A Kinda stupid question for the white and black girls out there?

Question

I'm East Indian, and I just wanted to have a sort of general opinion what you girls thought about men of that race? I see so many girls from those races who are beautiful both physically and as a person, but I can never ask them out or nothing coz I got this mental block that they wouldn't be seen dead with as Asian (that is Indian) bloke? So I just wanted to ask, if I'm not hideous and (well let's suppose) I'm a nice person, would yous not go out with me just coz of my race?

Thanks for the lovely answers, peeps, real confidence booster.....btw, just to make this clear, my doubts were on race, not nationality....I live in the UK.

Answer 1

You shouldn't be too worried about it. I won't lie to you and tell you that there aren't some girls who would never date someone outside of their own race, but for the most part, as long as you treat a girl right and you are a good person with a nice personality, we won't care what race you are. I am in an interracial relationship. I'm white and my boyfriend is black. We've been together for over 5 years. We've definetely gotten some pretty mean looks from the older generations and have had to hear lextures from both of our families. But after a while, people settle down and see the person for who they really are and stop seeing just their skin color. It's not an easy situation to be in sometimes, but your love for your boyfriend/girlfriend will always see you through those hard times. I hope you find someone who will love you for the wonderful person that you are and don't judge you based on your appearance. You seem like such a sweet person and the girl that finds you will be lucky to have someone like you to love and care for her just as much as I'm sure you will feel lucky to have her. Good luck sweetheart!

Answer 2

I'm sure you are a wonderful person and you deserve to be with someone who is equally nice and wonderful too (no matter what race) Don't get bogged down with what "other" people think of your race, because everyone has opinions and sometimes they are negative and other times positive. Be confident in who you are as a person... And look for a person who respects and appreciates you as an individual.

Get rid of your mental block and begin with having positive friendships with people who you enjoy being around. Approach a woman as a gentleman with a "getting to know you" kinda attitude and don't put pressure on yourself to wonder if they like you based on your race. If you are afraid to ask someone out.. maybe you need to make it more casual. A group of you can get to gether and have a game night (you know play guesstures, jenga, monopoly etc..) or some other group activity to just have some innocent fun... and maybe you might make a connection after a few events like that with one person.

If someone likes you it should be because you're a decent, kind, great guy to be around. Start there and the rest will fall into place naturally.

Answer 3

People of all races can be beautiful (& ugly!). A person's skin colour would have no bearing whatsoever on whether or not I would go out with them. There are obviously cultural differences to take into account but as far as I am concerned, that would only make the relationship more interesting (provided of course family do not get in the way!)
However, unfortunately there are some shallow people out there who wouldn't date a guy from a different race.
I would suggest before you ask anyone out, regardless of colour, you should get to know them first. Once you feel the chemistry with them, then ask them out!

Answer 4

If I weren't happily married, I'd go out with you. What does race matter as long as you're a decent, respectful, nice guy.

I think people make too much over the "race" issue. People should be judged (and dated) for who they are as people, not what race they belong too.

You'll probably be turned down by some girls, but it might not have anything to do with your race.

Good luck in finding someone.

Answer 5

I personally don't care what nash a guy is, i think its so cool to see a guy and a girl of different races, and i must admit i've liked an Indian guy before. Girls usually aren't as superficial when talking bout the opposite sex as guyz. So i think you'll be fine, yeah if I liked you (in that way) i'd definately go out with you .. irrispective of your nationality

Answer 6

well, idelly, race should not matter but it does, i would not date an indian person because of the religious and cultural differences and not particularly because of the race and ehnicity!!!!
Besides, individuals have different preferences so I think if you see a girl you fancy, have a go at asking them out, you never know, they might have a thing for indian men!!!!

Answer 7

You may be a nice person, but I will be honest and say "yes" that I would not go out with you because of your race. I have been in discussions with family over this one before and came to agree with my parents on this one. Being friends on the other hand is different, but I just personally do not believe in Interracial dating

Answer 8

i'm white and i would't have a problem, personally!! I think that some women who are of a different race to you may be a bit wary of showing interest in Asian men because they think that all asians are of a religion which doesn't allow them to be with people of other races, such as Hinduism. I wouldn't take it personally, if I were you! xxx

Answer 9

Wildhoney,

The only type of person that would not go out with you because of your heritage would be a racist.
You seem kind of shy though. What the heck, ask a girl out the worst that could happen is that she says no. The best that could happen is that she says yes.
Even if you don't develop a lasting relationship, you may find a friend who has a friend!

Answer 10

The Indian guys at the 7-11 by my house seem to be nice.