I am really heartbroken about this and could use some advice, and a fresh oppinion?

Question

I'm15and i'm in love with a boy who loves me also(i know that we are young but i really do love him)would have been together since september except for his parents.They think he should be17 to date and we have honerd that wish.We are extremely close and tell each other everything.Every day he said good bye to me after school and we might as well have been dating but we never said we were or kissed or anything.This summer i was going to get a job at the same place he works(wich happens to be 4 miles from my house) but my mom suggested tellng his parents and they didnt like it.I understand that it may not be professional to work at the same place but as i said we have not done anything that his parents would not approve of. tht was about a month ago.

Recently he called me and told me that he had gotten into an argument and they want us to end the relationship that we have. I have been so afraid of this and im so scared im going to lose him before we have a chance, i feel like i have

Answer 1

First, I am very impressed that he respects his parents enough to end the relationship and be just friends. 15 is young and from his parents' point of view there son is growing up too quickly and doesn't need the added pressures and heartache of dating yet. They are only try to do what they, as parents, think is best for their son. It is their job to protect him. You need to understand and respect that too.
Honestly, his parents may do their best to keep you two apart, afraid of how their son feels about you and the strength of the relationship at such a young age but if it love and if it is meant to be, you two will find a way. Time. Just back up a bit, make it easier on him to respect his parents' wishes and show that he can be responsible, mature and earn their trust. You can still be friends, they can't really stop that but for now you have to let go and let it be. It will hurt but it's the right thing, for you and for him and if you have any hope of having a future with him. (Pissing off his parents will put a nail in that coffin really quick)

Answer 2

I am 15 as well, and I want to give you a fresh opinion. You sound like an honest and respectable person, and I will do all I can to help you. I know for a fact that your parents are worried about you. They don't know what is going on. They don't want you to go to far, and lose your virginity for instance. I know this sound really sarry and extreme, but it seems like the time for an extreme action. Desperate times call for desperate measures. I think that you all ought to sit down. All parents, you, and anyone else improtant that matters, for support (on both sides of the isssue). Talk. Talking has helped me so many times before. Are you real sure that you love each other even? Again, you are young. Most of the time, people think they love each other, but it is a passing phase (although a strong one). I once thought that I loved someone, and later realized it was a petty issue. However, if this is really worth it, and the love is real, then all of you should sit down, and talk (like civilized people, not argue like animals). To prevent arguement, from the start, state that you will all take turns talking, or (I know this is corny) get a "talking stick" (whoever has the stick talks, take turns on both sides). You all might want paper, so that you can refute the points brought up against you. Don't go in to debate though, because the parents are the ones who will always win (what they say goes). Go into the talk as if you want to resolve and heal; rebuild broken bonds, and build new ones. DANGER ALERT! The parents might end up disagreeing. One side for, one side against. If this happens, there will be civil problems (like lawsuits). Fighting...scary. Please make sure you state no fights from the begining. If you decide to do something else, that is ok too. This is not the only answer; simply my answer. This way, we all understand things from each other properly. Who knows, you might just come to find new things; about yourself especially. Do what you feel is best.

PS: Please don't do anything stupid like run away and/or get pregnant with him. That would be the worst for all sides. Best of luck. I hope it all turns out alright.

Answer 3

You are young baby and there will be alot more times in your life when you will feel this way about a young man.I think you are doing the right thing by respecting his parent's because it shows you have alot of respect for yourself,take time to know yourself and be patient and just wait if it's meant to be he will be there trust me things that are meant to be have it's way of working itself out.Don't worry yourself and don't stress yourself out about this,be patient and wait things out.Take care and goodluck!

Answer 4

Get him to find out EXACTLY why they want you two to not be in a relationship.

Coach him (drill this with him if necessary) how to GENTLY keep asking the question 'till they give him the REAL answer. Coach him to not accept a brushoff answer like, "Because we said so." That's not an answer. But he needs to say calm. The one who raises his voice first, usually looses!

Once you two have the REAL reason why they don't want you two together, well, I suppose you'll have to ask another question.

Answer 5

Sweetheart,Its just a part of growing up.This is not love.Just try to stop thinking about this guy and slowly you will come out of it.

Answer 6

I think they're being really controlling, and rather unfair. If it were me, I'd be really tempted to start going on dates with him and just hide it from them.

Answer 7

Right now, you are very young. If you two are meant to be together, and you are trly soul mates, be patient. Time will make you long for each other longer. Just be patient.

Answer 8

he tells you good bye every day and you are in love you are afraid to lo se him honey you never had him you will be alright