oh this is tough.?

Question

my only love, a really special and intelligent male 26 in san antonio texas, has left many times over the past 10 years. He cheated on me, lied to me and basically it was somewhat emotional abusive. I know i did wrong and so did he. but we were persestant. we wanted us to work. however, a year ago he left for good. This past aprkl i made contact with him because i needed to tell him that my time had come. Facing a terrible battle of cancer, my options are limited and now only 1. I would do anything to talk to this person, but i know it would be emotional and very hard. I saw this male back in April and it was thes best day of my life, however, he had sex with me and then told me he didn't want to have anything to do with me. I later found out he had a girlfriend. Devistated? to say the least.. But what do you do when you are given a few weeks, if that to live. Is it worth it? I guess if it was he would be here right? As for the meantime, I live life as if it were my last day,

Answer 1

whether your days are short or long you should spend them with people who love you or at the very least, like you. this guy fits neither description and i'll add that he has no respect for you (and probably very little for himself.)

Answer 2

You are doing the right thing by living life as if it were your last day. No one can tell you exactly how long you have (I have a cousin that had a brain tumor and was given a month to live...this was a little over 3 years ago!).

Make sure to tell everyone you love that you love them. If you have anything you ever wanted to tell someone do it. IF there is someplace you wanted to go, go there.

It sounds as if you are not in much physical pain and that you are able to get around right now...then do it.

Under no circumstances should you try to make him feel sorry for you. If you want to call and talk to him, do it...but don't waste a lot of time on him if he doesn't want to come around. Try to find someone, doesn't have to be a male, to do things..fun things, with.

Live Life!

Answer 3

I think, in your heart of hearts, you already know the answer to that. Don't waste what little time you have left here on earth on him. If he's truly meant to be by your side in your final hour he will be. Continue to live each day as if it were your last. I will pray that you have the physical strength so that you can enjoy your remaining days but most of all, I will pray that you have the emotional strength to endure whats left. Even though he's been a jerk, I understand you still want him by your side. And if he's not, then thats when you'll need your emotional strength the most. That's what I'll pray the hardest for.....

Answer 4

No one can tell you how much time you have left...that's for God to know. Instead of dwelling on this man (who obviously is not worthy of your time or feelings), LIVE your life. Celebrate it. Take time for those people who care about you and have been there. Take time for yourself. Say thank you and I love you and everything important and most of all, be happy. I got part of this from a post on myspace and it applies:

**If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
**If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
**Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
**Allow your intuition to save you from heartache.
**Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
**If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
**Dont settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
**Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
**If something bothers you, speak up.
**Never borrow someone else's man.
**Oh lord! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
**A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
**Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.

Answer 5

This is really tough but I think it is best for you to let your ex-boyfriend go. Practice some self-respect, after all you'd want to go with your dignity in place, right? Why spend your last days with someone who does not want to spend it with you? I know it hurts and it is not easy because you love him but LOVE YOURSELF first. Why be around someone who cannot give you something you deserve. Surely, you deserve more.

Living your life as if it is your last day will be more fulfilling if you spend your day with someone who cares for you enough to know that to be with you is what they want to do.

Hope you understand where I am coming from and you shall be in my prayers.

Answer 6

You can only find happiness within. Love yourself and loving people will come your way. You have to be open to recieve what is good for you. Maybe you could look in the mirror the most honest, deep, true loving smile and say "I really do love you!" and smile again. It makes me feel good just thinking about it! Good luck!!

Answer 7

omg what a dirt bag, hun you do what ever makes you happy if he really means that much to you that you want to spend your last days with him tell him whats the worst that could happen, he could say no, and then someday perhaps feel like a retard for it. by all means though if i were you i'd do what i can to make peice with everyone i ever wronged, even the ones i didn't like and then make your peice with God.

Answer 8

Let him know.If anything it may help him to be kinder to the next woman.Life is to short for everyone and a person never knows when they are going to be in your shoes.If they did they may try to live their lives better.

Answer 9

wow...that is very tough.. but if u only have a few weeks i say do whats gonna make u the happiest

Answer 10

if he really cared for you he would be there for you.