My boys are 13 months apart. 1.5 yrs and 2.5 yrs. They share a room. The 1.5 just went into a toddler bed 4 nights ago. Now all they do is fool around. It takes me an hour and a half to get them to finally fall asleep. any helpful hints? I do sit outside their room, i check on them every 2 minutes...any other ideas? and YES i have spanked them many a time, they just smirk at me. I do not normally have a problem with them listening, and usually one spank, or a time out is all i need. But this bed time stuff...I DONT KNOW!!!! ( and no, seperate rooms are not an option. baby #3 is on the way and they have to get used to sharing a room.)
2006-06-28 15:30:43 · 18 answers · asked by bangbanks72 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
great answers. but they have shared a room for almost a year now...i have tried putting one before the other, but that doesnt work either
2006-06-28 15:38:06 · update #1
and getting the crib back is not an option, the little one climbs out of it and i am afraid he will get hurt, in the middle of the night
2006-06-28 15:40:18 · update #2
, this may seem really simple, but i have a 18 month old and a 3 year old. I put the 18 month old to bed about 30 minutes before the 3 year old. that way the baby is already asleep by the time the 3 year old goes to bed, so they cant fool around
2006-06-28 15:35:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think they are very young. Your 1.5 yr old will not listen to 'reasoning' at this age. And good luck with the 2.5 yr old on that one as well!!
Why not put the older one down first alone! Then when the younger one is totally tired out, put him down. Another option....keep them seperated for as long as you can, my newborn stayed in our bedroom in the bassinett for 6 months to give us time to move to a larger house (three boys, two bedrooms! yikes).
Spanking is not the most effective means of discipline. Positive reinforcement has been shown to be much more effective. You could start a sticker chart with the 2.5 yr old. "Every night you go to bed and go right to sleep, you will get a sticker in the morning...when you have 3 stickers we will go to the dollar store (or McDonalds to get a fry or whatever would peek his interest).
Good luck!
2006-06-28 22:38:33 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you established a bedtime ritual? Are both children involved in this? I.e. bathtime, bottle, books for example? I don't think spanking helps to tell you the truth. Firmness in voice and establishing what they can't do when they are in bed is important. I've seen on one of those nanny shows that sometimes you have to bite the bullet for a while and separate them - can you put one in the new baby's room for a little while? Just a thought. Good luck!
2006-06-28 22:42:08 · answer #3 · answered by Dani Bo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What time do u send them to bed? You can try to put the youngest down first with light music on and then send the other 1/2 hour later....I have kids and bed time is just one of those things that you will fight about--even a tv to watch for an hour - doesn't always work--good luck on this one--but kids that young should have their own room if possible-they need to get used to the dark and being on their own-maybe the chat it up because they are afraid of the other falling asleep first and will get scared--good luck any ways
2006-06-28 22:39:32 · answer #4 · answered by jerry s 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think after the newness of sharing a room wears off they will calm down. Maybe you can put the younger one to bed a few minutes earlier and tell the older one he has to be quiet because the baby is asleep?
2006-06-28 22:33:47 · answer #5 · answered by zil28ennov 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put the 1.5 back into a crib in the same room, then at least he can't get out of bed. And you have to keep at it and EVENTUALLY they'll get into a routine.
1.5 is a mite young to be in a toddler bed in my opinion. I have an 18 month old and an 8 year old so I know what you're going through.
2006-06-28 22:36:36 · answer #6 · answered by Trent 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you have one of two options:
1 let them play themselves to sleep for a while till they are used to the little one in a toddler bed
2 sit in there room until they fall to sleep.
you need to do what you feel is right and take control back from your children.
congrats on the new baby and good luck with these two boys.
2006-06-28 22:51:04 · answer #7 · answered by evrythnnxs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My kids share a room also, what if you read them a book until they go to sleep or become very sleepy. Might be better than having a fight with them every night.
Its good for them as well.
2006-06-29 00:01:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try taking younger one to bed first then the older one or if you need them to go at same time try reading them a story before bed or spending few minutes with each one separately giving out hugs and kisses etc etc
2006-06-28 22:37:02 · answer #9 · answered by Colleen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
welcome to parenthood part 2... they will continue till they move out... they can't stand to be near each other during the day but at bedtime they bond.... make bed time a half hour earlier that way they may be sleeping within a reasonable time frame....oh an bribery is still an option
2006-06-28 23:11:18 · answer #10 · answered by Clyde 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋