Me and my guy friend, tht I have sex with, hadn't been talking for the past couple of weeks because he really disrespected me, and it hurt my feelings. He finally called and we talked about it, and he apologized for it. That's cool, but I still wanna have sex with him but I don't want him to think that I want a relationship, because before I kinda did. So, how do I do this?
2006-06-28 14:28:53 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dang I wish I were him...
anyhow just sit him down and tell him what you've said above, straight and to the point.
It's hard to have a long term lover and not blur the lines. Good Luck!
2006-06-28 14:32:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is that a guy or gay friend. I cannot believe that in these days of aids and HIV you are having casual sex, You haven't once mentioned love. You really should wake up and smell the coffee what the hell is the matter with you both WHY enter into a relationship that isn't a deep and meaningful one, its just lust. You could both end up with a disease that will wipe you both out. You obviously don't care about anyone but your self. You make me sick and I don't even know you, if you didn't want to hear the truth then report me go ahead do your worst, there are more than likely hundreds of people reading your question wanting to have their say...
2006-06-28 14:40:04 · answer #2 · answered by itsjustme 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing...and it turned out just the way I wanted it to. Just ask him how he feels, like what he wants out of everything thats going on between you right now. Obviously he either wants a relationship, or he doesn't If he does, you just let him know that you don't and thats why you asked him b/c you wanted to clear things up. And remember...if he says that he does want a relationship with you, then you CANT have sex with him. that would mean he still likes you and by you two having sex, he thinks he has a good chance at making something happen.
But on the other hand, if he says he doesn't want a relationship...then you get exactly what you want. You can tell him you feel the same way..then seduce him...enjoy...and afterwards, tell him you like it like that. sex, with no strings attatched. ;)
2006-06-28 14:34:17 · answer #3 · answered by algal1120 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me understand you:
1. You had sex with a guy you had no commitment to because you wanted him to make a commitment to you.
2. The guy who has no commitment to you other than using you for a sperm receptacle hurt your feelings by not treating you with respect.
3. He said "sorry" and now you would like to resume having sex with him but this time you want to make it clear that you understand that you are just a booty call and not relationship material.
whoa- this is really sad and gross. Here's my advice:
1. Have the guy commit before you offer yourself to a guy. You'll get fewer diseases and way more respect that way.
2. Command respect. Behave like a respectable person and you'll get more respect and less hurt feelings.
3. If he can't treat you with respect, and using you like a blow-up doll is not respect, you should not continue your relationship.
2006-06-28 14:42:45 · answer #4 · answered by theinfalliblenena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Straight up tell him.
I like you. I want you. I'm just not looking for a serious relationship thing.
Ok, maybe be a little less blunt than that, but basically tell him how you feel, what you want, and ask if it's OK with him. Put it all out on the table and let him make up his mind about it.
Honesty is the best policy with this type of thing.
2006-06-28 14:33:08 · answer #5 · answered by thisisnovaprospekt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you want anything to do with someone who disrespected you? Sex changes things ( even if you think it doesnt) and by jumping back into bed you are saying "its ok if you treat me like crap". BUT if its so good you gotta have it- then tell him HEY...wanna hook up??LOL tell him BEFORE the deed its a no-strings attached thing. Just so theres no confusion on either end- make sure thats what he wants too!
2006-06-28 14:34:43 · answer #6 · answered by ChrissyLicious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats an easy one because LOL all guys love sex as do many of us women so just be honest. let him know that you want to continue the sexual relationship and the friendship but that as a couple you dont think it would work. try that and see what happens and if it doesnt then hey there are more booty calls to be had...
2006-06-28 14:32:43 · answer #7 · answered by wildflower776usa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont. relationship's over so get on with life, why the heck do you still want to have sex with him? find a new boyfriend. Don't use your friend just for pleasure. Sicko
2006-06-28 14:31:33 · answer #8 · answered by stargirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you want sex with him and still be friends what kind of a relationship are you looking for? Any female freinds I have don't require to be laid to maintain friendship.
2006-06-28 14:33:04 · answer #9 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you crazy. Have more respect for yourself, for goodness sake. He's only sniffing around now because he's horny. If he disrespected you once, it's not going to get any better.
2006-06-28 14:31:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋