i like this guy (best friend) he has a girlfriend and she is 6months pregnant. they have been having problems since a couple of months untill now. he tells me everything about them. i know he has strong feelings about me too. because he has told me before, and we were dating a couple of years ago. well now i dnt no what to do. i already have a boyfriend and i love him a lot but i still have some sort of feeling about the other one. what do i do?
2006-06-28 16:18:17 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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That is a real good question. Maybe you should take a break with the man with child until they sort their lives out
2006-06-28 16:22:11 · answer #1 · answered by --- 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave that man alone! You have feelings for the other because you both have allowed yourselves to go that way. That man has a lady and a baby coming. You have a man. There are three other lives besides your own at stake, or should I say hearts. The baby doesn't know, but if you continue to "dip", soon you will dip in the wrong thing and it will create a fire that you may not be able to put out.
Every EX is an EX for a reason. Don't you agree? There is a reason you and this guy stopped dating. Let it stay that way.
As long as peoplle are already in relationships and they "outsource" to the Ex's for support and answers, rather than the one they are with, feelings will always manifest. BUT remember, feelings are just that---FEELIINGS! After those hearts have been broken, reality will set in and will you really be happy? Think about it!
There is a child at stake here. That child and mother will always be apart of his life. Are you willing to deal with that.
He only has feelings for you because you are there to listen, comfort, support and whatever else. IF you were not there, he would have feelings for whomever will listen, support. etc. Do you really want a man who has to go outsource for support? If you two get together and have issues, he will go and seek answers and other stuff from another. Then you will be hurt...viscious circle.....hmmmmm
YOU are special. You deserve a man who is YOURS only.
SO many get into seedy relationships and willing to share, not holding people to their responsiblility in the relationships. People just keep outsourcing, instead of facing up to what is really wrong and dealing with it. THey keep getting others tangled in their web.
Aren't you better than that? Don't you deserve to have a man that has real love for you?
You have one, but almost will give it up for a feeling??? Come on now....
Do you really want to be a heartbreaker to the boyfriend you have?? THen he will be hurt and hurt another.....depending on what kind of man he is.
You are better than that! KNOW this and leave that man alone. MAKE HIM face his responsiblity to that girlfriend he has. He tells you everything, but does he tell you his side. WEll he doesn't have to...he is living it. Oh you will get it tomorrow...
I hope this helps/
2006-06-28 23:36:13 · answer #2 · answered by L B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're both playing with fire. Only you are going to get burned. He has a girlfriend that is 6 months pregnant and you are considering getting with him? Doesn that show you what kind of guy HE is? He is divulging personal information about his relationship to YOU and straying from his girlfriend towards you. Remember, if he could do it to her, he could do it to you. If you are truly in love with him, I would give it time. True love will stand the test of time. Meanwhile, let him have his child with his girlfriend. Let them make a serious attempt at being a family, he owes it to his child. You shouldnt distract him right now, he may be going through some issues with becoming a father and you just might be making it worse. I would seriously lay off, find yourself a man who doesnt have all this drama and burden. If he loves you, he will find you when he has more to offer you anyhow.
2006-06-28 23:24:30 · answer #3 · answered by gypsy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, love is crazy and if you have to figure out which one you love and if it isn't the guy you are with you have to break up with him. If it is the guy with the girlfriend you need to tell him he has to figure out which one he loves. If it is you then you two should be together. As for the baby when it is born them two should have a custody agreement so that they can both see the baby. Now if you and this guy are together you will have to be in this baby's life and help raise it. ARe you ready for that?
2006-06-28 23:24:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this guy has a gf and is thinking about starting something with you, what makes you think that he won't do the same to you in time!?!? If you love your bf and he is good to you stay with him. There is ALWAYS going to be temptation in a relationship. You can always think what it would be like to be with someone new. Relationships get old, so to speak. Getting into a new relationship will be fun at first, but as time passes it too will get old.
2006-06-28 23:23:06 · answer #5 · answered by niknaack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to figure out who you love more. Dont cheat on your boyfriend i cant stand when someone is going out with someone and they like someone else. You either stay with the person you are with and forget about the other guy. Or you break up with the guy you are with and get together with the new guy.
2006-06-28 23:22:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please be the bigger person, back away from the situation so that his child will have a shot at his/her parents being together! Why would you want a man that would leave his pregnant girlfriend anyway...Maybe that would be you in a few years!
2006-06-28 23:21:28 · answer #7 · answered by macy5 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this guy is playing on you big time!! its called the sympathy syndrome dont fall for it and dont mess up what you have with your bf right now. those years ago when you dated you left him for a reason better remember it now before its too late...
2006-06-28 23:23:00 · answer #8 · answered by luv41anatha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont go out with a merried man u whor*
2006-06-28 23:21:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a popular saying so put it to use....dont leave the one you love for the one you like because the one you like will leave you for the one they love....
2006-06-28 23:24:48 · answer #10 · answered by CANDY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋