What would you do if your mum read your diary?

Question

cos i think that it is totally unacceptable and now by reading my personal diary, my mum wants me out but if she hadn't read it she wouldn't know anything

and i didn't leave it lying around, i hid it quite well but my mum goes through all my stuff, don't you think thats a bit out of order?

Answer 1

My mum read my diary when I was 16 and was very shocked and angry with me, she got over it.
At the time I thouight it was wrong and that it was her fault for reading it.
Now I am a mum I feel a bit differently. Your mum was probably worried about you, probably you don't or can't talk to her about what is happening in your life and she felt that was the only way to find out if you are behaving in a way that will keep you safe. Sounds as if some of her concerns were real if she has discovered something that made her that angry.

I don't know you or your mum but probably you love eachother despite everything. You could say sorry for upsetting her (even if it is 'her fault' for finding out) and try and talk with her. I know it's really hard but your life is ahead of you, don't exclude your mum, shre probably knows best from her own experience and it might help if she shared some of that with you.

Answer 2

This is an age old problem. I as a mom like to respect privacy; however I don't know of a mom out there who has NOT taken a peek at the kids diary. So be forewarned...teens write diaries...moms read them....it is that simple. So be careful of what you put in them, and for goodness sakes don't write mean stuff about your mom. If you feel the need to write..then write and rip and toss out. You are expecting your mom to do something that no other mom does...we all sneak and read...

Answer 3

Yeah, she really should never had read that. And now that she has read it, she certainly take that kind of action. She does have the right though. Now you just have to deal with it. She should maybe talk with you about it, but not kick you out of the house. It will be hard for a little while, but soon this could just be a speed bump in the road. So hold on!

Answer 4

poor you, my mum did that. Mine was well hidden, she had to trawl my room to find it, then told me she found it while hoovering!! Such lies, but what could i do? She found out all the things she did not want to know, cried and made it all about her. On the up side, I'd been fighting with my friend, had to get out of the house, so we made up!! I didn't speak to my mum for 3 weeks, as i would not apologise and neither would she. I don't see that there is much you can do, as she will believe she is right, as she found out stuff. If you have somewhere to go, i would leave, but write to her saying what others have said re trust and when she finds out stuff her reaction.
if however you are on heroin and doing bank robberies none of the above counts.

Answer 5

Shes obviously read something she didnt like therefore she wants you out. Parents say that all the time when their kids do stuff they dont like or approve of. I would just ignore her 2 show you arent happy with her snoopong through your personal space. She might then want to talk about it or if not move in with a friend or family member, she will soon regret telling you to go!! xxx Good Luck

Answer 6

I would write in my next entry how I feel about her disrespecting my privacy....in a way that will make her understand...and not make her feel defensive. Maybe start off by telling her something nice- that you love her and that you appreciate her worrying about you ...and that no matter how unacceptable her behavior as an adult can be...you still love her dearly...and that you truly think that you deserve an apology...because it is making you wonder, if you can ever trust her in the future when you truly need her input and advice...that trust must be earned....both ways.

Answer 7

i would hate it if my mum read my dairy too. first and foremost, think why she is tring to look into ur diary - simplest reason would be that she thinks u r hiding somethin. second, make her feel as though u rn't - talk to her often bout ur life, stuff that r okay to talk to mums. of course they'll say u can talk nethin u like but there r wierd topics u ( we ) feel uncomfy to talk about. so talk to her bout stuff, school / college /work - however old u r. and do hide ur diary properly. does ur dairy have a lock? u can do that buy lock dairies and hide the key properly ( not in ur tummy, like in the cartoons - lol ) neway, best of luck. :)

Answer 8

I would be really angry with her but I would try to understand WHY she done it and I would tell her how I felt, obviously hurt, and sore because its invasion of privacy. Tell her you will be open with her and if she wants to know anything you would prefer it if she asked you to your face. Then I would buy a new diary with a lock and keep it in a place where she won't find it. I totally understand how you're feeling. Just keep in there and good luck! xxxxx

Answer 9

Well I think it's totally unacceptable sometimes my mum goes into my room and starts to poke through my stuff and one time we fought over a drawer I didn't want her to open, me pushing it closed with all my strength and her pulling it with all her strength.... I totally flipped and told her that I had the right to keep some stuff private and that if she didn't respect that then I'd go and look through all her drawers too... that stopped her!

So tell her to keep her nose out of your private business and you'll keep out of hers- there's just some stuff in life you have to keep to yourself.

Answer 10

it is out of order, but at the end of the day she is your mum and she cando whatever she wants while you live in her house, youmust have put somethingreally incrimadating in the diary for her to want youout,whatyou could do is have 2 diarys one for your mum too read and one that youhide