Been ages since I asked about him, I know very little beside a name, and Im afraid to upset my mother asking, shes 68, he may be deceased, But I am curious to know other sibs and anything about him, can I bring this up once more with her?
2006-06-28 21:20:19 · 14 answers · asked by smilingbluelady 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
same with me i only kno his name i never asked my mom now its to late she died some time ago ill never kno my dad
i say ya go ask her be4 its to late
2006-06-28 21:24:04 · answer #1 · answered by Jimmy James 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you think meeting him would help you i say yes, ask her. I don't know how it feels to grow up without any knowledge about my father. All i know is that if ever i would find myself in your shoes, i would feel incomplete. I ofcourse would want to know the other person who created my being. Nobody is perfect and i would want to learn things my mother would not have been able to share with me. If he were to be deceased, it dosen't mean you should stop searching for him. There must be some memories of him coming from some close relatives. Atleast you have something of your father. It would be a relief don't you think?
2006-06-28 21:37:51 · answer #2 · answered by greenpeas03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I divorce when my son was 2 and daughter 6 months old.They never knew him , but I lied and said your dad wrote ( as they became 3 -6 years old .Because all the other kids had daddies where is my daddy .And sayind across USA just wasn't right .When they became bigger I'd tell them about him and I dating, our wedding ( all the good esp. how they were the best babies in the world ) Finally at 18 years old my son said Can you find my dad so I can meet him? He needed it , we talked and I located him. He met his dad and my daughter did too. They was no bonding and they said hello / visited him. To my surpise he told the truth .My kids just left it at that .Never went back to visit , never called him nor did he call them again.Your mom may know how to contact him. Ask family memebers,I beleive it is important .Start with last known state , he lived in.Social security ( take your birth cerificate) with you , they can tell you if he is alive .And what his last known address was / is .Good luck !
2006-06-28 21:50:49 · answer #3 · answered by Fairy Tale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I left my husband when my son was first born because he was abusive and I never wanted him to hurt my son or did I want my son to see his dad hurt me. He has never seen his dad.
As a mom, I can only tell you that I always want what is best for my child. If my child came to me and asked (and was old enough to make good responsible decisions)............I would do all that I could to help him/her find the father. It wouldn't hurt my feelings to think that he wants to meet his dad. It is a curiousity that needs to be fulfilled. Bring it up to her and tell her you have been thinking about it a lot, you love her so much, but your curiousity to know what he looks like, etc. is really bothering you and you want to meet him. Reassure her that you will look closely at his character and remain safe at all times.
2006-06-29 00:23:06 · answer #4 · answered by heartwhisperer2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know who my father is. I might like to see him from a distance. Just to see what he looked like. I have a health issue that comes up at the doctors office and hospital once in awhile. Doctors ask about family history, I have to say unknown. Maybe that is a way to approach your mother? You might be surprised at what your mother knows . She might be protecting you in her mind. Does she have any friends that might help you with out her knowing? My mothers friend said she would help me but she passed before we could get together.
2006-06-28 21:51:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try to get as much info as possible before your mom passes away, but brace yourself for the worst... and I mean the worse. In jail for murder, raped your mother, terrible stuff like that... Hopefully not the case, but you don't want to have some idealized image of this person before you meet him. The disappointment will kill you.
2006-06-28 21:29:45 · answer #6 · answered by Athenart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there my lady,
well, I think yes, you should :) a family is not a family if there's one of the members is not there.
a family is a feeling and a concrete physics form. of father, mother, bros, and sis.
you must have this empty space inside you for ages... you should find your heart, find it and put it all together, no matter how hard... heart is worth to fight for :)
go for it my lady...
good luck
2006-06-28 21:26:37 · answer #7 · answered by wilsonboncu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
h*ll yeah,i would do anything i could..that would be another chapter in your life that you could write..i dont see why your mother wouldnt want you to meet him unless there are personal reasons she doesnt want you to know about..dont be afraid,just ask your mom or should i say"tell" your mom that you are going to do what you can to meet him and it would be much easier on you if she were to just help you
2006-06-28 21:26:19 · answer #8 · answered by bubba o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i only know my dad's name too, my mother has never refused to talk about him but i kno she doesn't like to...even though my mother has been a great mom/dad sometimes i do wish i knew him...not to to do the whole father/daughter thing but just to know who he was... you have the right to know, if you have the desire to know more about him then i don't see why your mother shouldn't tell you more about him...
2006-06-28 21:27:53 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure if you think your mother doesnt get upset when you ask ,then go ahead and ask.because there is joy in learning about ones father even if he is dead.
2006-06-28 21:28:54 · answer #10 · answered by aska06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋