2006-06-28 20:15:11 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
most moms and dads tend to be emotional when their daughters (even their sons) decide to get married.
you don't have any other choice but to talk to them about it, but it has to be done with extra care and love... remember, they have been caring for you for 24 years. how would you feel if you loose your favorite pet animal that has been with you for almost about, say... 6 years to a friend who adopted him/her?
your mom is not losing an animal, she is losing a daughter. don't tell me it's not the same... you both will loose someone you love and cared for.
take her to dinner date and have a nice night together, then have another date with your soon-to-be husband... that might do the trick.
goodluck and congratulations!
2006-06-28 20:24:49 · answer #1 · answered by Ross 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
the magic of tuning 18 is that you don't have to live a life that includes your parents and siblings anymore. you are now living YOUR life. if you are going to let your mom keep telling how to live your life, you might as well just move back into her house and let her do your laundry and give you an allowance.
also, you should consider the possiblilty that the reason your mom doesn't like the idea is because she can see something inthe guy that you don't see just yet. mother's have been around the block a few times and while they don't always know best, hopefully they always have your best interest at heart. it might be useful to find out why she doesn't like the idea.
surround yourself with great music and good books.
2006-06-28 20:22:11 · answer #2 · answered by Catrina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't live with your mom forever, and for her to expect it means that she has some serious emotional issues. You might want to get her some help. 24 is a reasonable age to get married. I have been married for 12+ years to a wonderful man who has a mom like yours. It's been rough. I was 24 when we married and he was 22. You can't let your mom run your life, it's YOUR life and she needs to get one of her own.
The only way your marriage can work is if you, not your fiance, stands up to your mom. You have to be one to let her know that this is what you want. If your fiance does it, she will blame him for taking her baby away from her.
2006-06-28 20:20:38 · answer #3 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your mother and gently tell her that you are old enough to live on your own and start your own family. It's natural for your mother to feel this way especially since you are her son, but you need to remind her that you are no longer a child and that you need to be on your own now. Let her know that you love her dearly and that you will obviously keep contact with her at all times and that she does not need to worry that you will dissapear one day. Hope this helps.
2006-06-28 20:33:36 · answer #4 · answered by MedStudent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mom that you love her, but she needs to let you go to follow your own path. If you make a mistake it is up to you to correct it. Thank her for her help and support over the years and tell her you will always be ther for her even though you may not be around in person much.
2006-06-28 20:21:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
emtionally attached to you? let your mom know in a nice way..how you have found someone you trully care about and she should repsect that and be happy for you..let her know you will always be her baby boy and that you love her and care about her more then anything but its time for you to grow up and make your own life and your own family now..maybe shes scared of loosing you..scared of the day to day or the things you do...you know how moms are..we are there babies until we die..we can be 99yrs old and still be there babies in there eyes..if you cant tell her and sit her down get her a card or just simply write her a little note..tell her nicely...break it down to her..mom i will always be your little boy but i have found someone i fell in love with..and make your mom a part of yall life..meet the girl..have dinner with yall..so your mom wont feel left out..you see what im saying? your mom doesnt want to loose her baby...hope i helped..good luck! she has to let you grow up one day.
2006-06-28 20:21:29 · answer #6 · answered by Calendar_Model 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! I think that it is a normal reaction from a loving mother. You should let the time to pass, and in the meanwhile your future husband should try to impress her. She will get used to the idea that her daughter is a grown-up already....some day.....So be patient and patient and patient again!
2006-06-28 20:25:57 · answer #7 · answered by sandic79 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perharps it is not because she is too attached but simply does not like your future spouse....
Have a talk with her and find out...
Perhaps she does not want to be a grand-mother so soon...
Women have all kinds of different reasons...........
Good luck....
2006-06-28 20:24:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say go to your prince charming, get married, and live happily ever after. Mom will get used to it by the time she sees her first grandchild. Congratulations!
2006-06-28 20:19:56 · answer #9 · answered by webfly2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no mother would like her child not to marry. talk to her and see what exactly she wants since u respect her so much , c if her plans suit u. all the best. god bles u
2006-06-28 20:53:10 · answer #10 · answered by archer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋