and start pruning the family tree. It doesn't mean your cutting those family members off, but until they get back into the right frame of mind, you don't want anything to do with them. (It takes up too much energy to deal with family BS) And when the time comes up that they are behaving nicely, let that branch of your tree grow back. You have your own life to live and your daughter is the most important family you have. I wouldn't worry about any of it. You did nothing wrong. Stick to you guns and never back down. Good Luck!

Answer 5

Tell them how you feel. Just make sure that they can't come back at you for somethig. You need to be honest and straight forward. It may cause some friction but you may never feel better if you don't speak up. Also they may never change if you don't say anything either. I'm sure that you don't want to hurt their feelings but look at how it has made you and or maybe even other family members feel. You might want to talk to someone in your family who you trust. Good luck and I hope that everything works out for you.

Answer 6

Personally, I cut them out of my life altogether, but mine were extremely Narcissistic. They have traits that a typical 6 year old display, and it is so frustrating to deal with them.

If your family member's behavior stems from Narcissistic Personality Disorder, you have to either learn coping mechanisms, or decide whether it is worth keeping them in your life. I chose the latter because I simply couldn't find the patience to endure their behavior.

Here is a great link to read, and compare their behaviors to NPD. Scroll down a bit and you'll know right away if this fits your situation.

Good luck!

Answer 7

When I have family that appear to be selfish, I tell those how I feel
right away. Also I am clear on what is unacceptable to me. This seems to work most of the time. The point of communicating without offending is key. Good luck!

Answer 8

I hate to say this but I have a sister who is terrible. She has money but wouldn't help anyone if they were dying. She pinches pennies when it comes to buying someone a birthday present or Christmas gift. Yet she flys to Reno and Vegas several times a year. She won't buy anything unless its on sale and that includes clothes. She always hits the clearance racks and buys things ahead and puts them back until she needs a present for someone.
Truthfully I just ignore her it's the best thing I can do.

Answer 9

Just remember that it is usually the selfish ones who eventually end up alone in life. A relationship of any kind is a matter of both give and take.

Answer 10

my daughters father is like that,since he's the only one that works-he thinks raising our kid and cleaning the house and taking care of every animal HE brings home..is my responsibility.In a way it is...but he could at least take out the trash and show some kind of interest in our kid. I'm about to leave for awhile and hopefully that will teach him

Answer 11

Sometimes I ask myself the same question. (my husband, lol.) The same answer keeps emerging... I have to get a job and provide for myself. I don't know if the same would apply for you, but talk to the family members and tell them how you feel.