Me and my ex's new gf fight all the time,she threatens me phisically and i don't want that kind of stuff around my child,does anyone know about how if i can make it where while my child is visiting her dad she can't be there?
2006-06-28 16:55:41 · 16 answers · asked by Laura L 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Unless she has threatened your child you probably won't get far. You also need the money to hire a lawyer to push all the right buttons. You can pursue the threat againstyou personally. Why do you and his GF have any communication between you.
Also, if you make a stink about this, make darn sure you are squeaky clean in your actions, and always have been. Skeletons in the closet. Otherwise the situation may end up in reverse.
2006-06-29 05:36:29 · answer #1 · answered by Carp 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how bad the threats are, but if it isn't a big deal here is a process:
First, you need to have a calm conversation about it with your ex. You may not be able to have your child unexposed to her, but you can ask him never to let her be alone with your child.
If he doesn't agree:
You need to document each incident of threatening/agressive behaviour. You write down the time, date, threat, reason for threat, etc in a notebook.
Once you have three incidents, you right a letter to your ex (keeping a copy for your records), outlining the incidents and saying that you don't want the child left alone with the new partner.
Continue to document threats/aggression. Call the police if it gets out of hand and get a restraining order against her so that she cannot go near you or the kids while you go to family court and ask for an order to keep her away from the kids.
If your boyfriend creates a situation where the restraining order is violated, the girlfriend will be arrested so I am sure he won't violate it.
However, if she ever threatens you in a violent way, just call the police.
2006-07-05 21:19:16 · answer #2 · answered by baggyk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not really. If you could show that she was so bad that it made him an unfit parent you could have the custody order/ visitation changed. That's basically what would have to happen for supervised visitation too. The law needs to be more flexible in this regard. There are cases where women get together with sex offenders and even then it's difficult to get the court to make a ruling on it. Since the parent child relationship has been determined to be constitutionally protected, it's very difficult to do anything.
2006-06-28 17:02:49 · answer #3 · answered by Josh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on whether the visitation is court ordered and what has been set in place. Are the visits supposed to be supervised by you? Is the father supposed to come alone or be alone when she visits him? You may want to consult with child services in your area and see what can be done about this situation. Your child should not be in the presence of this type of behavior and it seems that you are also being subject to threatening behavior as well. I would call child services and see if something can be stipulated when she visits him it is just you, him and your daughter.
2006-06-28 17:03:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can take it to court , but you will have to prove she is not good to be around your kids .
you can always state to your ex that when he comes to pick your child that it would be better if she not come just because your child doesnt need to be around tension with the ex's gf. if he visits your child in your home , then you dont have to let anyone in your house you do not want to .
tell him he is more than welcome to come see your child , but not to bring her . if he does bring her you will not open the door .
chances are honestly if you go through the courts you will need proof of the way she is . the best is to start a paper trail . if she threatens your life , file a report with the local police or go to the court house and get a restraining order . the more paper the more proof.
good luck
2006-06-29 02:32:05 · answer #5 · answered by mick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your ex about bringing his gf during visitation. Tell him that you would very much appreciate it if he doesn't bring her along because her presence creates a negative atmosphere between you and her and that you think this atmosphere might affect your child. If he persists bringing her along perhaps you should request for a supervised visitation where a third party might help or at least lessen (if not totally prevent) the threats.
2006-06-28 17:34:20 · answer #6 · answered by Eunique06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is just your own jealousy showing through. You don't want your ex, but you don't want him to be happy with anyone else. Unless she poses a real danger to your child, you need to lighten up. After all, if you do something like that to him, would you want him to say a man in your life couldn't be around your child. It works both ways, and you might be causing yourself more hassle in the long run.
2006-06-28 17:00:04 · answer #7 · answered by tsopolly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You could put a restraining order on her about YOU (so she can't be there are drop off/pick up), but unless she's threatened your child, your ex can have whoever he wants around the kid.
Sorry.
2006-06-28 17:19:35 · answer #8 · answered by LadyE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only thing I can think of is supervised visitations. It is where a person has to be supervised by a social worker or family member of both your agreement. You could also try a restraining order that inclides your child. but you may need more proof.
2006-06-28 17:00:04 · answer #9 · answered by littledueceb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him back to court and explain your situation. That she is a bad influeunce on your child. Tell them that your child comes home talking about how they fight and you are sick of it and yes they will either tell him that she has to go when he has his visitations with your child or his visits will have to be supervised.
Good luck
2006-06-28 16:58:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋