i have been dating the same guy, Chris, on and off for almost 3 years now, he was my first everything. I'll be a senior in high school this year and he's off to college. Right now, we aren't "together" but we talk every night and are basically still in a relationship, he just doesn't want the committment. In the past month and a half, I have met this guy, Bill who is the same age as me and we get along great, i really like him but i'm not sure what to do about chris. he says that he's scared of committment and he's lied to me a lot in the past, but i think that i still love him. does love even exist? we've had a lot of ups and downs in the past 3 years and part of me wants to think that we can work things out, but the other part of me is saying just move on already. it's really hard and i'd definitely appreciate some advice, no sarcastic answers please, i really don't know what to do.
2006-06-28 18:37:19 · 13 answers · asked by kkcoco07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hi well it seems like you are in a bit of a situation well the first thing you have to do is talk to chris and see where things stand with you too before you get into another relationship with bill, but first i am a little confused you say that you aren't together but still in a relationship how is that possible do you mean you are still friends, it seems like you are, okay well i think that if he doesn't want the committment now then maybe he will never want it and that will never work if you do and he doesn't you know what i mean and if he has lied to you so many times in the past then how could you trust him now, you probably do still love him but to be honest with you i really don't think you do because you obviously have feelings for bill, i know some people would say just move on already like you have said but it is not easy at all to do that when you are talking about the matters of the heart, but listen girl you seem like you are a really nice girl and you just want a really nice guy to love and i think maybe you have found this with bill, but take it slow, there is no need to rush it okay, i now from personal experience that everything happens for a reason and people come into our lives for a reason so my advice would be like i said before you just have to talk to chris and then just make a clean break from him he just doesn't seem right for you, if you have been on and off together for 3 years it doesn't sound to me that this is the right relationship for you, i know it is hard but you have to do it i think because like i said before if he has lied to you before he will do it again and again trust me he will, you deserve someone who will love, respect and be honest with you, he obviously doesn't so you have to just let him go, if you need more advice from me just ask i would be glad to help you, i hope i have given you something to think about, have a nice day and don't worry so much about chris it seems like you have a nice guy in bill, but remember what i said take it slow, you don't want to rush it
2006-06-28 19:06:00 · answer #1 · answered by mr a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still in high school most guys around your age aren't looking for commitments. If you break up with Chris what makes you think that Bill will give you what you want? My advice for you is not to be worrying about Chris, Bill, Tom, Dick, or Harry!!!
Date other people dont try to tie yourself down to just one guy that way when you are in a commitmented relationship you wont be wondering if there is something better out there.
2006-06-28 19:23:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice...Chris is away at college. You are still in high school. Break up with Chris and give it a try with Bill. It is possible to remain friends with guys you have dated in high school. I still talk to an ex-boyfriend from high school and that's been a long time ago. Besides, you've caught Chris lying before what do you think he is doing at campus parties. I seriously doubt he is being "faithful". He wants to be free. When go off to college you will understand. And right now you and Bill have more things in common than you do with Chris.
2006-06-28 18:41:44 · answer #3 · answered by deltazeta_mary 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i will inform you the certainty however the question is are you able to deal with the certainty? Now if so, hear heavily. Your ex is using you for convenience and convenience purely. She do no longer want the two of you, yet once you're dealing with something on your existence you start to advance into not sure, however the full ingredient isn't any one needs to be a lone. Now what you need to ask your self is, " What do she rather need from you". Now comprehend this if no longer the rest. Time is to short to be dropping, so confirm while you're gonna permit her waste it sluggish or what! Love is something you the two have not got a clue of, and until you comprehend what love is, everyone would be waiting to misinform you.... try this for your self so which you wont be harm. start up with being merely friends and don't rigidity the concern of a courting,,,, reason in case you do, then anticipate the worst. different then that merely have exciting sharing each and each others agency.
2016-10-31 21:47:46 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey girl, looks like chris is not that serious about you, you're still young and i think you need to explore. first find out and be straight up with him and tell him that if he's not interested in having a serious relationship then u are moving on. both of u are still young and are growing and changing faster than you think, you are not growing together than there's gonna be a problem.
i think you should move on and see were u want to go with this other guy.
dont worry, whats meant to be will be at the end of the day, follow your heart and if your mind agrees then you are headed in the right direction.
2006-06-28 18:45:48 · answer #5 · answered by cher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you know why chris doesn't want a commitment? because he wants to have sex with lots of drunk college girls. dump him before he dumps you and date this other guy, just give your self some time to get over chris before you do, otherwise the new relationship will be a mess.
it doesn't matter what you shared in the past, what matters is the present.
2006-06-28 18:44:33 · answer #6 · answered by vampire_kitti 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sounds like trouble..... well i think that you should let chris know one last time how you feel about him and that you are gonna miss him! and you should find out more about bill there are many men out there but there is only one that is perfect if you and bill dont hit it off maybe you should wait for things to come around with you and chris or just be yourself and the man will come soon enough
2006-06-28 18:44:33 · answer #7 · answered by sara h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, ask yourself if you really love chris.if you're not sure yourself then i think the answer is no. if you do think you really love chris, then go along with whatever you've got and if chris really loves you, he won't be afraid to commit. personally, i think you should move on. you've already met a guy who you can get along with really well and chris doesn't seem to deserve you anyway. good luck! hope this helps :)
2006-06-28 18:48:01 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. XYZ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he won't commit, you must forget. Get with the new guy and forget about the dodger. Besides, you really think this guy is being faithful wherever he is? A guy that told you he can't commit? He's banging someone right now and you should be too!
2006-06-28 18:44:12 · answer #9 · answered by pbuandl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on......Chris isn't ready, Bill probably isn't eitiher, and they'll probably be a few more before you find "the one" but you gotta kiss a lotta frogs before you find your prince....besides if you don't date a lotta different guys how will you know when the right one comes along?
2006-06-28 18:44:06 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋