just said yes?
2006-06-28 16:29:45 · 32 answers · asked by texastika 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is not wrong that you were trying to be nice, but if you r not going to be happy you are being wrong to yourself.
2006-06-28 16:32:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say wrong, in the sense of your intentions were good but I would say unwise as in the end and ultimatly he will find out that you don't love him and feel more hurt at you than if you just, as a good friend, say honestly to him what your feelings are up front. Explain that (if you like this person as a friend) you enjoy being with this person in a friend kind of way but that there is not any romantic or love feelings toward them. It is always best to be truthful with someone and if they are really a good friend they will and should understand that you care more for them by being honest than being dishonest which would eventually lead to worse feelings when you found someone else you really did love or he found out that everything he thought was true was just a lie.
2006-06-28 16:35:06 · answer #2 · answered by alagk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did not want to hurt his feelings - I guess that is a valid reason for saying yes. Once you are together that will also be an opportunity to set things straight in order not to make the person expect. Maybe plain friendship will be a viable alternative.
2006-06-28 16:34:29 · answer #3 · answered by Edgar V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its wrong because you are sending a wrong message. That message of spending time with him is letting him know you like him. Don't do things out of pity, guilt, or because you are scared or unsure. If you don't like him romantically let him know and stop sending the wrong vibes. Young girls and women get into trouble by doing such things. This is sort of teasing a guy and some guys become irritated and then date rape happens. Good Luck!
2006-06-28 16:35:56 · answer #4 · answered by amissybell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
erm.. I did that once. after a few weeks I ended up falling in love with the guy...
but, there are many things that could happen... so I would reccomend you to give him a chance... see how it works for, let's say, 2 dates. if you feel absolutely no chemistry then... tell him that it didn't really work out for you... but you can be friends. that's hard to say and to hear.. but it's better than having to hide from him or pretending you REALLY like him. =)
2006-06-28 16:34:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the long run do you really think you are sparing anyones feelings? After you go out the guy is just going to get his hopes up more...do you think he won't ask again. Tell the guy you would really rather not go out.
2006-06-28 16:33:01 · answer #6 · answered by c_schumacker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, because you are actually gonna hurt the guy more when you break up with him, the longer that you wait the more he will hurt.
2006-06-28 16:32:31 · answer #7 · answered by Bay Area Gal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its wrong. It will hurt him more when you break up with him then it would if you would have just said no in the first place
2006-06-28 16:35:52 · answer #8 · answered by jiswaycool034 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont like him because you think that you think you have nothing in common then its good you gave him a chance. May be you will end up liking him and will click.
If you dont like him because you just arent into him or dont find him attractive, then its better to be honest. Sooner or later you will break his heart !!
2006-06-28 17:59:24 · answer #9 · answered by CUBICLE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well..... I wouldnt. That would be leading him on. Maybe you should say "You know you are a great person,but i dont think of you like that". "Even though I said yes, I wasnt sure,so can we be friends?" Or something like that. HOPE THAT HELPS!!! :)
2006-06-28 16:33:12 · answer #10 · answered by PrincessM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋