well he ask if we could be friends but i want more then that and he is getting marryed now and it hurts me i keep saying it should have been me and i cry myself to sleep every night and i dream about him and wake up sometimes crying my eyes out i have tryed to move on and date other people but they do me wrong like say i have to have sex with them sick crap like that and when that happens i get to thinking about how sweet my ex"s was to me he respcted me alot were others have not i still love him so much and miss him alot i miss haveing some one to hold me in there arms but mostly his arms it hurts so much to know he is getting marryed see he wanted to be friends because his job got in the way why is it when i find a nices sweet guy like him there job gets in the way please help tell me what to do i send him a wedding card in the mail trying to be nices but i am hurting my heart says he is the right guy for me and he is the only one for me i thought i could stop looking??? help??????
2006-06-29 03:14:58 · 7 answers · asked by betty m 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If you can't be friends with him without "wanting" him you need to back away and respect the woman who is now his wife. He chose her not you and the bond that they have now is sacred.
You will find someone else to love you and treat you right but first you need to get over what you can't have and learn to love yourself.
2006-06-29 03:32:18 · answer #1 · answered by Brandie C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His job got in the way? If he really loved you, his job wouldn't have gotten in the way, he'd have figured out something to do.
Knowing you love him still, he wants to be friends. You can't be just friends with him, now, obviously. Maybe sometime in the future, years from now, when you have your own husband you like better--but that husband probably won't want your old boyfriend around!
Thinking he's sweet isn't going to help you, thinking he's a jerk who dropped you will help you more. If there aren't any good guys around don't go out--just wait and learn to be yourself. Probably your parents would like to see you and get to know you before you get married and start your own family! Spend time with your siblings and friends. One of them may know the person you're going to end up marrying!
His wife does not want a card from you.
2006-07-10 19:20:50 · answer #2 · answered by Plain and Simple 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve someone that will love you and want to be with you. You need to cut yourself out of your ex's life. Emerge yourself in other activities - work, school, fun activities. I know firsthand how hard this can be, but in time it gets easier. When you are least expecting it, another man will sweep you off your feet and you when you look back, you will wonder why you were ever even sad over this one. So dry up your tears, getting involved in your life and you will slowly feel better.
2006-07-01 15:05:14 · answer #3 · answered by Coolie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i did the same thing you did and I was with girl for 6 months and I broken up with her and married someone else and knowing that it didn't work out for 6 months of marriage I left. Try to have my ex-girlfriend for 6months try to get her back in my life and for last 5years she didn't want to see me and I been going with alot of different girls and I kept on myself I want her back and then finally June 1997 I told her my last chance to see you if you don't want to see me and I will go back home in Washington state. I live in Califorina, She said yes and we met and knew we meant for eachother got married oct 1997 and now we are still married for almost 9 years in oct. 2006. have 2 wonderful kids.
Yes you should be his friend and who knows it might happen like me. and if you still love your ex-boyfriend and just be his friend and be there for him. It took me 5 years for me have her back in my life and move on and keep in touch with him. and don't wait for him too long. Wish you luck.
2006-07-09 00:36:40 · answer #4 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop talking to him. Move on. I assure you that he is not half as worried about you as you are about him. You're are looking for feelings that aren't even there.
2006-07-05 04:02:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it b/c he is over you...some people are better off being friends and not lovers
2006-07-11 02:40:42 · answer #6 · answered by Lady B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a personal problem to me...he dumped you...why waste time being delusional?
2006-07-07 13:12:53 · answer #7 · answered by uranus2mars 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋