My dad has recently been going to lunch with this woman. He says that she is just a work friend. Sometimes he spends a night at her house and doesn't come back until 12 midnight. Whenever he answers his work phone and she is there, he closes the door. My mom doesn't know anything about her, just that she is his "co worker." Is he cheating on her? I don't want to ask becuz he might think i m trying 2 but into his business.
2006-06-28 16:52:15 · 15 answers · asked by Im miss tatum 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i wud just go with ur instincts. stay out of his biz until ur mom figures it out
2006-06-28 16:57:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 3⤋
I like the answer thqt expresses that we all do bad things. This is so true, we are all sinners and continue to do bad and selfish things. This does not make the hurt go away, and simply saying that he should be forgiven does not make your heart gush with forgiveness. Yet the truth is, you have every right to be angry and you have every right to withhold forgiveness as the world sees it. I mean, it is not enough that your Dad cheated on your Mom... you also feel cheated, right? Justified anger and justified hurt can be as bad as unjustified hurt and anger, maybe even worse because there is no trigger mechanism that would signal you to know when , "enough is enough." Does this make sense? Truth is forgiveness is such a blessing to the one being forgiven and to the one doing the forgiving. Jesus said in what we call "The Lord's Prayer, (12) And forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors. (13) And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from the evil one. Do you see the blessings in this prayer, or at least the standard for forgving and forgiveness. That is, we are asking God to forgive us in the same way that we forgive. So in a word, by withholding forgiveness, it is driving you crazy, "figuratively." (Your not going crazy....) Since I don't know, here are a couple of questions that would be good to know. What is the condition of your Dad right now..., still in the affair? Seeking forgiveness from you/ from Mom? Still in Sin? How is you Mom... bitter? Forgiving? Note: this information may also be helpful for you Mom. Bitterness only festers and grows. It is the devils stronghold..., it is gripping. Prayer and forgiveness releases this stronghold. I pray this helps, it is a heart condition. It is amazing how one persons sin always spills over and causes so much havoc. True heart felt forgiveness through Christ is the only cure. A prayer has been sent ahead for you, your Mom and your Dad. Blessings! God cares!!!
2016-03-26 21:21:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family is your business and yes he is cheating on your mom. You absolutely have the right to ask/confront your Dad; it is his fault you have this burden on your mind and heart in the first place. He is not acting as a man of integrity whose first loyalty should be to his family.
But your mom probably suspects or knows and is too beat down to rise up.
2006-06-28 16:59:12 · answer #3 · answered by treeof knowledge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be but it could also be perfectly innocent as well. Chances are if things are seeming wrong to you, they seem wrong to your mother as well. I can understand being concerned but this really is between your mother and father. I know there are a lot of people who probably won't agree with me, but it's not your place to do the investigating. How would you feel if it were you and your husband? If your mother wears blinders it is because she chooses to do so and may resent you taking them off for her. You're mother is the only person your father has to answer to in regards to this matter...not his children.
2006-06-28 17:02:26 · answer #4 · answered by adagia27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is almost exactly how my dad's affair began awhile ago - he almost left my mom for this other lady, his coworker. I don't see how this is platonic if he is spending so much time with her. But then again, I may not see things from the other side because of my personal situation with my dad. Hope it works out for you.
2006-06-28 17:46:12 · answer #5 · answered by luckymamaof2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any married man who SPENDS THE NIGHT at another womans house is cheating. Either confront him yourself or ask your mom to.
2006-06-28 17:09:42 · answer #6 · answered by Z, unnecessary letter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be innocent. my father had a friend like that they hung out all the time sometimes with my mom sometimes not, but it really was innocent friends. do not jump to conclusions, if it really bothers you try to talk to him about it. let him know you've noticed he spends a lot of time with her and it bothers you.
2006-06-28 16:57:26 · answer #7 · answered by j_ardinger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not innocent. It's an affair. He IS cheating on your mom.
2006-06-28 22:38:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
since you are his child his business is your business and he is probably cheating on your mom but for you you need to prove it if you plan on saying anything...
2006-06-28 16:58:47 · answer #9 · answered by luv41anatha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweety don't hold on to this any longer its going to break you down, go to your MOTHER and tell her what you're thinking and let her deal with it and if she blows it off than you forget about it too.
2006-06-28 17:14:37 · answer #10 · answered by SANDMAN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't talked to your mom about it, do that first, and decide how to handle it with her.
2006-06-28 17:00:49 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋