When should one let go of someone they truly love?

Question

The relationship hits pot holes in the road at least once a week,one wants to talk about it the other just clams up,and there only little pot holes, should I walk or stay.

Answer 1

if you love her and you feel like it might work then try and sit and make things work but honestly you should try and make it work if you truly care it will show them that your there no matter what she could be testing you to see what your reaction will be but stay and try to make it work

Answer 2

A relationship is about more than just loving each other. Sometimes other things get in the way. If there is no communication and both people are no longer putting into the relationship to improve it, then the relationship is not a healthy one.

One of the hardest things is to know when enough is enough. Put a time limit on it now. Tell yourself you will try for another week, or two weeks. Try your hardest to fix the relationship. But both of you have to be willing to participate.

Both people need to listen with respect and understanding. Both must be willing to compromise. And both must be honest and trust one another. All of these things are required to make a relationship work. If your relationship has lost these things and it is at a point where one person no longer wants to try, then I think you should try parting ways. Take some time away from each other. It will be a healthy change.

Answer 3

Stay if you really love the person. What are the potholes? Is it something that bothers one of you? Who is the one wanting to talk, and does the other feel like they can respond without being criticized? There are always two sides to every story, then the truth. If you both truly love each other, you can work through anything. Too many relationships end when things get tough. There has to be a reason for the potholes. People can give you their advice or opinions, but you have to make the choice how strong your love is, and if you desire to be with the person. There is a saying, true love is not when you can live with the person, it's when you can't live without them. A.W.E.S.O.M.E. means always wanting each second of my everything. Both of you will know this is what the other feels and desires. Think before you walk away. True love doesn't come along often. I would like to hear your answers to my questions. It would give a better understanding about the potholes and why one isn't talking or gets quiet.

Answer 4

Well, it depends, do you love this person more than they get on your nerves? Do you feel the same attraction for each other that you did in the past. If it gets to the point where your rolling your eyes when she comes round. If everytime you guys get togther your'e fighting about something, sometimes things that aren't even worth fighting about, then you need to walk away. But never assume anything, have an open chat about the subject, where you've been, where you're at. Be honest with each other. You may resolve your problems that way. Sometimes not speaking up can lead to resentment, resentment leads to behavior change, which leads to more resentment. Trust me, I've been there. However, if you both have moved in different directions, you'd be doing yourself a favor in walking away if neither one of you is willing to put in the effort to make it worth. Never prolong the agony, it will only be worse when it finally goes down. Later bro, hang in there.

Answer 5

I think only you can really answer that question. But in my opinion, if you truly love someone; then search your heart and ask yourself if they would be better off without you or the relationship. Then you must truly love them enough to let them go if necessary...
An unselfish love is often the hardest to achieve but the greatest love to attain.
Maybe the "potholes" are just symptoms of something else and the way you deal with it is just a difference in approach. Counseling could make a huge difference in this relationship. It doesn't even have to be all that involved. Just a shift in paradigm and an opening up of lines of communication.

Answer 6

When staying is more painful then walking away, then you should walk. Life is too short to put yourself through this kind of torture. Love should be enjoyable, not described as a pot-hole ridden road.

Answer 7

i had a bf who never wanted to talk about our little problems. it was hard for him to open up to me, he broke up with me evensually bc i couldnt let him go - later he wanted me back and explained that he couldnt talk about little problems bc he couldnt open up to me. we were dating over 2 years when this happened, and we've been friends for 4 years before that. he was just the kinda of person who is hard to crack, he was nervous bc he never wanted to 'fight'.
i think that if you love her stay and try to talk her through it. find out why she wont talk - dont quit, make her tell u. ask her how u can make her feel more comfortable talking to u about problems that arise and remind her that u love her a lot and want to make this work with all your heart but if you can resolve little things whats going to happen in the future bc bigger problems will arise. i hope this helps out

Answer 8

Dude, you don't say which wants to talk, but I would bet she does. If one doesn't want to talk, they don't want to be in the relationship. Shoulda walked long time ago.

Answer 9

try to talk again tell them if they don't wanna talk about it u don't want to be with him or her communication is a big part of a relationship if u don't have that u have nothing

Answer 10

dont bind ur mate
let him/her free