Where do I go wrong?

Question

If I like girl(s) I ask for their phone numbers - they give them to me - then when it comes to date they retreat or say that they aren't ready yet. What do I do wrong? :( This is driving me crazy. It happened to me several times so far....

Answer 1

you need to add more to this question..theres not enough detail to answer it..look at what you're doing..re evaluate yourself..what are you doing to make these girls turn you down? obviously you're doing something right in the begginningg to begin with ...it shows since you got there numbers..but when you ask them out it fails..what are you doing? is it too much pressure? are you asking too much? try something small..dont call so much..wait a couple days when u get the number..if you get the number for example on saturday..call them on Wed..and say hey how are you doing? have small talk..then after a few minutes say i got wash my car or something and say you will call them back...hopefully they sound intersted..let a couple days pass if they havnt called call again by friday and say hey want to go out to a movie or to eat or soemthing..girls dont like to be pressured...we dont like too nice of a guy..we dont want no stalker type calling us every five minutes..but just be nice to her..dont over due it..just come on like you want to be her friend..try that hope i helped..if this not the write answer you're looking for you should really elaborate on your question so you can get better answers..

Answer 2

These women are called flakes. It happens a lot man, just learn to get over it. But, good thing I read your question because I have the solution. What you want to do is make interesting conversation with her, make her laugh, etc. But, don't ask for the number just yet. What you want to do instead is get her into a comfort stage. Touch her elbow in a playful manner, or if you're in a bar take her hand (if she squeezes back that means she's into you) and lead her into a quieter place of the bar/club you're at. In order to build comfort, you must touch. Don't touch her in places where she could object. Now, here's how you get a number out of her. Tell her, "I have to go now, but what steps can we take to continue this conversation?" Then she'll usually say, "I could give you my number." Another method is to just say you have to go and walk away. Usually they'll chase you out the door if you've made them attracted enough to you, or say, "Wait, let me give you my number" When you use the walk away technique you are basically demonstrating your lack of need. They key is to have sort of a mini-date where you meet, but to still leave her wanting more.

Now, after you've gotten the number you'll want to call her the next day. If she doesn't answer leave a very brief message saying who you are, and tell her to give you a call back when she has a chance. If you don't get a call back within a couple days call her again and if you still get no answer leave a message saying, "Playing hard to get already eh? I'm not much for games. If you'd like to talk you know how to reach me."

Again, some will flake. Just deal with it and move on. Your goal should be to have so many numbers that you literally don't care if one flakes out. Remember, don't pressure her into giving you her number. This is exactly why you should use the two techniques I just described.

Answer 3

You are probably coming on too strong and that could be scaring them. Why don't you try asking them out to group outings with other friends to start with--so they can see you in a less threatening situation where they don't feel they have to make a "commitment", even for just one date. After a few of those it will become more obvious to both sides if there is any chemistry.

Answer 4

They are probably not interested in the first place, and that's why they pull back. Remember that you're doing the asking for their phone numbers. I know I've obliged guys before I wasn't interested in simply because I was too embarrassed to say no. Maybe give it a bit more time and get a better read on the girl before you ask...

Answer 5

Well do you constantly call them? When you ask a girl for their number give it a couple days, call her and ask if she wants to go out to lunch or coffee. When you call her and she doesn't pick up, call her back once again a few hours later but don't repeatedly call her over and over again. That usually scares women away and turns them off pretty quickly.

Answer 6

Well I might not know the exact problem but in a lady's point of view......may be u are a little bit too pushy........A lady might like you but they dont admit it immidiately so if they tell you they are not ready, they might not mean exactly that.....they just dont want to be seen as easy going so dont give up so quickly, keep going but while doing this remember not to be pushy...keep sending text messages rather than calling and dont send too many in a day. Try one in the morning and one in the evening......just say something like "jut checking if you are doing ok"......Dont sound so desperate. just behave like she is just a friend you care about. Goodluck

Answer 7

Take the time to talk to them. Ask questions, but try not to be to personal at first. Stick to non sexual, non offensive questions at first. This way you might actually learn what makes them tick.

Don't be too forward, but don't seem weak either. Find common interests and try to nonchalantly suggest something pertaining to those interests.

I hope that helps...

Answer 8

There's nothing wrong with you.Things like that are just normal.lets say these are just coincidences. But remember the attitude you showed them at your first meeting..it might have given them wrong impression.

Answer 9

dude seriously im from california and the same thing has happened to me. dude unless theyre like rlly hott or something leave them alone and theyll probably come to you

Answer 10

You are throwing the stones without really aiming it. Aim it properly then hit.