I am a working mom of 2, and rarely get the same days off as my hubby, we are very close, but he works a lot, and I can't seem to get him to understand how lonely I am. I have to work, BTW. he commutes 1 hour to work, and works long hours, I only see him 1/2 a day 2 x's a week and he is home every night, but I am usually asleep since I go in early, and he goes in later. Any suggestions on how to express myself better, or hobbies that may be easy from home. I get so bored.
2006-06-28 16:03:58 · 17 answers · asked by petluvr 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
We work like this for our kids, so they get one of us most times, and their aunt when we are not home. My husband and I both had real rough upbringings, and we try to make sure things aren't like that for our kids. We are spoiling them, just providing. I could never cheat on him, that's not what this is about.
2006-06-28 16:24:32 · update #1
a couple of suggestions have already been mentioned about talking- but what about taking action- Hints:
1. can one of you two meet eachother at their place of work for lunch?
2. since he commutes- can you ride or take him to work one day and talk to eachother while getting there- thats 1 hour that neither one of you can escape from.
3. if you are both home at night, then one of you has to sacrifice a little sleep to keep your marrige going.
If you love eachother then you need to be reminded that there was a spark that got you together. You may have to set a time to date eachother again, even if it just to take a walk together holding hands like you used to. The time you invested in dating before marriage, should have taught you to keep investing in it after marriage- sooner or later all the other distractions in life will separate you two. Your kids are a priority, but so is your time together as husband and wife- the parents of your children.
Good luck- you both have to look for ways to be together as a couple. -> thats what started the whole thing isn't it? you two as a couple - first, then everything else afterward?
2006-06-28 17:24:50 · answer #1 · answered by texsun817 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off, you may want to ask yourselves a very important question that some people never realize is so importantl!!! Are you both happy with your careers? You may not think you have a choice, but you both really do. I would say you are spending too much time apart too..... this may seem impossible, but maybe you can both start your own business together? I started my home based business while working full time, kids in daycare.... hubby working f/t.... then my home based biz took off....I quit my other job, pulled kids out of daycare, now hubby only works p/t or on call and helps with my biz....we are together alot, kids and all...family vacations all the time. Whenever I get a chance, I spread the word. Again, may seem impossible for some, but if there's a home based biz you are interested in giving your all, do it!!! If it takes off, you're set :)
2006-06-28 17:53:22 · answer #2 · answered by luckymamaof2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no ideas for you, because i am in the same situation as you are. Although i don't have any kids at home anymore, I am still sp lonely for my hubby. He works night, I work days. I see him maybe 1 or 2 hrs a day, if that. He is sleeping when I get home. I cook dinner, he eats, then he is off to work.
2006-06-28 16:08:44 · answer #3 · answered by snovak49849 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all. If you both take any treatment that may influence fertility, secondly medications will and will make any individual infertile, and he would even have useless sperm, from a genetic disorder, your eggs could also be too thick in an effort to preclude sperm from fertilizing them, whatever would be mistaken. Also, if you'll take a look at having intercourse even as you're to your interval. It might appear ill however it'll mostly paintings overdue within the cycles, considering the fact that blood is flowing extra quickly. Also, earlier than intercourse, have a pitcher of wine, loosen up and either one of you do whatever to show the opposite on such a lot they can not stand it... then while you consider attractive as hell opt for it, that is while your hormones are flowing and your blood as good, so scientifically it must aid. Also if you'll have him preserve whatever bloodless on his testicles earlier than intercourse it's stated to paintings a exceptional deal...
2016-08-31 08:44:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, DON'T get a boyfriend!! Even if he understood your loneliness, what could he do... come to bed earlier? Tell him about the crush you have on him and maybe he'll get the drift. As far as hobbies, you can become a runner...he'd be proud of that and you'd both benefit physically. Try to take a nap so you can be up with him. Best wishes. Keep the good thing going and try to look forward to retirement...a long time off, but we all hope to get there someday..peace.
2006-06-28 16:10:05 · answer #5 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sympathies- two kids? I would suggest to get a dog if you don't have one? How about once a week you two actually set a time and date to spend alone time together. This will be necessary to improve your relationship. Something to actually look forward to every day of the week. Work is nice especially when you have mouths to feed- but don't forget about the other important thing in life- and it's spending quality time getting close all over again.
Good luck
2006-06-28 16:11:07 · answer #6 · answered by roxylee11782 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him about how you are feeling. You both seem to work a lot - but maybe you can find ways to coordinate your schedules better. Try talking to your bosses to see if you could get the same days off, sync you vacations, or maybe adjust the hours you work. Your family and your marriage has to come before work - maybe even consider trying to find a new job that would better accomodate you/your hubby's schedule.
2006-06-28 16:07:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well have u tried scrapbooking???
its a really great way other than a photo album to organize your pictures, and u can personalise it!!
you can do this on days you dont work or you have a couple hours of free time!!
and if you wanna re assure your husband about how much you love him...make one of you two that im sure he would love a great idea for a gift just to remember the good times:)
2006-06-28 16:20:07 · answer #8 · answered by the quiet one 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you move closer to his work so that his commute is shorter? That would give him more time at home. Can you change jobs so that your hrs are similar to his? Maybe you could work from home. It is rough when there are 2 working parents.
2006-06-28 16:10:23 · answer #9 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your husband should not work all the time. Go for a holiday just the 2 of you. do it yearly. If you don't take care of your relationship with him, you will lose him and your marriage. Your children will grow up and have families of their own and you will be left with no one. DO take care of your husband/wife relationship before it goes down the drain.
2006-06-28 22:43:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋