A bride must choose between her loving and very supportive father, and her step-father of which she has lived with for the majority of her life, to give her away on her wedding day. Both men are deserving of the honor, how should she decide?
2006-06-28 19:15:58 · 29 answers · asked by Surrounded 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Why not do what my good friend did? Both men walked her down the aisle, one on each arm while she carried the bouquet with both hands, and both said "We do" in unison at the question of who gives the bride away. It was a tear jerker, and people really loved the way the men were respectful of her and each other in that way. It was impressive and a win-win solution.
2006-06-28 19:19:56 · answer #1 · answered by still learning at 56 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the men get along? If so they can both walk her down the aisle - the step father half way up and the real father can take over or vicer versa. It would seem chivalrous of both men to give the lucky bride their collective blessing to tell her how loved she is by both (father figures).
If I were the real father I'd take this as an opportunity to show my appreciation to the step-father for his respect towards my daughter (he raised her) by allowing him the honor of walking her to the alter. But of course if he was a scoundrel that took my wife away from me then the deal is off.
Congratulations to the bride - I hope the lucky man has as much integrity and class as she has.
2006-06-28 20:28:42 · answer #2 · answered by brian s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I've never liked the idea of the bride being "given away" by someone. She's not her father's property, that it's his job to "give her away". I really think that tradition should be done away with. If I ever get married I'm walking down the aisle on my own.
2006-06-28 19:28:48 · answer #3 · answered by stacyj913 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's "equally" close to both men, have them both walk her down the aisle. She could skip over the men and have her mother walk her down the aisle. Or she could buck the tradition of being "handed off like a prized dog" (wish I could remember where I heard that) and walk down the aisle by herself.
If she wants to be really "wild and crazy," she can walk with her husband-to-be. Hey, they're starting a new life together, walking down the aisle is a pretty good symbolic journey.
Bottom line is that today, wedding etiquette has really lightened up to take situations like this into account. Whatever makes her happiest and keeps the day happy is perfectly acceptable.
2006-06-28 19:24:15 · answer #4 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think both fathers should decide for the bride, it's a tough decision for the bride to make w/everything else...and I'm pretty sure they want their daughter to be happy on her day, and would hope that they could make it easier on her...
2006-06-28 20:16:47 · answer #5 · answered by dragon76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nowadays, there is no set rule as to who should walk you down the aisle. Traditionally, it would be your biological father. But, sweetie, I say if the aisle is big enough allow them both to escort you down the aisle. You are the bride and it is your wedding, accommodate yourself and forget what others say.
2006-06-29 03:13:19 · answer #6 · answered by Unique 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally wouldn't have either "give me away".... it's an old outdated tradition that perpetuates the older traditions of patriarchal control by passing ownership of the girl from the father to the husband.
2006-06-28 21:04:03 · answer #7 · answered by Lex 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think you should look at as many of the sides of it as you can okay the father is the one who brought her in to the world so he should be the one to give her away but i know as bad as it sounds and as much as she doesnt want to admit it she feels closer to one of the men then she is the other and i think who ever that man is should be the one to walk her down the asile there is the option of both escorting and i do believe that both can give her away
2006-06-28 19:29:39 · answer #8 · answered by Ralina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally it's the father. Why not be original and walk down with BOTH of them? Perhaps talk to them both and see what they think. Maybe have step-father walk you down, but dance your father daughter dance with your father.
2006-06-28 19:20:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How does the bride feel? Both can give her away. also, her mom and birth father can do it.
2006-07-05 13:24:12 · answer #10 · answered by Rock_N_Roll_Chicky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋