How to open up a 3yrs old?

Question

My elder girl is about 3yrs and she does not like to intact with other. Example: If she saw other kids playing in the playground, she will rather chose to go than joining the fun. Any suggestions? I even enrolled her to pre-schools and the teachers even told me she prefer to be alone than playing with others

Actually she had a younger sister (2yrs age gap). But they do not get along well as the younger like to 'disturb' her and tend to fight for my attention.

Answer 1

I am a preschool teacher and have a classroom of 3 to 5 year olds. It is VERY common for the 3 year olds to play by themselves. It's called parallel play (they play side by side with no interaction). Every parent of a 3 year old is concerned about this. It is rare for a 3 year old to join in. I promise you, when she turns 4 you'll be posting another question asking "How can I get my 4 year old to concentrate on things other than her friends?" Relax! It's normal 3 year old behavior.

Answer 2

My kid is about same age. This is pretty normal, a lot of kids want to play alongside instead of with other kids.

Preschool is good, but can also be intimidating b/c there are so many kids, and probably four and five year olds as well? Try a playdate with a slightly younger kid (2, 2 1/2 year old) at YOUR house, where she is comfortable and familiar.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Ur the mom maby shes just shy i have 4 kids all are diff my little one is shy but preschool broke that one of my boys went to per school and he sat in his cubby all day every day he had some other things to would not like being in stores would flip out people would say **** but he could not deal with all the stimulation he rocks bad temper well gos on but i got some help from Dr's he has aspergers witch is a form of autism but on the other end of it he has no meds but has OT speech Therapy works wonders hes in 2 grade but in math and reading hes at a 5th grade Laval don't push her just talk with the Dr's

Answer 4

very hard..cos i hv twins in same age as ur kid and they are very active.
maybe try to teach ur kid how to get along with the others by ur self.spend time where in u can play together,do some fun activities like singing dancing, watching children shows and going outside showing those other kids and tell her what they are doing in a joyful manner, u talk as if u r a kid at his age.guide her little by little emphasizing her the joy of being with the others.ur guidance is the most important anyway.

Answer 5

Sometimes little ones have a tough time socializing with other kids, its hard, eventually they warm up but it takes a really long time. Some times a kid is just a loner, you might try talking with her about it in terms she understands and ask why she doesn't interact with other kids. I wouldn't loose sleep over it, she'll eventually get over it to an extent.

Answer 6

I would speak to her doctor about this. It may be other issues besides being shy such as autism. I have a shy girl and it took two years of pre-school and kindergarten to finally get her more involved. She is a twin also, so it contributed to her shyness with others.

Answer 7

avoid crowds for now

arrange for a playdate for some parallel play first and in place she is familiar with like home; for her to get used to playing along side with others

then gradually increase the number of kids in the group.

Answer 8

Maybe you are not giving her enough attention?
Or you can try to do some activity with her and the younger sister together so as to bond them together..
that's what i always try to do with my 2 little ones...

Answer 9

Dont worry it happens at time with kids.

May be u gotta talk with her more adn explain it to her.

or may be u can give her a kid brother or daughter to mingle with

any way its part of life she will learn to cope with it

Answer 10

dont be panic try and involve her in some camp or activity kind of classes...something like indian dance class will be safe bet cause there will be other kids learning tooo..she is too young now dnt puch her.