I'm interested in a girl who is afraid to be with me. There are trust issues. She is afraid of being used, and doesn't trust that I won't just hurt her and leave her. What things will help earn her trust?
2006-06-28 16:56:38 · 9 answers · asked by Joel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
By being honest and stubborn and even if that hasn't worked yet, it will. I'm sure she knows you care for her and wants to be with you, but there are probably tons of reasons why she just can't let herself trust you. Oh and don't ever threaten to leave her unless you really plan on going through with it completely and NOTHING she can say will change that. Especially if that is something that she fears.
2006-06-28 16:59:51 · answer #1 · answered by Rose 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You should talk to her and make a promise to her. SHe probably had a bad relationship and is afraid it will happen again. You should she what her last boyfriend did to her and assure her you are there for her and you wouldn't do it. If that doesn't work whe probably needs a break from having a relationship with boys. After a while she might trust you. Just be there for her. good luck
2006-06-28 17:02:52 · answer #2 · answered by Star and Moon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be completly honest from the get go and never make promises that you can't keep. You can't promise a woman that you won't hurt her because you really don't know that. you can promise that you will never intentionally hurt her. You need to move slow and take each day as it comes, don't push her to think to far ahead. As she becomes more comfortable with you and gets to know you the trust will come.
2006-06-28 17:02:12 · answer #3 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just always be honest with her, even about the little things. The little things add to be something really great. I had trust issues with guys before I met my boyfriend who is amazing. When he goes out to parties that I can't go to because we are long distance, he always calls me to tell me hes thinking about me. He doesn't hide anything.
Also take things slow with her physically.
2006-06-28 17:03:21 · answer #4 · answered by Sobelle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only real logical thing you can do is Wait...time will only tell if she can trust you or not. getting to know you and seeing who you are. but you can decide on what decisions you make in order to make her trust you. so just be yourself and make sure you do the right things. and she will see what you want her to see
2006-06-28 17:03:21 · answer #5 · answered by xbinary_dreamsx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and trust yourself. What needs to be done is that you find yourself and what is it that makes you trustworthy. People can only trust others who trust themselves.
2006-06-28 17:02:52 · answer #6 · answered by church_lady_with_a_smile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't follow her too much give her enough space and make her feel comfortable
2006-06-28 17:01:16 · answer #7 · answered by Shy Guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go up to her reassure her
2006-06-28 17:00:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
date her more to let her know you better.
2006-06-28 17:00:46 · answer #9 · answered by KghC_thegreatest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋