Do you think its ok for the mother to work and dad stay home and care for the kids, or should daddy be bringing home the bacon while mama holds down the fort?
2006-06-28 15:41:53 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Since the day my 6 week maternity leave ended, my husband has been a stay at home dad. I had just gotten promoted at work and have a good paying career. He is a landscaper by trade, and made less money than I do. He also had no benefits, whereas I have everything from 401k to healthcare and dental. He stays at home, does the dishes, laundry, cleans, vaccuums, and even makes me supper most nights (he's a great cook too). The only real "job" I have at home is folding the laundry after he's washed it....and that's cause I'd rather do it myself than have him screw it up. LOL. It has really worked out well for us. We've avoided the expense of daycare, not to mention having complete strangers caring for your child.
My family doesn't really approve...my sister actually called him a freeloader once. But this is coming from a stay at home mom whose abusive and controlling husband won't "allow" her to work.
If I could, I would choose to be the stay at home mom, and let my husband work. For a while I was jealous of the idea that he got to spend all that extra quality time with our son. But now that it's been a couple of years, we have made it work out well for us.
2006-06-29 08:49:02 · answer #1 · answered by tictickchick 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I actually got the opportunity to really try this.
The only problem was, is that he didn't take the job seriously. I still had to come home and do the dishes, laundry (sort, fold and put away) vaccuming, getting the kids in bed (they were at school all day, so it wasn't like he was taking care of them) and I still had to iron my work clothes (worked in an office) He managed to shower himself and dress and Oh yeah, I still had to do the shopping. Like I was saying, he mananged to feed the kids.
All too often stay at home dads don't take it seriously, and mismanage their time and don't get much at all done. And no, the kids weren't in extra cirricular activities. It is rare for a man to find satisfaction in a job that does not reward monetarily. However, I feel if the man can multi task and feel satisfied by homemaking as a line of work/duty...that's awesome.
2006-06-28 15:50:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-08-31 08:44:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is something only the family can decide. If the mom and dad both feel good about it and it's working out, then great! But if it's negatively affecting one of their egos ...i.e. the woman feels like he is kind of mooching off her and not doing a good job as Mr. Mom, or the dad is feeling like he's not contributing financially and it's eating him up... then it may not be such a good thing for them. But if it's working for the family, then that's great!
2006-06-28 17:58:21 · answer #4 · answered by luckymamaof2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't see a problem with it unless the father is forced to stay at home. I think that a couple should do whatever works out best for their family.
2006-06-28 17:15:23 · answer #5 · answered by lightning_of_judgment 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the people involved. Some men are better at the child care than some women. If the guy is better at it than he should be the stay at home dad.
2006-06-28 15:46:25 · answer #6 · answered by funlady6632@yahoo.com 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So long as the family members accept it and do not feel that it is odd and both the couples have perfect understanding the opinions of others does not count though there may not be many such instances which perhaps made you to find out the views of YA members!!!!!
2006-06-28 15:50:40 · answer #7 · answered by THATHA75 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a great idea. It just depends on how the mom feels about it too. But overall I think it's a great idea to be a stay at home dad
2006-06-28 15:46:05 · answer #8 · answered by Kate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok. If mom makes more money it is economically sound for dad to stay home to take care of kids.
2006-06-28 22:48:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that a man should provide for the family and the woman should take care of the household...but if it is not possible in certain families, at least there is one parent at home guiding their children.
2006-06-28 15:47:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋