Do men always be oblivious?even in front of the woman he loves like mad?

Answer 1

Do you mean are we people to whom you have to bluntly say what you want instead of people who pick up on hints? If so, the answer is yes. Even men who have been married for decades sometimes require blunt communication from their spouses who they adore. If you ever want to have fun & understand men better, find a way to listen to men talk without being in the conversation, even if it requires a tape recorder (recommend you not do this to a boyfriend, as you may get offended by something he says). I'll try to give you some examples of male communication.

Scene: 2 guys sitting in an apartment in recliners, watching pro wrestling.

1: "Dude, I'm getting hungry."
2: "Yeah, me too."
1: "Burger run?"
2: "Sure. I'll drive."
1: "Sounds good. McDonald's or Burger King?"
2: "Burger King. The Whopper Jr.'s are on sale for a buck each."
1: "Cool."

See, no subtle hints. Not once did these guys ask "What are you thinking about?" or some other asanine question along those lines. Everything was nice, concrete, & to the point. When it comes to conversation, we are efficiency experts. Let's see what happens when the guys get back.

1: "Which one's the Dr. Pepper?"
2: "Uh... this one. Here."
1: "Thanks. We missed the main event. I'll pull it up on the TiVo."
2: "Excellent. I'm getting some ketchup for my fries. Want some?"
1: "Sure. Thanks."

I know, these probably seem like off the wall conversations, but one of my best friends & I have conversations like this all the time. So, in order for men not to seem oblivious, here's a little communicating with males 101.

What you want translated into man-speak:

I'm hungry = I'm hungry (Note: when we ask where you would like to eat, "I don't know" is a highly frustrating answer that is unacceptable unless it is used to pause to think up something. If we didn't want to know what you wanted to eat, we wouldn't ask.)

I'm thirsty = I'm thirsty (Again, when the guy asks what you want to drink, do not say "I don't know", or you may regret it.)

I want to make love = I'm horny (Like I said, we're efficient communicators.)

I need someone to listen to my problems = I'm going out with the girls. (Unless you want to be presented with possible solutions to a problem, don't come to us. What you view as us just listening, we view as putting up with whining which serves no purpose.)

I don't want you to go out with the guys tonight = I'm horny (This one works for many things, & if you want a guy to not go out & have fun, get him to stay in & have more fun. However, it is recommended you still allow for time apart once in a while, even if you are rewarding him with sex for staying home.)

I want to get married = Can you believe the tax break married couples are getting these days? It's outrageous. I'm horny. (This is one time when tact can be your friend. Get him thinking saving money + good loving.)

I want to have a baby = Wow, this tax credit for children is a lot of cash. I'm horny. It doesn't feel as good with a condom. (Again, tact is your friend. He might not realize the tax credit won't even cover 3 months worth of diapers, since he's getting to hit it raw.)

Well, that about sums it up. I definitely wasn't kidding about the "I don't know" thing, so remember it. Also, don't ask us what we are thinking about, because it is most likely food, sex, TV, or sleep. Finally, if you don't really want an honest answer to a question, don't ask. Asking if a dress makes you look fat comes to mind. It isn't the dress's fault, it's the fat. So, be honest & direct to the point of bluntness, & you too can communicate with men. Good luck, & I hope you got a few laughs.

Answer 2

Sadly yes, all us men are oblivious and complete bas***ds in front of most women. Its a disease and im working on a cure I promise :-)

Answer 3

Oblivious to what??? Things around him???

Talk English!!!

Answer 4

Men are not always open minded.All women are also not open minded.In fact open minded people are few.One should open mind when only it is needed.The opposite also should be avoided:man or woman should not be prejudiced.
100 percent opened mind is like an open mouth ,any fly or insect can get into.

Answer 5

I think that rather than being oblivious, he may just be confused by the awful grammer.

Answer 6

Yes. Men aren't as open-minded as women are. You need to actually write exactly what you want/mean on a piece of paper, and staple it to his head in order for him to understand.

Answer 7

ESPECIALLY in front of the woman he loves like mad! what planet are you from?

Answer 8

Men havent got a clue and im not sure i have with that question

Answer 9

if " hi loves like mad " , no !
then one is untrue : loves like mad , or oblivious !

Answer 10

It's generally how we are, I don't take hints well, they have to be almost totally obvious. sorry ladies.