I'm in love with him
2006-06-28 22:40:57 · 18 answers · asked by Kristen C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, how long have you known him and how long have you been dating him. Be careful not to confuse "Love" for "Puppy love".
Second, how well do you know his friends and family? What have they told you about him?
If you have not known him very long and/or you have not met his friends or family - you need to know more about him.
From there, I would suggest that you make 2 lists about him. On the first list, write out all of his good, great, and wonderful qualities. On the second list, write out all of his bad, terrible and negative qualities. It is very important that you be totally honest on both lists and don't hold back if it could be negative.
Once you have your lists, read each positive quality with the phrase: MY IDEAL MAN IS A MAN WHO...
Your positive list might look like this:
My ideal man is a man who is very affectionate and caring.
My ideal man is a man who has a great sense of humor.
My ideal man is a man who is a very good cook.
My ideal man is a man who is very romantic.
My ideal man is a man who is tall and athletic.
My ideal man is a man who loves me despite my faults.
Now use the same list with his negative traits. If any of the negative list sounds something like this:
My ideal man is a man who spends too much time with his friends.
My ideal man is a man who doesn't communicate very well.
My ideal man is a man who watches too much sports.
My ideal man is a man who smokes cigarettes.
My ideal man is a man who lacks romance.
My ideal man is a man who doesn't clean after himself. ... Don't give up. You can talk to him, express your concerns and see if he is willing to make the necessary changes to make you happier. If he is not - are the issues something you can live with or not?
If any of the negative list sounds something like this:
My ideal man is a man who is physically/sexually/emotionally abusive.
My ideal man is a man who constantly lies to me.
My ideal man is a man who can't hold a job.
My ideal man is a man who has a gambling problem.
My ideal man is a man who lacks fidelity.
My ideal man is a man who doesn't have time for me. ... RUN AWAY!!! The last 2 lists might seem ridiculous (especially the last one) but if you think about it - a lot of people put up with (and live with) the most ridiculous of situations.
If you feel that your negative list for him is livable and not too ridiculous for you - you might have found the right guy - just don't rush anything. Remember, it is a two-way street and he should make the same lists about you. This will encourage communication and help you both work towards a common goal of complimenting each others lives.
Good luck and all the best to you!
2006-06-28 22:59:33 · answer #1 · answered by mgctouch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would know if he's the one when you both can talk about anything & everything.
-You won't be bored by his topics & he wont be bored by yours.
-You can't tell each other HOW much you're in love.
-You will both be able to talk about your relationship & the future to come.
You would also know if he's the one when he tells you he loves you everyday..
-Make sure he knows you love him.
-Make sure you know he loves you.
-If he's the one,he'll feel the same about you & say that he loves you any time of the day.
-He will tell you you're beautiful with tears & makeup streaming down your face.
-He will only make you cry when you want to.
-He can make you laugh & smile .
2006-06-28 22:46:28 · answer #2 · answered by inurface012391 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just know, if he makes you happy by just being in the same room, or you think about him when your not together. If you love even his bad habits lol, if you can see yourself old with this guy then you know he is the one. It is just a feeling you get.
2006-06-28 22:46:39 · answer #3 · answered by flower123ca 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you wont, Just ask yourself: Can I See My Self With this person in the next 20 years? If You can do that and he can to then you guys are meant to be. Like I can see myself with the person im with now for the next 20 years. She can too.
2006-06-28 22:52:29 · answer #4 · answered by infa_red19 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it ride.
You love him he loves you.. the next thing you know its 10 yrs later and things are still as they were
you love him and he loves you.
if its forever it will be .. if not then it wont.
fate will decide.
just let it ride.
2006-06-28 22:59:19 · answer #5 · answered by timberleigh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't! You have to take a risk and suffer like the rest of us if it doesn't turn out. Life is short.
2006-06-28 22:43:27 · answer #6 · answered by UN1C0RN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spend more time together and get to know him even deeper and see weather he is trully in love with you. get to know his parents also and see what his background is from his family. see the result after a fight (if it happens) and see weather he is loyal and cares about you.
2006-06-28 22:48:31 · answer #7 · answered by Navarro Wee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never will know. Does he have the same feelings for you?
Life is full of changes, and one of them are (unfortunately) relationships.
2006-06-28 22:46:49 · answer #8 · answered by john's brat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you imagine being old together? Do you trust him? Does he look after you and vice-versa? All good signs.
Have a happy life.
2006-06-28 22:43:28 · answer #9 · answered by gail_hurd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you can tell to be honest. how long have you been with him? do you trust him? has he hurt you?? ask your self these questions and if they are all positive i supose thats a little bit of a hellp
2006-06-28 22:45:55 · answer #10 · answered by ailbhe r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋