What are you going to choose, the one you love or the one who will love you for the rest of your life?
2006-06-28 15:30:58 · 48 answers · asked by pasaway 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not at all. I love Jennifer Aniston. I cried when Bradd dumped her, and offered a shoulder to cry on. It would have been awkward if she had accepted, since my wife is a Brad Pitt fan and she wouldn't have wanted to live in a house with just one bathroom, and I'm twice as old as her, and I live a thousand miles from LA, but love would have conquered all.
Keep on loving someone who can't love you. It strengthens the soul. If you never marry, you can devote yourself to good works, like Mother Theresa.
2006-06-28 15:37:03 · answer #1 · answered by Stuart King 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just like a death you never forget a love you had that either never returned that love or fell out of love with you. The way you allow it to effect you however is under your control. To many people put so much into loving someone they actually began to define themselves in terms of that other person and when that person isn't there or leaves you feel lost and that the world stopped for you. You also have to realize though that You are special and independent of this person you love. Think about how many people marry their forever love just to have that be the person they hate the most in a year or two and end up in divorce. That is because things and people change. Have faith in yourself and if that person doesn't love you then count it as their loss not yours. Check out all possibilities with people that love you and sometimes you find that your love will grow toward someone you never thought it would grow towards. Good Luck and learn first to love yourself then realize that you can be independent and stand alone apart from this person you love so much and that it is their loss if they don't love you not yours.
2006-06-28 15:48:37 · answer #2 · answered by alagk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a bit of a false choice. You cannot chose how you feel about someone. It is a BAD idea to get hung up for someone who has obviously chosen not you. It only leads to heartbreak and is massively unfair to you, the other person and the person you love. If you do love someone, you have to be willing to accept that they may not love you in return.
But that being said, settling for someone who loves you and will always be faithful is also unfair, if you DON'T feel the same way towards them. It is in fact, downright cruel to fake a relationship merely because you know you cannot be with the person you really love.
So what do you do? You move on and accept that somethings aren't just meant to be. You love for the right reasons and act with the right reasons, otherwise the relationship/marriage can be destroyed or at the very least tainted.
2006-06-28 15:39:22 · answer #3 · answered by derkaiser93 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love for the rest of your life, of course. But, besides love...and it ain't all flowers and champagne when you're not a kid anymore. You still love your spouse but you have security. The security of knowing you can depend upon each other. The security to trust one another in money, advice and other "diversions" that may present themselves. The security of reaching out in the night and feeling that person there. Next to you. Breathing quietly. Or snoring as is my case. But anyway, that coupled with love defines..'the rest of your life'. Right up until one of you have to bury the other.
Ain't like ole Fido dying' and you put him out by the old peach tree...is it?
So choose wisely. Its a decision you'll want to live with.
2006-06-28 15:41:25 · answer #4 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one I love.
I've done it, and it wasn't hard at all. He told me from the beginning he'd never love me, so I loved him. Since I knew what I was getting myself into, I was fine with it. When I was no longer fine with it, we broke up.
It was good while it lasted.
But when you say "can never love you back," if you're talking about a cheating man, then back out now. There are innocent people (including many more people than you can imagine) who will be hurt and, no matter how you rationalize it, that will hurt you.
It's not just about morality, it's just common sense. Wrong can't come out right.
2006-06-28 15:39:53 · answer #5 · answered by LazlaHollyfeld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is way hard, it is very difficult to deal with, but if you know a 100% sure that the person u love will not love you back, then it is time to move on, its not bad to try and keep a friendship or anything like that, but what boils down to it, you should move on, it isnt healthy to cling onto something that wont happen.
2006-06-28 15:34:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd rather live by myself for the rest of my life.
It sucks being in a relationship when one person doesn't love the other. It won't work no matter how hard you try. You can never be truly happy.
2006-06-28 15:33:39 · answer #7 · answered by beth a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a 80's love song in the making
2006-06-28 15:33:33 · answer #8 · answered by Rocky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can never love you back why would you choose him? I choose a man who I love and who loves me,no other way.
2006-06-28 15:36:29 · answer #9 · answered by Linda R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one who loves you will take good care of you. Theres no guarantee that the one you love does the same. So I choose the one who loves me
2006-06-28 15:32:50 · answer #10 · answered by Giridhar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋