how do I handle my quarreling Mother-in-law?

Answer 1

take her to the law

Answer 2

Don't tell them every time you're angry and frustrated and having problems in your marriage, they hear that, but they don't hear when you make up.

You need to talk to your spouse without pointing fingers, let them know how this makes you feel.

Rise above the mother-in-law, and don't give into her when she argues, try to change the subject. Or humm a little song to yourself, and let her think she right. She may get bored, and realize this is not working.

Or just ask her calmly why???????? Tell her you no longer want to continue the conversation while she is trying to argue. And leave it at that. If you argue back you are giving in to what she wants.

Best of luck

Answer 3

Give her a pair of boxing gloves and tell her there are alot of people on the streets that love to fight and quarrel. Go find them and may the best "man" win. Then oust her out the door and lock it behind you.

Answer 4

Get your spouse's support and the two of you talk to the mother-in-law. Be respectful but let her know that you're living your own lives, not hers. But do remember, she's concerned for her child. Make sure you let her know that anytime they need her advice or help you'll let her know. If talking to her doesn't work, you may have to limit your time with her. I use the caller id on my phone to limit my contact with my mother-in-law sometimes. She's not really that bad but she can be needy and clingy.

Answer 5

what i have found is that in this world there are people who will just aggravate you for no reason and the ones who do it the worst sometimes are the ones you have to be nice to.

i would let her think she was always right at least to some degree and try to always let her get her way.

then i would go home with my husband and kids if i had them and be thankful for the safety of my own home, my own territory,

she is your husbands mother. the one good thing she did was giving you the man you love most of all so in that she has at least one good quality.

then i would confide to my OWN mother what a byotch that woman really is. and your mom - of corse- will totally side with you .

sometimes, knowing you are right is it's own satisfaction. not allowing you mother in law to upset you - is having control over your own emotions. don't let her get to you.

Answer 6

Priya Darling........accept that a war is going on between you and your saans.COLD/HOT doesnt matter. Dont be a loser.But dont fight with her too. For some time choose to be deaf, and tell yourself no matter what you are not going to be hyper for her. For a change, make dishes of her choice, buy tings which she is fond of....... To win a war, it is not necessary to be in the field anf fight, some great wars can too be won just by using your brain and not swords........got it

Answer 7

well if she is a nag or a worry wart let it be she is being that way due to love. If she is a **** stirrer then you must speak with your hubby and get the woman to back up. It can be a huge dent in your marriage

Answer 8

i refuse to go see mine, she is rude, and arrogant and thinks her opinion is the only one that is right. So by ignoring her I don't have to be made to feel like i did something wrong when i am 28 and married with my own house and a decent job.

Answer 9

Learn self control - anytime you meet people who tends to bother your way of life, you need to learn to block out this behavior and accept the good qualities they may have. if they have none you see then learn to ignore them.

Anytime you have a problem with other people the real problem is in ourselves. We can either learn to block it out or let it consume us and learn to deal with never finding contentment.

Answer 10

You and your husband MUST have a united front. When she is out of line in her treatment of you, he must be willing to stand up to her and let her know that her behavoir wont be tolerated.