Ihave a very will full 14 year old niece?

Question

and our family have dicovered that she is having a relationship with a 22 yr old bloke she claimed at first he was just a friend of a friends brother Which I found 2 be a bit odd cos when I was 22 I seemed 2 remember friends little sisters were a pain in the a**** now her friends mother has told my sister that she is dating this bloke my bro in law is all 4 going and giving him a good larruping as I would ! but I really don,t want my bro in law getting himself in trouble over this bloke until he finds out 4 sure but my niece will not speak 2 him about it ..................what would you out there do ? any one that has a bit of experiance in this sort of dilema please help from opinions from both sides please thanx

Answer 1

Well i don't know if your in Britain or not but here in Britain a 14 year old is a minor, a child, 14 is no age, 14 is a child and not classed as a young adult, this 22 year old is a paedophile and if was brought to justice in Britain would be treated as a paedophile, underage sex with a minor/child illegal and classed as child rape regardless wether or not the 14 year old consented to sexual intercourse or not. This 22 year old has to be dealt with by the law, do the right thing, he is a paedophile, at his his age any normal red blooded male wants relationships with adult women not 14 year old children, mentally there is some thing wrong with him, there has to be. They both may say to you and and other people who oppose them, that in there defence... they just fell inlove, couldnt help themselves but there are two major differences between a 14 year old wanting a 22 year old and a 22 wanting a 14 year old, the 14 year old more than likely got in involved with the 22 year old because shes at an age where she wants a boy friend and what 14 year would not want a boyfriend of 22 years of age who she finds attractive, at 14 shes niave, like all 14 year olds, easily drawn in, she doesnt want to be child but at 14 she is just that, a child, promises of love and a way of feeling like a grown up by being with a man of 22 is appealing to alot of 14 year old girls, 14 is an age where she is thinking she knows it all, hating her parents maybe, niave, to a 14 year old a crush is mistaken for love. A man of 22 thougth should know better, a normal man of 22 would never really be interested in a 14 year girl, why would a 22 year old man want to be with a girl of 14, knowing she hasnt developed either mentally or phisically, a normal man of 22 knows jail bait when he sees it and steers clear, this 22 year old can not be of sound mind surely, how can he honestly believe that he could ever have a fulfilling normal adult relationship with a 14 year old girl, if he does believe this then hes an insane perverted paedophile and if he doesnt truly want a relationship with this 14 year old girl and is just stringing her along for sex then he is again an insane perverted paedophile, do you get me he is a paedophile! do the world a faver and get the police involved. Your niece may for a short time resent her imediate family for this but in time as she grows and matures she will one day realise why he had to be stopped, one day hopefully in the far distant future she may have a child of her own and then it will seriously hit home why her family did what they did. Good luck. x

Answer 2

I don't know about where you are, but here an adult having sex with a minor is a crime and he could be sent to jail for a long time. If she were my child I'd want to hurt him, too, but going to jail yourself isn't going to solve anything. Perhaps having a "chat" with him and his parents might help. There's just something creepy about a 22 yr old man and a 14 yr old child... eeeeeeewwww!

At 14, isn't there some way your brother can stop her from seeing him? I mean, he is the parent after all. Where is her mother? She might be a better one to explain the "facts of life" and men to her.

Answer 3

I can tell you from experience that forbidding her to see the guy will only make her reach out for him more. Remind the prince charming that it is against the law to be with a person under age and that you aren't afraid to press charges. It will in no way endear your niece to you but it may save her tons of heartache in the long run. My sister is currently alone with her 2 year old son who is a product of such a relationship. Her prince charming fled with another younger girl and got her into trouble also. Good luck!

Answer 4

First thing you need to do is report this relationship to the police. It is against the law & the guy needs to be punished.
This girl also needs to be made aware that she has to abide the rules set down by her family. This can involve escorting her to & from school, only allowing her out when a famoliy member accompanies her, limiting TV time, setting chores each day.
I suspect that this child has been spoilt by a doting family. If nothing is done about this now it will only get worse.
Children have to learn to respect their families & , most importantly, themselves.

Answer 5

I would hire someone to follow them, get pictures etc..
She is not going to come clean if there is sex going on. You need proof.. If there is and your friend gets it.. 22 year old goes to jail. I do not think this 14 yr. old girl is going to give the bloke up.

Sorry to hear this... sounds unfornately like a very desperate 22 yr old to date and maybe sleep with a 14 yr old even if she was gorgeous it is just SICK...

JAIL BAIT

Answer 6

Actaully,yes me and my 14 yr old are going thru this right now,only i am taking this 19 yr old to court over our situation.Now i have to be a stay at home m om so i can pay more attention to her life,where she goes and who she hangs out with.Better put some rules down on her b 4 she is totally out of control.Good luck

Answer 7

My sister tried some stuff like that on my parents. They locked her in the house and put bars on the windows. My sister called the fire department and said it was a fire hazard, so they sent her to a foster home so she could see how the other half that she wanted so much to be like really lived. She was back within a week and doing whatever she was told.

Answer 8

i have a daughter who's 14. I would have kicked the living daylights out of him years ago and probably been nicked and ended up doing time for it.Now i'm older and wiser I would just phone the police and get this pervert locked up and wonder where I went wrong with my daughter then try to educate her in a mature and relaxed way.

Answer 9

That's too much of an age difference. She's not mature enough to understand what she's doing or to truly understand what love is. If you want to truly help her salvage her youth and protect your in law, threaten him to turn him in to ole' lawman and see if he still thinks a little girl is worth going to jail and registering as a sex offender for life.

Answer 10

She seems like she's in it for the attention, and that is exactly what you are giving her. i'd fine tone my discipline approch and striaghten her up before something unthink able happens to her. Plus she should stay with her own age group, if you're allowing your 14 year old to date!