Sometimes I think bad things things that arent reality and it affects my happiness, and others can see that so I get mad, How do I control what goes on in my head? How can I stop from gettting mad so quick? I want my happiness back. I want me back.
2006-06-28 16:06:01 · 5 answers · asked by Katrina M 1 in Health ➔ Other - Health
When you realise you are not looking at the thing clearly and thinking negatively, stop what you are doing. Sit and think for a second about why you realised it was the wrong emotion for that scenario.
Then think of how you can turn that thought/scenario into something that helps you or the people around you. It only needs to be a little thing, but if you do it for someone else, expect no gift in return and be happy if you do.
This may sound a little sappy, but it helps train yourself out of that pattern.
2006-06-28 16:13:42 · answer #1 · answered by smelly pete 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your bad thoughts are about yourself, there is a written exercise you can do. Every day, write down 3 things that you can do or are, however they must be good things. You must put things down that are unqualifiedly good, and honest, such as "I can cook", not "I can cook some things, but not others. If you write 3 things a day, in a journal or diary - and some days write the same things, if you can't think of anything new, you will find out a lot of positive things about yourself that you are, or can do. You can go back and re-read, and see how good a person you are.
If you get mad for no reason, that might be due to low blood sugar (hypoglycemia). There is basic information on this condition at www.hufa.org.
2006-06-28 23:22:38 · answer #2 · answered by Pegasus90 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do things! Get your mind off of the things that make you mad - find other things to occupy your mind with. Take classes, redecorate your home, clean and organize closets/garage, wash/detail the car, read books, learn to cook (better), volunteer at youth/elderly/church/battered women shelthers/other shelters/organizations, meet new people, learn to sew/design, start a business...
Realizing you have this "situation" and wanting to do something about it is half the battle. What was the old you like? Find her. Be her. Just be her! Catch yourself before you start to get angry or display it, stop it, and breathe... Take a few deep, calming breaths and let "it" go. Then react like a non-mad person would. It will become habit.
If other people tick you off, you don't need that in your life. If you get mad because you don't trust your boyfriend/husband, accept that if he leaves you, you can live without him. There are billions of people in the world - maybe (probably) some better for you. It's accepting that you can lose someone and survive that often gives you the strength to be "nice" enough to keep him.
Peace always. :)
2006-06-28 23:23:28 · answer #3 · answered by cosmosclara 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This works for me. When you catch yourself thinking about something bad, close your eyes. Picture yourself in a 8 ft by 8ft room that is totally empty except for a bare light bulb hanging from the ceiling and a green closed door in front of you. Picture yourself walking to the center of the room and pulling the chain to turn out the light. When the light goes out, walk out the green door and close it behind you. When you open your eyes you'll start thinking of something else. Sounds silly, but with a little practice, it works every time!
2006-06-28 23:28:22 · answer #4 · answered by caparri2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the stress out. Do weightlifting, aerobics, etc.
2006-06-28 23:09:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋