My wife has really been packing on the pounds lately. How do I get her to lose weight without getting smacked?

Answer 1

just get smacked

Answer 2

Get a dog. We just got a labrador puppy, and now I walk her for an hour a day instead of watching TV and eating cookies. I have to, because if I don't, the dog's an overactive disaster.

Your wife may be doing some emotional eating, or if she's of a certain age her body may be changing and there's nothing she can do about it. Either way, she needs your support. Be extra kind and attentive to her and make sure that she doesn't have any unmet emotional needs which she's trying to fill with food. She could be depressed.

As a couple, both of you have a role to play in your lifestyle choices. Are you bringing home donuts and insisting on steak for dinner? Do you stay home and watch the game instead of going for a walk through the park with your wife? You could gently make changes on your own that would help her, like offering to cook dinner a couple of times a week and making new, lighter meals. Cut out the snacks and the fast food yourself. Do some outdoor activities together on the weekends.

If you're afraid she'll catch on, just tell her that you're worried about yourself, because you're not getting any younger and some of your friends are starting to pack it on. That's probably true, isn't it?

While we all want to feel physically attracted to our partners, I think that when you're really committed, that physical attraction comes from something deeper than just appearance. That is, when you see your wife, I hope you don't only think "Great rack," I hope you also think, "There is the beautiful woman I love." Your question about her weight should be motivated by concern for her health, then, not just appearance. Right?

Answer 3

Approaching this delicate situation takes skill and empathic understanding on your part. When you and your wife are not too terribly busy, (i.e. the house is clean, kids are sleeping), sit down with her and tell her how you really feel. You could mention to her that you made a vow to love her forever, and that you would like to spend as much time on Earth with her as you can. Express that you work out daily so that you can be here for her and the kids as long as possible, and also to defend them if it ever came to that. Now, here's the delicate part. When you stress to her that you have noticed an excessive weight gain, speak from the same standpoint that you want her to be around to spend your life with her. You want to see her healthy and strong. Inform your wife that if she needs time at the gym, you will watch the kids, clean up house, etc... Or, inform her that you will invest in a home gym. But caution here! If your wife did not excersize when you two dated, or has not excersized since you have become married, and has no clue what a squat or chest press is, then you may be in trouble. She will undoubtedly be extremely defensive, and may even cry. However, she knows that she is becoming a little fatty. I bet you see her in the mirror, trying on two or three outfits every morning, before selecting the one that makes her look less fat. Or, she always wears pantyhose, even with jeans, to suck all the fat in. Further, stress to your wife that you along with her are role models for your children, and you want to set a good example through exercise. Maybe if you two do not have children (I am just assuming you do), then maybe you could work out with her. She will undoubtedly need assistance in developing a workout plan, which contains cardio (1 hour a day, 3-4 days a week), with weight training (1 hour a day 3 days a week, with Sundays off). Also, she will have to cut the calories. Many women load up on sugary, creamy coffees every morning, sodas at lunch and dinner, and after they turn 30, they pack on the pounds at records speed, if they do not perform activities to turn the aging clock around. I wish you the best. There really is no delicate way to approach this, but you can give your wife alternatives that I listed such as, assisting her with a detailed plan to lose the weight, or helping her exercize. Good luck.

Answer 4

Putting on weight can be a sign of a medical condition. If your wife has been able to maintain her weight before this, she could have any number of issues from a low thyroid to something more complex such as underlying emotional issues.

Show her love and support but insist that she get a full check-up. Also, many women start putting on weight as they approach middle age. Whatever you do, don't nag. She's still the same person you fell in love with.

Answer 5

Here is how most men do it, "sweety, you need to diet, and a walk wouldn't kill you, oh, and while you are out can you get me some cookies?" No wonder they get smacked!

Your wife KNOWS she is getting bigger, very calmly ask her if she would like to change some things to help her with stress levels, and up her physical activity. Do you have kids? Offer to babysit while she goes to the gym or walking. Does she have a friend who is on a regular exercise program? Have her talk to your wife about joining her. Ask her to join you for walks, or swimming. Turn off the TV and computer and get out yourself, always ask her to join you! Buy her a wonderful out fit that is maybe 2 sizes too small(this one worked for my hubby!!) But ABOVE ALL ELSE, do not give her candy for gifts, and if you don't want her to eat it, don't bring it home, and DO NOT eat it in front of her! Don't ask her to diet and then want her to go to McDonald's. Be considerate!

Answer 6

Well don't be rude first off, secondly mention that you do care for her but you have noticed she's put on some weight and that you want her to be healthy so that you can share a long life together. Ask her if she would like you to help her. Offer to take care of the kids, if you have any, so she can go workout, offer to eat healthier meals and cook them with her. Let her join a weight loss support group either online or somewhere.

Answer 7

Is She on any new medications within the last 6 months? Or just resorted to a more healthy abundant appetite? Is she depressed, and eating for comfort? Does she talk about the weight gain bothering her any or totally is naive about it? In the latter case I would say you would get smacked, twice, both cheeks.

Answer 8

My suggestion would be something like this..."honey, you know I just don't have the endurance I once did, I get tired about halfway in the day. I'd like to join a health club, but I hate working out by myself. Would you consider being my workout partner?" This way you have not mentioned her extra pounds and you will both get the benefit of an exercise program. Good Luck!

Answer 9

You don't say how old she is, but, when women get stressed and upset tummy weight happens. You might think about telling her how pretty she is and ask her to go for a walk or swim if you have a pool (on a routine basis). If there is some way you can bring some 'Relacore' or diet medication for belly fat or appetite suppresant home? - Good luck

Answer 10

frankly, i wouldn't tell her she needs to lose weight. maybe take a look at why she is gaining...is she depressed, stressed...or is she going overboard trying to fix YOU nice dinners and going more for what you find appetizing than what might be low-cal and healthy. not saying it is your fault at all, just saying make sure you aren't a contributing factor. why not take a subtle and romantic approach...such as "honey, it is a gorgeous night, I really want to take a walk and I want my best girl with me..." you might be skinny, but I bet some exercise wouldn't hurt you either. the walks could become a habit...leading to other healthy pastimes you share together...I would respond to this a heck of a lot faster than i would someone telling me i was 'packing on the pounds.'

Answer 11

When you married her you did it for better or worse ...You should not be putting up a big fit . If she is happy then you should be too.
I am sure she will still love you when you start going bald or gaining that beer belly most men get when they get older.
Or any other faults you may have that she doesn't mention to you because she loves you.
If you wanted a trophy wife you probably married the wrong woman.