Do ANY women out there think that the feminist movement sold us a pack of lies?

Question

I think that motherhood is the most important job a woman can ever have. We women now not only have motherhood, housework and wifely duties now we GET to work outside of the house too. I think many of us would love to stay home with our children but being "Only a wife and mother" is not an option or respected anymore. How do you feel?

Personally I think women should be feminine and men masculine. I think there are differneces.

Answer 1

Geez, I'd be nuts in no time if I had to stay at home with my kids and the chores, and nothing beyond that. Yes motherhood is beautiful, but it must be shared with fatherhood, and there is much more to life than pots, pans and diapers. I love having a job, I work since I was 17, I love my kids and my husband but no way I'd be a SAH mom. No thanks!
BTW motherhood is NOT a job.
Besides, you won't be forced to be a mother, or to have a job outside of the house, You're free to choose. Do whatever you please, but don't expect the others to think like yourself.

Answer 2

I think the feminist movement as it is now has done it's good but at times can go to an extreme. I think working outside the home should be a choice. Not all women choose motherhood; that choice for me was made long ago since I cannot have children. For me it would be pointless to stay home all day unless I'm on vacation. I went to college and have a career and I'm happy with that.

I don't put down people who choose to stay home it is personal choice. I don't think a person should be forced either way. Actually it was my father, not my mother, that told me I could be anything I wished to be.

Answer 3

I think that it is great to have a wife that stays home and takes care of the family, if that is what SHE wants to do, but some women want to work and wanted to work during the feminist movement. The movement was not about going out and working, it was about having the option to decide among other options that were not available to women. With work came money and the freedom to buy what they wanted and not what they were allowed to buy. Most consumer ads up until the 60s were still targeted at women and contained products for the home.

It was all about options. Now, women do have that option, but unfortunately, your are right and society does not widely accept the idea of "housewife" anymore.

In any case, either option to work or raise a family, I respect her for making the dicision and not having it dictated to her.

Answer 4

The feminist movement is not just about work. Earlier struggles were for simpler things like sitting with your husband in church or being able to wear pants or have an equal vote. The whole feminist struggle is still going on to keep women from being second class citizens - think not only of women in burkhas but also religious pressure to not use birth control. Women still generally earn less than men and are not taken seriously in business transactions. Work outside the home was respected not as duty but as a means to financial and social independence, so that each woman could develop to the fullest of her ability...perhaps even be President of the United States one day.

The truth is that the feminist movement is about equality in all things. Housework is to be shared by those who occupy the house and motherhood is equal to fatherhood. Child raising needs both aspects and cooperative duties to achieve true harmony and mutual respect. Feminism is not about separate gender zones but about human decency and sympathy and peace.

The reason that feminism is stalled is the ancient biblical imperitives about a man being master of the house and women considered chattel are still being propounded. The church rules were made to dominate women to guarantee paternity and loyalty. It doesn't work, of course, unless the women are willing accomplices to their own domination. That is why women continue to pitch their own daughters into this archaic and unhealthy arrangement and send their sons off to die in foreign countries and triumph when they come home dead on a shield.

Answer 5

I totally agree! Of course, I'm in my 50's and lived through the 'birth" of the women's movement. Personally, I liked having doors opened for me and seats given up for me.
I think that when the gender rolls became blurred, other things came about. Respect for women diminished. Children left to their own devices found ways to fill their time after school without the supervision of a parent being home. Respect for parents diminished.
Having two cars and exotic vacations - bigger houses and bigger cars became the norm. Then a working mother became necessary to support the "better" likestyle. I could live with a smaller house, "family" vacations that focused on doing things together, and the other things that included "old fashioned" values.
Yes, running a household, being a wife and mother and working outside the home...... SO much "better" than "just" being a stay at home, raise your own family, don't you think?

Answer 6

well, being a feminist means that cooperate with your partner - so both parents take care of the children, house, etc. but this is an ideal, I know
men keep leaving children as our responsibility plus the housework plus you're expected to have a career too
my advice - get a nanny, a gardener and a cleaning help once a week or so. then you can have a career, and be a mother, a wife and a friend. it's not perfect but it can work nicely, because the quality of time is important not the quantity

Answer 7

Wow, it's such a refreshing question to come down the pike after listening to two or three decades of gung-ho, all-out college sorority pledging and the bra-burning generation... lol. Of course I mean that in jest --hehe.

But I do see your point and it is well taken. MOTHERHOOD is such a formidable job that no male chauvinist pig could even dare sneeze at. Just show me a house-band or Mr. Mom who's ever tried it for a week or two, with toddler kids and a baby in tow 24/7 and I'll show you a husband who has learned to put his BETTER-HALF high up on a pedestal. Seriously!

CHANGE is good, as they say, and we're supposed to accept it whether we like it or don't. Now the modern woman can choose to be on the pedestal at home or at her corner office.

I still prefer the former ways though. Guess I'm from the old school...

Peace be with you!

Answer 8

Working wives and mothers are very under appreciated. The work at home is unending. The work outside the home is very seldom enough to pay the bills and pay for child care. It is an unending struggle for most women, especially single parents. Why it is not respected anymore is beyond me. Raising children is THE most important job. Our children have to be taught so many things it's impossible to name them all and most of the time it is the mothers responsibility. How our children develop into adulthood is in our hands. That's really difficult to do, if your only with your children a few hours a day.

Answer 9

Yes I do,I have had the privilege to stay home with my kids by working from home and I sure do agree.There have been so many people comment on how behaved my kids are and I know that it is for this reason that they do,they are also more considerate of other people also.They are grown now and when they were young there were some times that were emotionally hard being home all the time but it has paid off,we enjoy each other.

Answer 10

I am not a feminist, lets say I am an "equalist".
I think both men and women have their place in our society and both have the right to pick its own place.
Since we live in a world, where the machism is still predominat, your values are easely and confortably acepted by most of people.
Now, what about those woman whom don't feel like you do? Should they be unhappy for the rest of their lives because they were born women and have not right to have or choose what makes them happy?
Let's go for some facts now. Most housewifes, those woman whom takes care of the home and the family, tends also to be the ones whom most suffers abuse form her husband, boyfriend or partner. I am not saying that all housewives are abused by their husbands, but in general this is the category whom more suffers this type of crime when comapaired with the woman whom doesn't live to raise a child or take care of her husband or boyfriend and home.
The incidents of adultery is also higher in families where the women worked on taken care of the home and family herse.It's much more common to find a women whom dedicated most part of her life working for her family and home be alone in the beggining of a her senior life, because her lifetime's partner, dumped her over a younguer women. Again, I am not saying this all are limited to housewifes, but it's more more common to happening to them.
The creation of law and rights archived by the feminist movement helped to drop the number of crimes commited by men against women. Is incorrect to states that feminist sold us a pack of lies, when overall its brought us more benefits, since more of us, day by day are getting more protection.
Unfortunetly isn't every women whom live in a lifestyle, where the men whom are part of her world, is educated enough to respect and treat his partner as another human bean.