My wife wants mutual divorce and i am against it. my sons are 13 and 6 yrs old.what are my rights.?

Question

we have been married for the past 15 yrs and now my wife wants mutual consent and i am not for it.She now wants to go to the court in case i dont agree for mutual.I am scared that my sons will be affected and also their future.I still love my wife and my 2 sons 13 and 6.I cant think of a life without them.But my wife is insisting on mutual consent and infact wants it to be done by july 1st week.I asked her whether she is in love with anyone to which she said no,so i asked her then why after 15 yrs,she is not giving a reasonable answer.I dont want to drag her to the court and tarnish her name,but she is not leaving me any option.she says she will definitely apply for divorce.I cant live without her.Please help me.im more depressed than beforeand as such living away from my family for the past 4 months and visit my sons only during week ends.Life has no meaning for me.What should i do?she has hysterical problems and she refused to be treated for the same.I want us together with children.

Answer 1

how do the kids feel adout it
it works well if you can live close to each other, or keep the kids in the same school

Answer 2

It's over. You have to understand that. You are definitely headed for a divorce. Unfortunately that's the future for more then half of marriages so it's something that we all need to keep in the back of our minds. The past 4 months is what you can look forward, too. Weekend Visits and stuff like that. I know there are kids involved but you can't make her stay with you. Your kids will be effected in a bad way if you stay together. Just show a good example to your kids by letting her go. Technically, all divorces are "mutual" because both parties have to agree to separate so it's not admitting any guilt. Just sign the papers.

Answer 3

Your wife is adament about getting this divorce. Either you and her can make things as easy as possible or make it harder than it has to be. Fighting and disagreeing isn't going to solve anything. While you and her won't be living together as a family anymore, you can still put your sons first. Be there for them always and do the very best you can. Sometimes things in life don't always turn out the way we want them to or expect them to. These things happen to the best of us. Stop with the "life has no meaning" you have 2 kids that are depending on you.

Answer 4

First mistake u committed was living away from ur family. running away will not solve ur problem. Go back immediately.

Secondly wifes like a strong minded husband. I do not deny that u r in tension but it should not affect ur behaviour.

Find out who is supporting or backing her for her actions.

Find out whether it is a planned move on her part....i mean was she working for some time on getting the divorce before letting u know

Is your wife earning ? There are many more issues all of which cannot be replied here.

I know someone who has faced similar situation like you. If you are keen on finding a solution plz email me at [e-mail]

All the best :)

Answer 5

I went through this sort of thing with my parents, and it was very hard. My father was the culprit in our case, and, although he swore there wasn't another woman, he was lying his head off. From all that you say, I believe your wife is seeing someone else, but you have to keep a cool head. It is all too easy in this situation to go off the deep end, and explode. However, you MUST keep your sons in mind, and keep yourself together for them. My mother's lawyer told my mother and me to find out for sure what he was up to. Later, we actually caught him with his mistress. You need legal advice like my mother had, and someone to help you find out the truth, perhaps a private detective with a good camera. Most of all, PLEASE remember your sons before you do anything illegal or drastic. They need you more than you know, and you may be able to obtain custody of them if you can prove your wife to be an unfit mother. As my mother learned, you can't make your spouse love you if he or she wants to move on. For now, get yourself together emotionally and resolve to learn the truth, which can lead to obtaining custody of your sons. I will pray for you, and think about you often. May God bless you and your family, particularly your precious sons.

Answer 6

If she wants the divorce, there is nothing you can do to stop this. your sons will be ok if you have the divorce, (my sister-in-law just got a divorce after 13yr of mariage and they have a 13yr son) they share custody, they didnt get the courts involved or lawyers. my brother let her go , even though HE LOVED HER TOO. but since she was getting out he didnt want the courts or lawyers to be involved.
so try and stay calm and friends with your wife for the sake of the kids. dont make the courts decide this, your boys will hurt more if they see that you fight with their mom more.
so be calm and grant her this. its her choice you should let her do this for herself.

Answer 7

Of course this is going to affect the kids but you can NOT make someone stay with you if they do not want to be with you. It doesn't matter if you fight her about the divorce or not...she is gone. Seek counseling for you and the children to prepare you for the next chapter in your lives. It will be hard but why would you want to be with someone who does not want to be with you. B' well

Answer 8

IF she is intent on getting the divorce there is nothing you can do. You could fight for your sons, that way they would be with you. Maybe she will get help before its too late, if not then I wish you the best of luck

Answer 9

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